For example, feeding children, parents advocate exercise, eat independently, and elders chase after them. As parents, we definitely want to cultivate children's good living habits, which can be expressed in another way. "Chasing and feeding will affect the baby's digestive ability. Moreover, when you go to kindergarten, the teacher will not chase you. If the child is hungry, you will feel distressed. " Most elders have the plot of "generation separation". Since the starting point is for the baby's good, the harm to the baby is obvious. I believe that most elders are understandable and willing to change.
2. Pay attention to tone and attitude in communication, affirm your own experience and respect your elders. Many elders know that this kind of education is wrong, but they must persist. Why? I think the issue of face also has a lot to do with it. Therefore, when communicating, it is necessary to distinguish the experience of elders, identify with what is worthy of recognition, and abandon outdated concepts. Respecting the elders is a virtue that we should adhere to. Be merciful when you speak, and take into account the psychology of your elders. Especially when playing with children outside, in front of friends or neighbors of the same age, don't say anything about your elders. Right and wrong, close the door and solve it at home.
3. Both husband and wife have the same views, and then they can get them separately, and they can learn from "other people's children" appropriately. Some in-laws just listen to their sons, so let them communicate with each other. If, on the contrary, the in-laws are more serious about holding their sons, the daughter-in-law should educate the children to be good at reading words and observing emotions.
The neighbor's small beans are often taken away by grandma. He will cry when his mother comes to pick him up. Therefore, grandma especially loves to say, "Don't cry with me for a day, but cry when you come. Children will definitely not like you." Every time Douma hears this sentence, she will be very sad and even more upset. But no matter what grandma says, little bean will go home with her mother after crying. After several visits, Mama Dou finally understood. The crying of children is actually a kind of injustice and coquetry. Children's expressive ability is not clear, and crying is the most direct and effective way to attract mothers' attention.
When Grandma Bean said that again, Mom Bean was not angry but threatened. He calmly expressed his views: "Mom, I am the mother of the child, and most of the children's sense of security comes from my companionship and education. There is not a child who doesn't like his mother. He just wanted to show his love for me by crying. You see, little Mariko of xx is always with her grandmother. She is very kind to her grandmother and mother, and her family is very harmonious. So, please don't say such things again. "
When you encounter grandma dou's rude words, you should start with the psychology of your elders to skillfully resolve the contradictions. Teach children to have a sense of boundaries. Mother is the first guardian and the first teacher of children's growth, which is irreplaceable. Practice has proved that communication is ineffective. In the process of children's growth, the speed of development is different. It is not that growing tall and fast is necessarily a good thing, but it needs to be analyzed according to the actual situation of children.
If communication with elders is ineffective, it will be contradictory. Practice has proved that, of course, this is only a fact, and the premise must be not to hurt children. In short, on the way to educating children, parents need to improve their abilities and keep practicing. The consistency of family education will not make the child at a loss, which will help him to better establish the correct three views. Therefore, educational differences must be resolved in time, and a harmonious family environment will make children's sense of security and happiness burst!