2. In parent-child interaction, the feelings of parents and children are basically similar. When criticizing children for not being sensible, children are also complaining about your incomprehension; When you blame your child for driving you crazy, you basically drive your child crazy; Change the parent-child relationship, start with acceptance, first adjust your emotions and attitudes, and you will find that if you are right, the child will be right!
A five-year-old German boy always likes to wear skirts. Instead of scolding him, his father chose to put on a skirt and go shopping with him. His father said, "I don't have much higher education. I just want my children to know that sometimes it is not necessary to live up to public expectations. I want him to know that dad will always be with him. " It is said that one of their intolerant neighbors was dumbfounded and bumped into a lamppost. What a brave father!
4. Family education is based on example. Parents influence and edify their children by regulating their own behavior and using the power of example and environment, instead of parents indulging their own desires and emotions and disciplining and shaping their children through rude reprimands and beatings.
5. "Why are you crying? Isn't it just a turtle? Dad will buy you another one. " How can you comfort the little turtle when he dies? The child cried even more after hearing this, not only because of the death of the tortoise, but also because his emotions were not accepted and understood. Tell your child, "I feel the same way with you. It's too painful to lose a good friend. " When a child's emotions are accepted and understood by his father, he can better face the reality and his feelings.
6. What really makes children independent and obsessed with their dreams is not that parents kidnap their children with the so-called "encouragement" of "parents are incompetent, our family depends on you" or "you study hard to be worthy of what parents have done for you", but that parents try their best to be themselves and become role models for their children, and at the same time convince their children that their love is unconditional and has nothing to do with success, and their children will be even more stubborn.
7. We can let children feel their bodies from kindergarten to primary school, let them roll on the grass with their eyes closed, let their bodies roll on the grass, and use their sense of smell and touch to feel the grass, soil and smell. At that time, the body was more real and concrete. We talked too much about morality and concepts. Without a sound body as the foundation, you will all fail.
8. Love is relatively fair. The focus of love is quality. For families with many children, it is necessary to convey the only connection between parents and children, not absolute fairness. No amount of fairness can restrain children's desire to get the only love from their parents. Don't tell your child, "I love you as much as I love your brother." Tell him, "You are unique in this world, and our love for you will not change because of anyone."
9. If a person can be a good parent, he will certainly be a good parent for his children. What do you mean by being a good parent? What you mean is whether you can be gentle with yourself and stick to it. In other words, how do you treat yourself when you fail and feel depressed? Will you be hard on yourself? Will you forgive yourself? If so, then when you become a parent, when your child makes mistakes, you will do the same to him.
10. Parents' self-growth: 1. Growth begins with accepting and appreciating yourself. 2. Love your partner and run a good marriage. 3. Set a good example. Education is self-management, not punishing children. 4. Changing children starts with changing yourself. 5. Have your own life and hobbies. 6. Keep the habit of reading. 7. Exercise. 8. Maintain a positive and optimistic attitude towards life. 9. Keep learning new fashions and technologies and have a common language with children.
1 1, curiosity, interest and creativity are not cultivated, but human natural attributes. What parents need to do is how to wake up and protect, rather than always thinking about how to shape. Blind teaching and interference will kill children's nature and consciousness. What we need is less self-righteousness, more introspection and self-discipline. It is useless to find the right answer to a wrong question. You do it right first, and children often do it right.
12, eleven characteristics of a good mother 1, has her own life. 2. Accept and appreciate yourself. 3. A father who loves his children. 4, do not complain, have the ability to actively interpret life and perceive happiness. 5. Emotional stability. 6. Bless your children instead of worrying about them. 7. Give children unconditional acceptance and love. 8. Less preaching and more demonstration. 9. Use more body language. 10, insist on reading to children. 1 1. Watch less TV, take more children outdoors and get close to nature.
13, 1, everyone can always learn and grow in his life, even if you are a slow learner. In the family, children's sense of security mainly comes from their mothers, while the self-concept of "who am I and what am I" comes from their fathers. As a parent, have you given your child enough psychological nutrition? .
14, 1, so that children can gain valuable direct experience through personal practice, the sooner the better; 2. Don't stifle curiosity, don't protect children too much, and don't be impatient when children destroy them; 3. Explore the world with your child, face your child's problems seriously and ask your baby why; It is more important to encourage children to imagine themselves than to give a scientific answer.
15. It should be an improvement for parents to realize that family is the most important school for children and parents are the first and most important teachers for children. But can we further realize that family is also a school for parents to educate themselves and grow up, and children are also our teachers in many ways.
16, any emotions and feelings of children should be respected and accepted, but their behavior should be restricted. In reality, many parents are just the opposite: on the one hand, they suppress and deny their children's crying, fear, anxiety, anger, pain and other emotions, on the other hand, they are helpless or let their children roll around, take things at will and beat and scold others. What should be done is not done, and what should not be managed is not managed. Therefore, parents have become the biggest producers of children's problems.
17, how to be a good father: 1, cultivate children's good habits with their own behavior. 2. Children's education begins with physical education. 3. Tolerance is higher than punishment. 4. Respect children's rights. 5. The core of teaching is responsibility. 6. Love is unconditional. 7. Let the children rely on themselves. 8, the child's words are unscrupulous. 9. Learn from children and grow up with them. 10, give children free time.
