First of all, since someone will ask such a question, if they must say it, psychological educators hereby state that 70% of psychological problems are related to family background.
Secondly, it is related to family. Can this be said to be a parent's problem? Yes or no! "No" is because many people in China are not clear about the concept of marriage and family. Without a lot of study, if the novice lacks experience and awe, traffic accidents will definitely happen more. "Can" is because since marriage and family are chosen, it is the responsibility and obligation of parents to raise their offspring. It doesn't matter if parents don't understand, but they need to study hard the day after tomorrow. Parents should study hard so that their children can make progress every day.
Third, the most terrible thing about family education is that children are not regarded as objective people, while parents think they are parents, suppressing their nature and ignoring their needs. Parents make all kinds of arrangements for their children, completely ignoring their opinions.
Of course, at the social level, with the blessing of the big environment, their pressure is also great, and this pressure will certainly be passed on to their children.
What are the other reasons? The child itself! Children are also a vivid life, a living person, with thoughts and cognition, and the task of learning and growing, so in the process of learning and living, we must actively interact with parents and schools.
Finally, to sum up, psychological problems are influenced by various subjective and objective factors, which are more related to family education. Many times, many small things, parents can guide their children to handle well, then it can be trivial. If parents can't guide them well and even accumulate more negative emotions in their children's hearts, children will naturally be crushed in the end.
School is the place where children learn and grow up, especially to make up for the lack of family education. But now, because the school is afraid of accidents, it has become a place that only teaches knowledge. Therefore, if there is something wrong with the family, the child has no other emotional outlet now.
Mainly family, especially parents' education of children. Your verbal violence is a weapon to destroy children's inner world. Maybe you don't even realize it!
This is a very good question.
The main reason why children are prone to depression is that they have not formed the correct attitude and ability to love themselves in school and social education since childhood, and they are out of control because of the stimulation of sudden major events related to themselves.
I was depressed more than ten years ago, but I don't know where to start. ...
Anyway, it's sad to see too many news about suicide now.
Ps, hey, our neighbor has a little sister. Because of her parents, she has been working in Guangzhou to make a living. She didn't get much care from her parents since she was a child, and she was almost brought up by her grandparents with her sister. She also has a younger sister who was taken to Guangzhou for care by her parents. She dropped out of school in the first or second grade of junior high school, occasionally went out to work for a long time and always came back in a few days. Her father loved to drink, drank too much, and then he was hemiplegic. Anyway, his family is particularly bad, which makes things worse ... She likes to go out to play with children of her own age, because she hasn't worked for a long time, so she didn't go to school, and then she talked about a boyfriend. Because I can't talk to my parents about the bride price, my boyfriend doesn't want it. A few days later, she saw her boyfriend with another girl, drinking pesticides and dying.
Later, my sister, who was a sophomore, suffered from persecution paranoia shortly after the accident. She was forced to drop out of school this year and spent a long time in a mental hospital.
It's really embarrassing.
I once talked to my mother-in-law about this, and I feel very sorry: I went to college, why can't I endure it? My mother-in-law said naturally, that's just like you did. After all, you are sisters who grew up together ... hey, everyone, don't care too much! I quickly took over: Yes, people are still selfish. My mother-in-law said: Look at this girl, she is not selfish, but self-centered. Do your own thing and concentrate on what you should do! My mother-in-law has corrected her extreme thoughts with me more than once. Glad to meet such a good mother-in-law.
Think about it. At that time, my sister was too young to go out to work, and my mind was too weak to adapt to the environment. I was schizophrenic for two or three years. I'm particularly worried. I am afraid of losing my sister, and I feel that my sister is responsible. The intense study life in high school makes me especially question the meaning of study. At that time, I was shocked by all kinds of negative thoughts and couldn't find myself. As a result, I was insomnia, anorexia and acid reflux, and suddenly I became ill, depressed and dropped out of school. I also tried to give up my life. But in the end, I stumbled back to campus, went to college, graduated from work, got married and had children, and embarked on an ordinary road. Of course, my sister is fine now.
My teachers and friends have always believed that I will go back to school, and my parents have always suffered from our illness and tried their best to treat it actively. This is a big difference between us and our neighbors.
From personal experience, illness is caused by too many internal and external factors, but feeling family background, stubbornness, cowardice, inferiority, and even being too kind are all pathogenic factors ... Therefore, it is very likely that one child in a family will get sick and may cause other children, which is caused by the environment! Moreover, if you don't choose self-healing and self-growth, mental illness will recur many times, and anyone may get sick, so people must grow up, be strong, and believe that only love can cure everything.
What can't kill us will make us stronger, won't it? Everyone who wades across the river of depression will more or less understand that what we value may not be that important at all? To pursue the importance of life, we must also do what we can! Take your time and enjoy it. ...
Today, I hope everyone can face up to negative emotions, and even wish the sister of the neighbor's little sister can get better slowly. Let's go
Whether from a scientific point of view or a humanistic point of view, the family is the builder and defender of children's sound personality. Must be parents with sound personality, which is the guarantee and foundation of children's sound personality. Unfortunately, many adults not only don't realize themselves, but think that their children's self-development is not good. ...
Family problems are very serious. I don't feel this kind of oppression when I go to school after 80. Children nowadays spend most of their time in various learning institutions. Everyone wants their children to be top-notch, and it seems that they can't accept mediocre children.
This is very important. The school is under great pressure. Parents don't clean up in time when children are at a loss. Whether parents demand too much from their children, whether family relations are harmonious, whether children's self-esteem is maintained, and whether children's real situation is understood, the natural problem of being a good parent will not be great.
It is not the last straw that kills the camel, but every straw.
I think it's the whole society, the social status quo, and the problem that children don't work hard in high school. Parents must be anxious, and then they force their children to study, not only in culture classes, but also in extracurricular classes, so children are under great pressure and prone to depression.