Ignorance is the greatest ignorance, but it is the most painful to know your mistakes and not correct them.
In recent years, the contradictions in kindergarten primary schools have become more and more profound. Some primary school teachers have been discussed, saying that they all blame teachers for talking too fast and students can't keep up, so they should give them to their children in advance; Some parents say that everyone is learning, but I can't go on learning, and some blame kindergarten. Who told her to start classes? What's the problem?
Without demand, there is no seller's market, which is an eternal law. We found that many private kindergartens offer primary school courses, and the director complained: "Parents just said that if you don't open it, I won't come!" One parent can, two parents can refuse, ten or a hundred? Because private kindergartens are self-financing. I can't do it without driving.
Whose fault is that? In the final analysis, it is the anxiety of parents. Some parents not only don't know how to obey the rules, but also know that it is useless for their children to study blindly, but in the end they can't overcome their anxiety. Instead, they are worried about their vanity and compare with their children.
"The students in their class are studying, but my family doesn't study. It seems very different, I am afraid that my child's psychology will be affected! "
"Mom, I don't want to go to that class ..."
"No ..."
There are countless such complaints every day. Many parents always say, "I'm afraid my children can't keep up in the future!" ""I can't let my children lose at the starting line! "
In the end, the enemy is the anxiety of parents.
Are parents at fault? The so-called right and wrong are only our cognition, and everyone has the right to choose. But I don't agree with the kindergarten learning the knowledge and content of primary school too early, because it is easy to cause children:
1. Afraid of learning difficulties
2. Too many setbacks make children lose interest in learning.
3. Premature development is harmful to children.
So what do parents do? Knowledge is endless, knowledge points are dead, and will be forgotten one day. The kindergarten stage is developed according to the national conditions, focusing on developing children's abilities.
1. Take more children to play, and the children who can play will definitely get good grades in the future. Because in the process of playing, children's thinking, body and brain development will be cultivated and eventually transferred to children's learning.
2. Health is the capital of revolution. Let children insist on proper exercise, so that children can keep rich experience and react faster.
3. Cultivate the habit of reading.
In short: Parents love their children, there is nothing wrong with considering their development, but they must follow the law of children's development, the law of children's growth, scientific guidance and patient care, so that children can finally grow up healthily. The ability to learn is not a problem, nor is the achievement. Parents put down their anxiety, look for their initial heart, and then find the right way, focusing on the heart that parents should learn.
Remember not to: pull out the seedlings and encourage them.
I remember when I was a child, the most common sentence my mother said to me was, "Isn't it all for your own good?" This sentence choked me when I was a child. At that time, I was thinking: Yes, my mother is so kind to me, why can't I listen to her just to make her happy? However, my heart is extremely painful, because the choices she made for me were all I didn't want to do and were forced.
Parents have a hard time raising their children, and everyone wants their children to have a good future. But what is good for children?
Primary school teaching in kindergartens is strictly prohibited by the Ministry of Education. Why should it be banned? Because primary school teaching will affect children's physical and mental development. The teaching content of kindergarten is arranged in strict accordance with the characteristics of children's physical and mental development. For example, the difficulty of a large math class is addition and subtraction within 20. The content of primary school may be addition and subtraction within 40, 50 or even 100. For children under 6 years old, their understanding level has not reached the level of 6-year-old children. If the content of primary school is taught in advance, it will be more difficult for children. Some children will feel tired and lose confidence.
Once upon a time, a parent said to the teacher, teacher, is there something wrong with my child's IQ? I have been teaching math problems for a long time, and he can't learn them. How stupid! The teacher asked: What topics do you teach children? Parents said: it is the addition and subtraction within 40. The teacher said: It is normal for children not to do such a difficult topic. Parents' anxiety is mistaken for children's IQ. Originally, a very smart child thought that his IQ was really low.
Let's talk about pinyin first Most pinyin classes are crammed to achieve their goals. Children are not interested in repeating reading. The teaching form of kindergarten is mainly games. Teachers will use role-playing and storylines to attract children's attention. Can cultivate children's interest in acting and retelling. This kind of interest and knowledge instilled from the inside out are different. Our education should stimulate children's interest in learning. In this way, children will have a steady stream of learning motivation. This interest in learning will accompany the child for life.
Parents are worried that their children can't keep up when they go to primary school. I understand this feeling. If your child's kindergarten has started the primary school curriculum, and the child doesn't learn well, don't criticize and scold the child. We must know that each child's acceptance ability is different, and we must respect the differences of children!
Children should be exposed to cultural knowledge and learn as much as possible.
Childhood memory is very good, especially unconscious memory, image memory is very good. We should make good use of these precious resources in childhood. Develop children's intelligence and wisdom.
Learning many skills has a critical period. If you miss the critical period, it will be very difficult and inefficient to learn these skills again.
