Every child's parents, when they have a successful career, also want to see their children grow sturdily and feel happy. Six-year primary schools can generally be divided into three stages: the first and second grades are lower grades; The third and fourth grades are the intermediate stage; The fifth and sixth grades are senior grades. The third grade is the transitional grade of primary school and the beginning grade for children to enter middle and high grades. There are many new requirements for Chinese, mathematics and other subjects. At the same time, the third and fourth grades are an important transitional stage for children's learning habits and attitudes to change from plasticity to gradual stereotypes. The third grade of primary school is an important turning point in primary school. As parents and teachers, we must master all the situations of our children and teach them in accordance with their aptitude. Only in this way can children grow up healthily. The third and fourth grades are unstable. At this time, children began to have their own opinions. As senior children, they are neither naive nor sensible. If parents do not handle family education properly, it may lead to the development crisis of children. What are the characteristics of children in grades three and four?

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1, the differentiation of academic performance

On the second day of the first grade, children can generally get more than 90 points, and there is not much difference. But after the third grade, there will be a big gap in children's grades. This phenomenon is called academic achievement differentiation.

2. Differentiation of learning ability

The content of senior one and senior two is relatively simple, with little practical content, so students can learn more easily, and there is no gap in children's learning ability. However, the content of senior three is obviously deepened, and students' learning ability is divided.

What I often tell students is, "It's not unusual to get a score of 100 in Grade One and Grade Two. If you get a score of 65,438+000 in Grade Three, you will be a really good student.

(2) Psychological aspects

The psychological characteristics of third-grade children are mainly manifested in the following aspects:

1, personality differentiation

The third grade is a critical period for the formation of primary school students' self-confidence. They can find their own value, generate excitement and pride, and have full confidence in themselves when being evaluated by others. Some children also show strong autonomy, self-assertion, high self-evaluation, and sometimes even "supercilious", which easily leads to conceit. On the contrary, some children are discriminated against by their classmates because of poor grades or lack of a certain aspect, and often have low self-evaluation and lose confidence in themselves. Personality is very different.

2. Disciplinary differentiation

Children in Grade One and Grade Two are more obedient, don't talk back to their parents at home, and listen to their teachers at school, so they are more disciplined. But in the third grade, unexpected behaviors began to appear, such as lying, making trouble in class, skipping classes, surfing the internet in internet cafes and so on. We call this phenomenon discipline differentiation.

3. Emotional instability

Due to the lack of life experience, junior high school students are prone to nervous feelings in unfamiliar, serious, conflicting, scary, restrained and accusing situations, and their self-adjustment ability is relatively poor, so it is difficult to release psychological pressure and easily worsen their emotions. They like to play and study with their partners, but they are emotionally unstable, easily excited and impulsive, often blushing and heartbroken for a little thing, and their mood changes greatly.

4. Lack of self-control

From the third grade, when students enter adolescence, they will have a strong desire to be independent and get rid of adult control, so their personality characteristics will also show obvious independence. At the same time, with the growth of age, their dependence on external control will gradually decrease, but their internal self-control ability has not yet developed, and they cannot effectively regulate and control their daily behavior.

(3) communication.

1, communicate with peers

The friendship between junior high school students and their peers has entered the stage of two-way help, but we can't share weal and woe. Their understanding of friendship has improved, but it still has obvious utilitarian characteristics. Their criteria for choosing friends are also changing, and they often regard learning as a sign of measuring people's ability.

2. Relationship with parents

In the first and second grades, children should tell adults what they have seen or done when they come home. Adults are unhappy if they don't listen, but by the third grade, the situation has changed. Some students don't want to tell their parents what happened outside, and sometimes they don't tell their parents what they experienced, showing their independent personality. At this time, parents' requirements for them have also risen from the standard of "obedient" to the standard of "good study and strong ability"

Second, the reasons and countermeasures

(1) Reason 1: Parents and teachers relaxed their requirements.

When the children are in the first and second grades, the parents follow closely, and the management of all aspects of the children is very strict. But when the child reaches the third grade, parents may feel that the child has adapted to school life and will not be worried as before. This is also an important reason for the split in the third grade.

Countermeasures: Pay attention and pay more attention.

Children in this period need more attention, sincere encouragement and enthusiastic help from their parents. As long as parents can guide them correctly, children will get through this period smoothly. If they keep their good grades this year, their studies in primary schools will be smoother in the next few years. On the contrary, if their grades in grade three decline, their foundation will definitely be not solid, and their future study will become more and more difficult. Therefore, if it is normal for children's grades to decline occasionally now, the key is still in our parents.

In view of these characteristics of junior high school students, parents are advised to spend more time with their children and communicate more. Psychologists have investigated thousands of students and found that children who spend more time with their parents are obviously better than those who spend less time with their parents in academic performance, ability and moral development. They should also master the skills of educating children and often praise them. Don't be afraid to praise them, they will be proud. If he doesn't reach the first place, how can he be proud? He will only keep improving. We must remember that when educating children, we should use our thumb instead of our forefinger. Of course, we should also pay attention to the ways of praise and encouragement. Be more energetic and less material, and try not to bribe children with money. When children are careless in their studies, we should promptly supervise and educate them strictly, and we should not let them go, indulge them too much or spoil them.

(2) Reason 2: Some children are lax in thinking and relax their requirements.

The children in the lower grades have just entered the primary school and feel very fresh about the school. The relationship between teachers and students and classmates has just been established, and most of them want to leave a good impression on others. And the senior children are facing the threshold of primary school graduation, which has caused them an invisible pressure and they dare not relax easily. Only the third and fourth grade students are familiar with school life and have no pressure to graduate, so some students muddle along easily and fall behind other students unconsciously.

Countermeasures: Teachers and parents should tell students the importance of middle school and let them understand the stakes.

The study of the first grade children focuses on the cultivation of study habits, including: whether they can go to school on time, tidy up their schoolbags, attend classes, finish their homework on time independently, and love reading ... The study of the middle grade children focuses on the accumulation of learning knowledge. After they have good study habits, they will focus on the accumulation of learning knowledge. Let's take Chinese for example. In the third grade, the composition just started, and many children backed out in front of it. A good composition needs rich language accumulation. Where does accumulation come from? Read a book! Several kinds of books that primary school students can benefit most: classic books, history books and teenagers' knowledge books.

Educator Suhomlinski once said that the way to make students smarter is not to make up lessons or increase homework, but to read, read and read again.

(3) reason 3: the child's foundation is not solid.

Although the grades of children in Grade One and Grade Two are similar, some children have a solid foundation and some children have a weak foundation. Because the contents of senior one and senior two are relatively simple, there is no obvious difference. However, after entering middle school, children with poor foundation will find it more difficult to learn, and their grades will naturally drop significantly.

Countermeasures: parents of such children can consider making up lessons for their children's weak links to prevent them from pulling further and further, and finally they can't keep up with other students.

(d) reason 4: the content tends to be complicated.

Children who have just entered school are superficial, intuitive and superficial. They don't know what thinking is and how to think. Teaching children to learn to think is one of the purposes of school and family education. However, reading books and doing homework seriously does not mean thinking. There is a lot of learning, memory and imitation in grades one and two, and children can get good grades by mechanical memory. However, even in the learning content that needs rote memorization and imitation, there are a lot of factors that need children's brains. If children don't notice this and still learn by rote, then in the middle and high grades, with the increase of the proportion of these factors and the deepening of learning content, children's academic performance may go from bad to worse.