Have you ever taught children at the dinner table? In our daily life, children are naughty, and many parents will educate their children while eating. One reason is that they are busy with housework before meals and have no time to discipline. Another reason is that they haven't caught the children, so they can't come to dinner together. Hurry up and educate them!

At least in my sister's house, I often see my mother. My sister educates my little nephew at the dinner table, and occasionally I respond with a word or two, but I really have to think about it. This habit is very bad for two reasons:

First of all, table manners

Our nation is very polite, a country of etiquette. Many old rules are not observed now, but table manners are also part of etiquette. We can't ask children to be polite in other places, but don't talk about it at dinner. The most important thing about table manners is "don't talk when eating", that is, don't talk when eating. One is unsightly, and the other is that there are some hidden dangers.

Now everyone will do some communication while eating, that is, take eating as a social occasion to enhance relations. But educating children has nothing to do with promoting relationships!

Second, it ruined the atmosphere of family dinner.

Someone else's. I don't know. Little nephew eats at home, basically takes a few bites in 4 or 5 minutes, and then goes to the living room to play by himself. He basically won't eat well at the dinner table. Why? With the growth of children's age, self-esteem began to awaken and they began to have a sense of "face". It was a small mistake. You cursed in front of the whole family, and suddenly turned a parent-child interaction into a "public judgment meeting." Can you hang your face? It's really that the parties are angry from embarrassment, and everyone on the sidelines feels embarrassed!

Originally, eating together was a very happy thing, especially when they had their favorite dishes. Many parents' care for their children far away from home was a home-cooked meal! But if every meal is a critical time from childhood, and even if the children grow up, your parents still scold you when you eat, will you still expect family dinners? I guess it is subconsciously resisting participation!

With the growth of children's age, there are fewer and fewer opportunities for parents and children to communicate and reunite with each other when they go to college, work and get married. At the moment of reunion, a reunion dinner is the most harmonious opportunity for emotional exchange. In China, everyone knows the weight of reunion dinner. Maybe this is the beginning of destroying family relations!