(2) If you want to be upright, you must be upright first.
In other words, what parents ask their children to do, the children must do first. Only trustworthy parents can cultivate honest children, and it is difficult for sloppy parents to cultivate children who like cleanliness. No matter how you behave, how you do things, how you study and how you live, you should ask yourself the same requirements first, and then ask your children. Otherwise, let the children do this and that, but muddle along. How can children be willing to listen to you?
(3) Example is more important than words.
Many times, children prefer to see what their parents do rather than listen to what their parents say. Therefore, parents had better "talk" less and "do" more. What parents do is more important than what they say. For example, educating children to be honest and parents to be honest first is much more useful than telling the truth a thousand times and ten thousand times. To be a noble person, nothing is more important than parents.
And what aspects should parents pay attention to when choosing a good role model for their children? How can we help children grasp the "degree" of communication and find a suitable role model?
(1) Understand children in all directions
This is very important. Parents should be clear: what are the advantages of children? What are the disadvantages? What needs to be improved? What are you more interested in? For example, children's cleanliness needs to be improved, so that they can make friends with good hygiene habits as an example; Children like reading, so let them communicate with partners who have the same interest in reading, exchange reading experience in interaction, and so on.
It's important to know each other's situation. If conditions permit, you can learn about each other's family background. The influence of family environment on a person is very important, and children's friends can better understand it through his family.
(2) communicate with children more.
Generally speaking, parents should not easily object to their children's normal communication, but many parents always hope that their children can have more communication with "good children". However, children's standards may be different from those of their parents, but their opinions are also worth considering. What should parents do if their children don't listen to their parents?
First of all, let children understand that parents' starting point is for their own good.
Generally speaking, parents think that their children's friends are bad only because they have many shortcomings, and they are afraid that they will affect their children's study and life. Parents can fully explain their concerns and stand on the premise of respecting their children. As long as they are sincere, children will consider their parents' opinions.
Secondly, you can meet the children's friends.
Maybe you don't like your children's friends, but it's not good to force them to stop dating. You can invite your child to your home to get to know him closely, and then guide his behavior according to the specific situation.
(3) Set some codes of conduct for children.
Children's ability to judge right and wrong is still limited, and parents can't always follow, so it is necessary for parents to tell their children what to do and what not to do when they are with friends. For example, when parents are not at home, you can invite friends to play at home, but don't just rummage through things at home, pay attention to the safety of electricity use and so on.
(4) Encourage children to make progress with role models.
The power of example is infinite. A threesome requires a teacher. Because of the limitations of children, you are often better than her in this respect, and she is also better than you in that respect. Everyone has his own advantages and is equal. In this case, children can set an example to each other, learn from others' advantages, overcome their own shortcomings, influence others with their own advantages and help themselves make progress. Parents should not only encourage their children to make progress, but also remind them not to be influenced by other people's shortcomings or bad habits. Good habits are not formed, but a lot of bad habits are formed, which deviates from the original intention.