In real life, parents have their own careers, but have they ever taught their children their own careers?
Although the busy career is also to make children live a richer life, the motivation of all work is children.
Most parents think that to give their children good living conditions, there will be school teachers to educate them anyway, so don't worry. However, many parents feel that their children are drifting away from themselves, and even many times, children and parents don't see each other for a week, a month or even a year.
This situation exists in most families, because parents are busy with their own "career".
Many parents hope that their children can enter a good school and their children will receive a good education.
But in fact, education has never been just a school matter, nor can teachers educate it well.
Teachers are only teachers at the knowledge level, and they are guides at all stages of children's lives, not guides and role models.
The People's Daily once published an article saying:
Educating children well is not only a teacher's business, but also the most important career in your life.
No matter how good a teacher is, he is the leader of knowledge at all stages of children's learning, and parents are the most important role models in their lives. Most of children's habits and hobbies can be found in their parents.
Lead by example, lead by example.
It means to set an example in action and play an exemplary role in speech behavior while teaching orally. What parents should do is to set an example. Many habits of children are learned from their parents' behavior.
Han Yu's "Teacher's Theory" said: "Teacher, preach and teach."
It means that teachers impart knowledge to cultivate students and impart basic knowledge and skills. Students ask questions through active learning, and teachers should effectively solve the confusion of knowledge.
When educating their children, many parents will also say "Don't be vulgar and ignorant like me" and "Don't be hopeless like your parents" and so on. Have parents ever thought that when you say these words, you have set a goal for your child, and he will automatically think that anyway, parents are like this and life is good, that's it!
Is this what parents want?
Lead by example, lead by example. Lead children with practical actions, instead of talking on paper and influencing children with practical actions.
Parents' behavior is far more influential than teachers' teaching in school.
For example, when children study, parents don't play with mobile phones and iPad idly, but pick up newspapers, magazines and books to accompany their children to study; Parents don't blame their children for doing something wrong, but let them discover the mistakes themselves and how to correct them.
The quality of parents is the foundation of children's quality.
As the saying goes: "What kind of parents have what kind of children"; "The fish began to stink."
It can be seen that there is not much difference between what kind of quality parents want to cultivate their children.
We usually judge a person's quality not by his looks, height and achievements, but by his quality.
The quality of a good family is not bad. A person's upbringing is manifested in all aspects. The greatest wealth parents give their children is not material, but spiritual-education and quality. This is the "wealth" of a child's life, which is rooted in his inner cultivation and deep in his soul.
I once met such a scene: a little girl and her mother took a bus together, and at the next stop, an old man got on the bus. This is a time to test the upbringing of many people.
I saw the little girl leave her seat and said to the old man, "Grandpa, sit here. There is room here. " When the old man saw it, he thought that the child said, "Thank you, don't worry, do it yourself." The child disagreed. Instead, he walked up to the old man, took him by the hand and said, "It's okay, Grandpa, I can stand. When I grow up, I can stand firm and my mother can hug me. " At this time, the little girl's mother said, "sit down, grandpa, she can stand on her own feet."
It can be seen that the mother did not teach the little girl to give way at that time, but the little girl took the initiative. Is this the upbringing of this family? You can see it everywhere in your life.
Parents all over the world want their children to receive the best education, but they often ignore that they are the best education for their children.
Children's sense of responsibility stems from parents' responsibility.
Many children are irresponsible. Is it because parents have no sense of responsibility? That's not true.
The strength of children's sense of responsibility lies in whether parents choose to let go.
Many children are like flowers in a greenhouse, being taken care of. They have never experienced wind and rain, and they have never experienced wind and rain. How can they grow up?
When a child makes a mistake outside, parents often tell people, "He is still a child and knows nothing." Not only do they not apologize, they don't let their children realize that they have made a mistake, and they even say behind their backs not to scare their children.
He will always be a "child" when he talks about "he is still a child". How can children grow up without parents? If it is not a "child", what is it?
As parents, they didn't show a sense of responsibility in front of their children. What did the children learn? But it was the child who got hurt in the end.
When children make mistakes, let them realize their mistakes, bear their own mistakes and cultivate their sense of responsibility.
A person who dare not face his own mistakes and dare not bear his own mistakes is doomed to have no great achievements.
Children are their own, and education is also their own, not teachers', so educating children well is the most important career for parents.