These situations are obvious in foreign language learning and piano learning.
It's not good for children, it's just pulling out the seedlings! Social competition aggravated parents' anxiety. They pass this anxiety on to their children and want them to win at the starting line. They should also choose a kindergarten that can be "primary school" when sending their children to kindergarten.
Foreign parents appear enlightened and wise when educating their children. For example, Venus said in an interview about her husband's German attitude towards children:
The child's English is not good. I hope Hans (Venus's husband) can teach children. Hans said inexplicably, what if the child goes to school? Therefore, no matter how poor the child's English is, Hans never lends a helping hand.
Hans means that parents are not professional teachers after all, and sometimes what they teach is different from what the teacher says, so children will reject the content of the teacher's lecture after they have a preconceived impression.
"Prejudice" is a very important psychological interference. So some media reported that a parent took a primary school kindergarten to court and finally got legal support. The kindergarten apologized and cancelled the primary school initiative.
What kind of education each age group receives is arranged according to the characteristics of children's psychological growth, and it is not appropriate to go beyond the age group to do things that are not in line with his age.
Gesell, a famous psychologist, once drew an important theory with the "experiment of twin climbing stairs": Conclusion: Life is a marathon, and it doesn't matter if you run a few more steps at first. For children's early learning and education, because children are still young and do not have the ability to learn, it is easy to dampen children's interest and make children afraid of learning from an early age. If so, it will not be worth the loss. Please be careful.
A: Parents raise their children. Everyone wants their children to have a good future, but how can they do it for their children? If the kindergarten teaches the content of primary school in advance, it will be more difficult for children, and some children will feel hard and lose confidence. A very clever child thinks that he is stupid and his IQ is not as good as others. Parents should try to expose their children to some simple and interesting high-quality picture books, such as English, mathematics and Chinese. In the process of learning while playing games, they naturally integrate some knowledge that may have been learned in primary school. The content is interesting and children can understand it. This interest in learning will give children a steady stream of learning motivation. Know that each child's acceptance is different, and respect their differences. If you study not only for the sake of studying ahead of time, it will only consume children's enthusiasm for learning.
It depends on the specific form of this "primary school":
1, learning the knowledge of primary schools, can not be simply and rudely identified as "primary schools". After all, there are individual differences in children's growth and development, and the age of primary school entrance stipulated by the state is only based on the average level of children's overall physical and mental development in China.
But some children develop well in all aspects, even ahead of others. Children are spontaneously eager to learn what the public thinks they learned in primary school, but they can also further understand and explore. At this time, "primary school" learning is not only harmless, but also completely beneficial to children's growth.
2. As long as the form of learning conforms to the age characteristics of children and the growth law at this stage, it is good. Primary schools have a complete knowledge system, and each age and grade should have specific content to learn. However, this does not mean that children who have not attended primary school cannot be exposed to this knowledge and content.
For example, some knowledge itself comes from life, and children themselves are experiencing it. At this time, what harm will it do to let children naturally integrate and learn this knowledge?
Re-entry, for kindergarten children, mainly through games to learn, if in the process of games, naturally into some knowledge that may have been learned in primary schools, the content is interesting and children can understand; Or through simple, interesting, high-quality math picture books to understand the mathematics knowledge of primary schools, it will not cause harm to children.
Therefore, whether it is good to study in advance depends mainly on whether the learning style conforms to the child's psychological characteristics and growth law.
3. Studying just for the sake of studying in advance will only consume children's enthusiasm for learning. Regardless of children's current interest in learning and learning status, it is wrong to study just for the sake of running ahead and learning ahead of time, even in the name of "being good to children". Because learning is not suitable for children and does not conform to the law of children's growth, it is not really good for children. Children not only get twice the result with half the effort, but also consume their enthusiasm for learning in the future, leading to weariness of learning.
In fact, this is not a question of who is right or wrong, but because our preschool education is becoming more and more market-oriented, causing parents' excessive anxiety, so we have to let our children study in advance.
This is also the adaptive development that preschool teachers in Taiwan Province Province have always emphasized in WOHO education, respecting children's natural development and not encouraging it. Every child has his own growth law, and we should make development plans according to the development of children. This is why we encourage parents and teachers to study child psychology.
Too much learning for children, not in accordance with the adaptive development, it is easy for children to cause sensory imbalance. In other words, some parents find that their children are not as good as when they were young, so they should pay attention to whether their children have emotional disorders.
No one is right or wrong in learning, but we should pay attention to the method and purpose of learning. It is necessary to cultivate children's autonomous learning ability.