18, empathy, empathy, etc. On the contrary, doting means that parents treat their children as their beloved pets only from their own understanding, rather than understanding and respecting them as an independent life.
19, China parents' seven weapons to hurt their children, which are used to stifle freedom, filial piety, independence, individuality, imagination, public morality, what's the use of raising your children, and self-esteem.
20. To cultivate children's ability to resist setbacks, parents should first convey to their children the values of "don't fight for the first, only fight for the only". It is unrealistic to let children strive for the first place everywhere, do well in exams, win the championship in chess, play the piano first and swim first. The idea of "pursuing uniqueness" is: I am who I am, and I am different. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. Short and long. Let the children understand this truth.
2 1. With the increasing complexity of society, settling down is becoming more and more professional. Parents are increasingly worried about their children. Worry is actually a negative hint, hint: I'm worried that you can't. Parents' lack of confidence in their children will make them feel insecure and difficult to make decisions. If we want our children to live a happy life, the key is that we should focus our consciousness on what we desire.
22. Q: "I feel very tired and I don't know how to raise my daughter well. Adults said: "Don't worry, babies are always like this when they are young, and they will be fine after 3 years old. "Is that really the case? Is this really necessary? If she feels a little sick, should I go to the hospital first or observe at home? Since I had a daughter, my husband and I have been quarreling all day, playing games with his family, and the unit has taken time off all day. How can I adjust myself? A: What bothers you is not how to take care of children, but how to live. The problems you mentioned already exist in your body and life, but they are more clearly reflected by children. The way a person raises children is the embodiment of his values, attitude towards life and comprehensive ability. How to deal with the relationship between husband and wife, family, work and husband and wife, how to love, respect and strengthen yourself are the first things you should consider. Only you can help you in this respect.
23. Don't complain that your children are always bullied. Apart from sex, lack of self-confidence and social interaction are the main reasons for being bullied. Think about your parenting style, is it too little encouragement, too much criticism, and your child feels inferior and cowardly? Lack of boundaries, no principles, and children ignore rules? Complaining about society, complaining about others, and children are insecure? Haggle over every ounce, vengeful, children lack tolerance? Overindulgence, everything is arranged, and children lack independence? When children are bullied: 1, accept their emotions and help them express their feelings. "Are you very unhappy?" 2. Teach children how to express their emotions and opinions. I told my child unhappily, "Don't do this, I'm not happy because of you". When children have the courage to express themselves in similar situations, parents should encourage and praise them regardless of the outcome. 4. Through positive feedback from practice, gradually help children build self-confidence.
24. How is a good child raised? Children learn to be confident when they grow up with encouragement. Children grow up with tolerance and learn to be patient. Children grow up with praise and learn to appreciate. Children learn to love when they grow up in acceptance. Children grow up in affirmation and learn to respect themselves. When children grow up with identity, they have clear goals. Children grow up sharing and learn to be generous. Children grow up in safety and are full of confidence. How bad is a child's temper: children grow up with criticism and learn to judge others. Children grow up in hostility and learn to attack people. Children grow up in fear and learn to be anxious. Children grow up helpless and learn to regret. Children grow up in absurdity and learn to be ashamed. Children grow up with jealousy and learn to hold grudges. Children grow up in humiliation and feel guilty.
25. Excessive anxiety caused by fear of children's mistakes or injuries makes parents consume their ability to get happiness and the courage and confidence that should have been passed on to their children. The negative energy transmitted by parents' fear and anxiety about various problems in their children's growth is more harmful to their children than the problems themselves. Love children, let's be happy first, keep a calm and positive attitude, and let children feel the acceptance and trust of their parents.
26. "No matter what one's living environment is, to be a good parent, the most basic thing is to give children two things: roots and wings". The so-called root is to give children a sense of security and guide them to live a healthy and happy life; To give children wings is to give them the greatest freedom and opportunity, let them give full play to their wisdom and potential, and have the opportunity to become the best people within their power.
27. In children's interpersonal communication, we need to guide children to think independently instead of helping them solve problems. 1. How do you feel when you have problems with people? 2. What are the feelings of others? 3. What are the consequences of your actions? 4. How many ways can we solve this problem? 5. Which method is better and where is it? Of course, lack of independent thinking.
It is also difficult for conscious parents to cultivate their children's ability to think independently.
28. True love is not possession and control. True love is unconditional, and the object of love is the person himself, which has nothing to do with the result and performance. True love thinks that life itself is valuable, whether it is useful or not. When parents ask their children whether they are obedient or not, how about their exam results, whether they can succeed in the future, and how to honor themselves, our love becomes conditional, depending on their grades and performance, demanding that the investment be rewarding and useful to themselves. Is this true love?
29. The holiday is coming. Let's talk about children's housework. Labor ability is the basis and core content of viability. Let children participate in housework, which can cultivate their self-confidence and sense of responsibility. The more things children can do, the stronger their ability to solve practical problems and the stronger their self-confidence. In the process of learning to do housework, children can also understand their parents' hard work, gradually assume their responsibilities to the family and society, and cultivate their own good qualities.
Suhomlinski: 1. Without love, there is no education. If a person can't educate himself, he can't educate others. You are educating yourself and testing your personality while educating your children. As parents, we should first educate our children with our caring behavior. 5. No time to educate children means no time to be a man. People will always rely on their wisdom, conscience and human dignity.