Parents' experience in the education of children's frustration shows that children's growth is greatly influenced by the environment. It is relatively easy to cultivate children's ability in early childhood, and the baby's emotional cognition is still in its infancy. Now share parents' experience in educating children's frustration.
Parents' Experience of Early Childhood Frustration Education 1 Experience of Early Childhood Frustration Education 1
Nowadays, children are living in the oxygen of their parents, with clothes to reach out and food to open their mouths. Parents are afraid that their children will be hurt, everything will be replaced, and even their children will be deprived of the right to deal with problems, so many children will be at a loss when they encounter difficulties and don't know what to do. Such children lack self-confidence, can't solve problems well, and can't adjust themselves well. On the other hand, the appreciation education of children's parents makes children have no chance to bear setbacks, and they are not ready to bear setbacks. As the child grows older, it will still be like this, and the child will not adjust himself well. The only way for children to solve problems is to cry or lose their temper. He knows that his parents will come to help him, which is not conducive to the growth of his children. Appreciation education and incentive education are certainly good, but blindly exaggerating children's advantages and ignoring children's shortcomings will easily lead to children's endurance and problem-solving ability becoming extremely poor over time.
When dealing with children, there will be extreme actions when encountering difficult problems. He doesn't know how to adjust his emotions. Therefore, children can receive more appreciation and encouragement education in small classes, but it is necessary for children in middle classes and large classes to receive appropriate frustration education. Only in this way can children learn how to face setbacks, failures and difficulties in the process of slowly suffering setbacks, thus improving their ability to solve problems. Only when they gradually learn to adjust themselves and have strong psychological endurance can they face difficulties with a positive attitude and a strong will. Therefore, having good self-regulation ability is conducive to children to form good psychological qualities such as liveliness, cheerfulness, self-confidence and enterprising, reduce unnecessary psychological burden, and thus achieve physical and mental health and harmonious development, which is of extraordinary significance to their future adaptation to society. Because the ability of self-regulation is not learned suddenly after growing up, but gradually formed in the process of experiencing various difficulties, dangers, setbacks and failures, it is necessary to consciously guide and educate children to gradually learn how to adjust themselves effectively when encountering difficulties and failures.
Looking back at the middle class, children's abilities in all aspects have been greatly improved. Since entering the large class, parents have enrolled their children in many small classes, such as dance, art, music, Montessori mathematics, guzheng and so on. In order to enhance their ability, the children with strong ability in our class dare not express themselves because they have no self-confidence. The children with strong ability have never experienced setbacks and can't listen to a criticism because they have always appreciated education. These children can't adapt to class life well because they don't have good self-regulation ability. In the important age stage of the big class, our class aims at this phenomenon and helps children cultivate good self-regulation ability from two aspects: self-confidence cultivation and frustration education. Are you ready, son?
Children's frustration education experience II
In the process of growing up, children will not only have happy creativity, but also encounter various setbacks, which is called "hitting a nail". Psychologically speaking, it is "an emotional state when individuals engage in purposeful activities are hindered or interfered", and frustration is one of the contents of life independent of human will. Things in the world are often like this: before you get the result, taste the bitter fruit first; If you don't pay for your ambition, you will fail first. Rejecting setbacks is tantamount to rejecting success. If you receive positive frustration education from an early age, you will straighten out your frustration and open a mind that can accommodate you. If there is no positive frustration education in childhood, when you grow up, you will encounter setbacks such as failing in the college entrance examination and unknown recruitment, and a "life crisis" will break out.
Nowadays, many only-child parents only pay attention to their children's academic performance, food, clothing, housing and transportation. , while ignoring the children's independent living ability, hard work and the spirit of challenging difficulties. These "spiritual things" are necessary to adapt to the rapid development of society and cultivate cross-century talents, as well as their psychological development; Therefore, we should attach importance to frustration education.
First, true perception and meticulous guidance, exercise children's anti-frustration personality.