Kindergartens are becoming more and more elementary. Is it wrong for parents to "be good for their children"? There is nothing wrong with being good to children, but kindergarten primary school is wrong! The state has repeatedly stressed that it is necessary to resolutely put an end to the tendency of kindergarten primary school. Education departments in various cities require every kindergarten to install monitoring and keep it for at least 2 months. You can retrieve the monitoring content at any time to see if there is a phenomenon of "primary school" in kindergartens, and even punish kindergartens that violate the rules, but you still can't control the continuation of this phenomenon!
Why is kindergarten primary school? The phenomenon of kindergarten primary school mainly exists in private kindergartens, because private kindergartens are not favored by many preferential policies of the state at present, and no public kindergartens can enjoy the treatment of state funding, so they must have students to survive. Why do they have students? In addition to improving other hardware conditions to attract students, it is better than who teaches and teaches more things. Parents can teach whatever they want to cater to their parents' psychology. Now parents should ask before sending their children to kindergarten, does kindergarten teach pinyin? Do you teach writing? Do you teach addition and subtraction? Obviously, primary school has become a normal state!
What are the disadvantages of kindergarten primary school? There are many evils but no benefits, which violates the law of children's growth, teaching principles and repeated education, leading to children's weariness of learning, inaccurate pronunciation of pinyin and inability to correct it in the later stage. Some primary school teachers have also been given a habit. After the beginning of school, the first part of pinyin knowledge was almost not taught, and I went directly to the next class. Some children who don't study in kindergarten can't keep up. Teachers criticize students, students make trouble with their parents, parents find kindergartens, or let their children enter remedial classes, gradually forming a vicious circle.
How can we effectively prevent kindergartens from becoming primary schools? Parents should raise their awareness, kindergartens should be self-regulated, primary schools should follow the routine and do their own thing well. Don't rob others! This is not learning from Lei Feng, it is misleading children. Young and connected to elementary school!
I am a small class at zero. This is my 245th answer in Wukong. I'm glad to answer your question!
In some answers the other day, I answered what the reference conditions are when choosing a kindergarten, whether it is a public kindergarten or a private kindergarten. In fact, every parent has his own considerations when choosing. Some people can't enter the public because of crowded people, but some people have the opportunity to choose private kindergartens instead. I once asked such a parent why he chose private over public. Her answer is also very direct: private kindergartens teach more.
It suddenly occurred to me that when I was a child, there was no kindergarten at that time. Before the first grade of primary school, there was only one class to read in the preschool class, and you had to carry a small board and get some chalk yourself. What did you learn at that time? Just simply learning numbers, parents have never said sorry to anyone because of the teaching methods. It's different now, such as prenatal education, early education, preschool education, and the connection between young and young. There are many famous tricks. Are they effective? Yes, so I always feel that children are getting smarter now. Sometimes I think children know so much nowadays.
It's hard for us to say whose fault this situation is, or which party is to blame. I think this is a manifestation of a pluralistic society. As a parent, you can follow the crowd, other people's children can follow, or you can form your own school. Of course, if you want to be independent and treat your children well, it is a great exercise for a parent. However, I still suggest that your children know best how to educate and develop their children. It is not necessarily good to have your own ideas and follow the crowd.
The above is my personal simple view, I hope it will help you. Welcome to leave your valuable comments in the comments section!
It is true that parents are kind to their children, but the mistake lies in choosing the wrong method and using it in the wrong place. The "primary school" of kindergartens is harmful to children.
First, kindergarten is the best time to cultivate children's interest in learning. Children at this stage are interested in everything, while kindergarten "primary school" completely fixes children on the bench, circling the classroom all day, learning addition and subtraction repeatedly, writing pinyin and Chinese characters. At first, children will have some freshness, but over time, children will become more and more disgusted. Children are like birds in cages, completely losing their freedom, and such children will have a strong sense of boredom in the future school time. It's like eating jiaozi every day and jiaozi every meal. I feel sick when I hear that I want to eat jiaozi. Children are tired of learning in kindergarten. Is this good for the children?
Second, we should pay attention to methods and act according to the rules. Can an ignorant child bear the heavy burden of study? Kindergarten primary school is the real version of "pulling out seedlings to encourage". What is even more exasperating is that some parents even force their children to attend make-up classes, euphemistically saying "Don't lose at the starting line". In fact, by doing so, your child has completely lost interest in learning, and his academic performance will get worse and worse in the future.
Third, the earlier children learn, the better. This is a gimmick for many private kindergartens to recruit students. The earlier you study, the better. It refers to the mastery of learning interest, learning skills, learning experience, language perception, communicative competence and so on. It's definitely not cultural studies. Some private kindergartens often seize the parents' eagerness to show off everywhere and spoon-feed their children, resulting in children coming out of kindergarten with heavy schoolbags.
Kindergarten children should gain knowledge through their own experience, communication and teacher's guidance in games, and only the knowledge gained in this way will benefit them for life. Therefore, "primary school" education is a kind of harm to children.