0 1 principle of combining leniency with strictness
Educate children to "temper justice with mercy". Remember, criticism is stepping on the brakes, appreciation is stepping on the accelerator. Criticizing children is to prevent them from making the same mistake again, not to make their mood worse. Our parents often like to force their children to say when criticizing, how many names and points will you give me next time? Or what? What? Wait a minute. Parents should know that coercion can achieve your goal at most, but it is impossible to exceed it, and sometimes it will go to the opposite side. Criticizing children blindly will only reduce learning efficiency, while proper praise will make children full of confidence in learning, so criticism should be combined with appreciation to get twice the result with half the effort. Many parents think that criticizing education appreciation is not education, which is a misunderstanding of education.
The principle of loving without drowning
Educating children to love rather than drown, many spoiled children are unsuccessful, and some parents don't want to see the result, which is the inevitable result of a long-term accumulation of doting behavior.
To love without drowning, parents should first treat their children's needs correctly. Children's needs should be analyzed in detail, based on the actual economic situation of the family and the physical and mental health of the children, and they should not be obedient and responsive. Overmeeting children's needs will easily lead to children's excessive desires and develop more and more greedy habits. Secondly, the reasonable requirements for children should be met as much as possible under family circumstances.
The principle of the unity of example teaching and writing teaching.
In the process of educating children, parents should not only be good at using reasonable methods, but also set an example for their children with their own actions, that is, they should pay attention to both words and deeds, so as to unify the two and achieve good educational results. In family education, parents' ideological and moral character and behavior habits play a subtle role in children. Children should not only listen to their parents' reasonable education, but also pay attention to their parents' words and deeds and every move. Therefore, parents' ideological and moral character and behavior habits have great influence on children's development and growth.
The principle of mutual respect
Respect is mutual. Parents respect their children, and children will respect their parents, and they will really listen to their correct suggestions and teachings. A really good education is "let roses grow into roses and pine trees grow into pine trees". On the premise of not violating the basic principles, parents should respect their children's growth direction, explore his bright spots, his hobbies and respect him. Let the child be who he really is, not what he is expected to be.
05 freedom principle
Under the premise of not violating the principle, some things can be chosen by children themselves, but the consequences must be borne by themselves. Many parents are very strict with their children, but they are often thankless and even cause tragedy. We should believe in children's ability, guide them correctly, and give them room for free development.
In a word, the purpose of family education should be to maximize the gains of the educated, not to let parents vent their emotions to the maximum extent. Parents should understand the characteristics of some children's growth and development and master some basic principles of family education, so as to educate their children to be handy and receive harmonious family relations while receiving their children to grow into talents.