Listening is a kind of recognition and appreciation.

German educator Karl? Witt said:? I think listening is a very good way of education. Because listening is a sign of respecting and caring for children, and it also encourages children to know their own abilities. If children feel that they are free to express their opinions on anything and their knowledge has not been despised and ridiculed, they will not hesitate to express their opinions, first at home, then at school, and then at work, so that they can face and deal with problems confidently and bravely. ?

I once read a story: linklater, a famous American host, visited a child one day and asked him. What do you want to be when you grow up? Well, I want to be a pilot! ? Linklater then asked:? If one day, when your plane flies over the Pacific Ocean, all the engines are turned off, what will you do? I will tell the people sitting on the plane to fasten their seat belts first, and then I will hang up my parachute and jump first. ? The audience at the scene had already laughed, but linklater stared at the child to see if he was a smart guy, so he waited patiently and listened to the child. Unexpectedly, the child burst into tears. Linklater asked? Why are you doing this? The child's answer revealed a child's sincere thought: I'm going to get the fuel, and I want it back! I wanna come back! ?

Linklater, the host, is different. He can let the children finish their sentences. The audience at the scene laughed at that time? Still maintained the kindness, peace and patience that the listener should have, which made linklater hear the kindest, purest and clearest heart of the child. A simple and kind child. The heart has been released in words and cared for in listening. This is a poetic communication.

Listening and not listening, two completely different attitudes, also got two completely different results. In fact, if you think about it carefully, education is sometimes as simple as a quiet listening full of goodwill, understanding and trust.

For a while, I didn't know what was wrong with my child's class. I can't enjoy the fun of class and the joy of sincere communication with children more and more. In the past, the collision with children's wisdom, emotional communication and tacit understanding of the soul seemed to be getting farther and farther away from me. I am disappointed with the students' performance. I was listless in class and raised my hands sporadically when answering questions. What's the matter with you? Don't concentrate, use your head! ? I am anxious to remind them loudly and reprimand them. They looked at me blankly, but their grades didn't improve. I am very anxious. I think since the two sides of the contradiction are me and the students, instead of being depressed and upset here, we should bend down and listen to the children's voices.

So I found a noon time and wanted to talk to the children in the class. The children really want to talk to me, but it obviously takes a long time for them to talk to me one by one. I thought of a way to get a classmate who wants to talk to me to take out a piece of paper. Write what you want to say on paper. The children couldn't wait to take out the paper and began to swish. After a while, the children finished writing, and the group leader began to receive notes. Hey! That's too much. One for each person. I began to savor it.

? Teacher, assign less homework in the future; Teacher, keep your voice down in class, or you will hurt your voice when you are older; Teacher, you should pay more attention to rest and not be too tired; Teacher, you should drink more boiled water, so that your voice will be better?

? Teacher, I don't want you to give us lessons with a straight face every day. I like to see your smile and your bright smile. We will be happy all day. Teacher, you have worked hard. I will study hard and won't let you down. Trust me, watch my future performance! Teacher, don't get angry easily, it will hurt your health. ?

I am so happy to read these words from the child's mind. The truth about the child aroused my self-awakening. I thought I was good, very? Is it majestic? But children do not accept it from the heart. Children are admired for not keeping a straight face. They need a friend-style teacher, a big friend who can communicate with them often and speak from the heart. Always put yourself in the other's shoes and bend down to talk to your child.

The new curriculum reform clearly stipulates that teachers should be good at crouching down to appreciate students, listening to students, learning from students and growing up with them. ? Get down? It is a sign of the maturity of excellent teachers. Only when you kneel down can you truly see the colorful world in your child's eyes and truly feel that your child's heart is the truest, best and most beautiful in the world. We should be good at squatting down to appreciate children, listening to children, learning from children and growing up with them!

Author: Zhang Yuling (WeChat official account: Ma Po Middle School, Yuzhong County)

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