Now many parents generally have the following reaction to their children: "My daughter is as lively and active as a boy!" ; "My child is lively and active. They can't concentrate on the lecture in class. They can't calm down and do their homework! " ; "My children are more lively and not so rigid!" ; "My child is very shy and doesn't want to play with other children!"
All of the above reflect some unsatisfactory aspects of a child's personality, so how can parents grasp that childhood is the most important stage in a child's life and cultivate a good character? Let me share some of my suggestions and thoughts on this issue.
First of all, what is the combination of dynamic and static, combining rigidity with softness?
"Combination of dynamic and static, combining rigidity with softness" originated from people's summary of the characteristics of China Kung Fu-Tai Ji Chuan. Tai Ji Chuan advocated "four or two thousand pounds" to be soft, which reflected the ancient philosophy of China.
Lao Tzu said in the Tao Te Ching that the world is the softest and the strongest.
Zeng Guofan once said: people can't live without rigidity. Without rigidity, they can't stand on their own feet. Without independence, they can't make great achievements.
What I want to talk about here is a person's character, which is to borrow this word to explain a child's character formed through the cultivation of interest. If you move, you love sports, and if you are quiet, you can be quiet; It just means being strong; Flexibility means being able to withstand pressure.
Secondly, according to children's interests, what projects should be chosen to cultivate children's character?
First, pay attention to the cultivation of children's "dynamic" character. Here are my suggestions.
Children are naturally fond of sports, and sports can cultivate a quiet hobby, but it cannot and should not hinder children from being lively and active. Here, you can choose a sport that children are interested in to focus on. Sports can not only strengthen the body, but also help children to relieve the pressure brought by study, such as basketball, football, table tennis, badminton, tennis, swimming, running, mountain climbing and so on. According to children's interests and family's economic strength.
Through the cultivation of "dynamic" interest, help children cultivate excellent qualities such as unity and cooperation, hard work, fair competition, perseverance, perseverance in the face of setbacks and perseverance. These excellent qualities will benefit children for life.
Second, pay attention to the cultivation of children's "quiet" character. Here are my suggestions.
Nowadays, many children are active, inattentive in class, and careless in their homework. Whether boys or girls, we can choose a project that can calm children down according to their interests to focus on training.
1. For boys, brush calligraphy is recommended. It takes a lot of concentration and patience to practice calligraphy, so you can calm down and practice. Moreover, exams can add points, especially Chinese exams, which can play a better role in universities after work.
2. Suggest that girls choose a musical instrument. Practicing musical instruments also requires great determination, patience and the ability to practice quietly. Of course, it is also good for many parents to choose dance for girls.
In addition, both boys and girls should cultivate children's reading habits, so that children can calm down and study hard, acquire knowledge and learn to think.
Through the cultivation of "quiet" interest, help children cultivate excellent qualities such as calmness, composure, patience, easy concentration, good thinking, softness and easy to get along with friends. These excellent qualities will benefit children for life.
Third, no matter what hobbies boys and girls choose, they should stick to it. Don't give up halfway, change it often. The cultivation of these characters can also become a child's specialty, which will play a role in his future study and life.
Finally, children are not born with good personalities. Good character is cultivated from childhood, and character determines fate. I hope that every concerned parent can train their children to be useful to society and let them live an excellent, happy and happy life.
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