1, children's correct cognition and understanding of frustration is the key to frustration education and the first step for us to carry out frustration education. Children are still young, and their understanding of things is concrete. When we educate our children about setbacks, we can provide them with some film and television works, or personal experiences of parents and teachers, or even short stories of children around us who have succeeded through failure. Through these real and sensible facts, children can intuitively understand the development process of things, truly perceive setbacks, experience the ups and downs of life and have a preliminary understanding of setbacks. Only by letting children fully feel setbacks and correctly understand setbacks can they overcome difficulties.
2. Children's frustration education should break their dependence. As educators, children should be given the opportunity to face the reality and let them realize that success depends on their own efforts. Once, if playing ball in my class was not enough, I invited Niu Niu, who has always been timid, to borrow it from another class. She seemed a little timid at that time, but she went anyway. I glanced at the little guy out of the corner of my eye and saw her go straight to the next class. Near the door, Niu Niu finally couldn't help looking for me. Seeing her almost flinching, I deliberately turned away and pretended not to see it. Xu teacher greeted Niu Niu with a big smile. She hesitated for a while, and finally got up the courage to say that she wanted to borrow the ball. She laughed when she gave me the borrowed ball. I didn't expect her to dare to talk to people at ordinary times, but she also helped the teacher do something today. I patted Niu Niu on the head, then gave her a thumbs-up and gave her a big compliment. Whether it is happiness, disappointment or pain, let the children experience it themselves. Children are children after all. They will do something wrong and say the wrong thing. It doesn't matter. We must tell them that people always make such mistakes when they are young. Even famous scientists often make mistakes when they are young. They will also encounter failures and setbacks, such as Edison and Einstein ... When they encounter difficulties and failures, it is very important to find a solution to the problem. Only in this way can children have enough ability to face all kinds of challenges in the future and adapt to the ever-changing times.
Second, create situations to provide opportunities and use some difficult situations to train children.
Children's activities are limited, and many setbacks are not often encountered in real life. Educators should pay attention to consciously creating some situations and opportunities while using natural scenes for frustration education, so that children can get various exercises. In order to improve children's ability to withstand setbacks, we can set up different difficult situations, so that children can gradually undergo tempering and purposefully cultivate their frustration tolerance. For example, hiking, labor, competition, criticism, delaying satisfaction and other activities and means can exercise children's will and enhance their adaptability to harsh environments and their ability to cope with failures and blows.
Games are children's most basic and favorite activities, and children can easily accept and master the methods to overcome setbacks in game activities. In the game, you can set up some artificial obstacles for children to solve themselves ... for example, children can go to the darkroom to get things; What should I do if I have a problem with my child? In outdoor games, children are guided to climb obstacles on the "single-plank bridge". In role games, children can be arranged to play excluded and excluded roles in interpersonal conflicts, so that they can experience different psychological feelings and guide them to analyze the causes of conflicts and find ways and methods to solve problems.
In daily life, we can also create some frustration situations, such as: hiding children's favorite toys and encouraging them to find them themselves;
Third, set an example to enhance confidence and establish the belief that children will win.
Children's thinking is intuitive, and lively images are often more likely to impress children. Therefore, we should be good at using those living examples in life to educate children and set an example. For example, in daily life, children often fall and get scratched. At this time, as a teacher, you should try to say to your child calmly: "It doesn't matter, the teacher will go to the clinic with you to clean up. Just pay attention next time." Or say, "Never mind, it will be all right soon." The teacher's behavior gave the child a good hint, so that the child naturally learned how to calmly deal with setbacks and how to face the future bravely.
In addition, teachers and parents should set an example for their children with their own actions and educate them to face difficulties and challenges bravely. When the game takes the "single-plank bridge", Tintin will say, "Teacher, I'm afraid I won't go". Then I said, "Don't be afraid, you can do it. If you can walk there, you can do well. " Or "I believe you will be as brave as Zhang Xin." In this way, under the power of example, children will become more and more confident and brave, and increase their confidence in overcoming difficulties. At this time, my "that's very kind of you" will become a child's "I'm very kind".
Fourth, create opportunities for children to communicate with their peers.
Communicating with peers can help children find different views from themselves, so as to better understand others and themselves and overcome self-centeredness. In peer groups, children often experience some setbacks, such as disagreement and submission to the position of being led. In this way, he must learn how to get along and cooperate in constant tempering, so as to better maintain his position among his peers, and this tempering will help improve the children's frustration tolerance. In addition, mutual communication and guidance between peers can also help children overcome difficulties and solve problems better.
In short, teaching children to face setbacks and overcome them is not achieved overnight, nor is it a deliberate pursuit of success. The key is to let nature take its course and conform to the law of children's development. Cultivate children's ability to withstand setbacks in life. What children can do independently must be done independently and persistently. Any indulgence and accommodation will cause children's dependent thoughts, so children should know setbacks in experience and learn the skills to overcome difficulties and setbacks.
Five, grasp the appropriate problems that should be paid attention to in frustration education.
When children encounter difficulties and failures, they often have negative emotions, which are manifested as shrinking, shrinking and escaping. Therefore, as we should consciously design some difficult tasks in peacetime, let the children complete them in one jump. When children retreat from difficulties, they can have some criticisms to improve their psychological endurance, instead of being unwilling to make a correct evaluation of their behavior because they can't bear to be wronged. Of course, when children suffer setbacks, we still need to give them appropriate encouragement and give them the courage to face setbacks.
The differences of children's individual qualities exist objectively. Some parents are eager to make their children succeed, set too high demands on their children, and artificially set traps to make their children feel strongly frustrated in the face of pressure. If children often suffer such setbacks, they will feel "incompetent" and lose self-confidence because everything fails. When implementing frustration education, we must grasp the "degree" and pay attention to the fact that children can't have setbacks in the development process, nor can they do too many setbacks. The role of education is to guide children to face up to setbacks, maintain psychological balance when they suffer setbacks, find ways to overcome setbacks, and make children develop physically and mentally healthily.
Parents' Experience of Preschool Frustration Education 2 Four Stages of Frustration Education
Frustration education cannot be achieved overnight, and parents should "treat" their children step by step in four stages.
The first stage: cultivate children's trust. Applicable age: 0 ~ 1 year, low and young stage.
Children's frustration education should start from birth. Children at this stage need extra care and cultivation from their parents. Parents should actively establish a healthy parent-child relationship with their children, so that children can have a good sense of trust in the family and the environment and lay the foundation for communication with their children.
The second stage: cultivate children's self-care ability. Applicable age: 1 ~ 3 years old, infant stage.
When the child can stand and walk, let him do it independently on the premise of ensuring safety, and don't always hold or help him step. The development of children's movements is also the continuous development and improvement of their psychology. When the children are older, they can try to take care of their own lives, cultivate their self-confidence in the process of taking care of themselves, and move towards future life and communication.
The third stage: cultivate children's psychological independence. Applicable age: 3 ~ 5 years old, kindergarten stage.
Usually we always educate our children to help others, and we are doing our best to help them. However, sometimes children need to do things independently, but if they give too much help, they will become dependent. As long as the child is interested in something, encourage him to do it independently.
The fourth stage: cultivate children's ability to solve problems. Applicable age: 5 ~ 6 years old, preschool stage.
After children enter the classroom, traditional education attaches importance to mathematical logic and language expression ability, but this is only one aspect of learning. More importantly, we should cultivate his curiosity and the ability to think and solve problems independently. Many children always like to ask questions in the end, which is the performance of his thinking. At this time, parents should answer questions patiently, even if they can't answer, don't be afraid of losing face. They can consult books and conduct experiments with children to explore.