? Text/Zhang Aimin

I used to regard "there are no students who can't teach well, only teachers who can't teach well" as a wise saying, and I am demanding myself in all aspects. I firmly believe in the power of school education, and even believe that teacher love can overcome everything. I expect every child to reach the other side of the ideal under the inspiration of the teacher's personality charm. But reality is always fragile.

After the long vacation, Wu Wen and Yin Yin didn't go back to school, so they became veritable deserters. Looking at the empty seats, I was helpless and speechless.

Let's start with Wu Wen! At half past five, Wu Wen ran to the apartment building to find me and said he wanted to ask for leave.

"Just arrived, please take a leave?" I know perfectly well past ask.

"I'm not on! A group of policemen brought quilts, "he said with his head down.

"That's even harder to approve!" I said firmly and gently, "Which student wants to drop out of school, and what is the rhythm for the teacher to approve the note?" Farewell! I won't make such a low-level mistake. "

After listening to my words, his tears flowed like pearls with broken lines.

"Crying can't touch me! Besides, my parents are away, what should I do? " I said with a smile. In fact, because I didn't see my parents' words, I still have to know the situation before I draw a conclusion! He asked me to call my mother. I don't think it's appropriate. He said he would call if he got angry.

Sent him away and dialed his mother's phone at the first time. A faint voice came from the other end of the phone. It turned out that he and his mother couldn't go to school and didn't do their homework, which made her blood pressure rise. Now she has just taken the medicine and is afraid to leave. I comforted her to take good care of her illness and asked about the child. She said: "I was so angry that I couldn't go to school just now. I moved my things without going to school, and he came by tricycle!" "

Still a little uneasy, I went to the classroom and found that his desk pocket was empty and people had left. In fact, the child is very clever, but he is too lazy. In fucking terms, he has a heart to eat and play, and he is not allowed to say anything. He once asked his mother if she was born or not.

In fact, I can turn a blind eye to my child's daily behavior habits, but he pushed his luck and handed in a blank sheet of paper on Thursday. I invited him out of the classroom to communicate with him. I didn't know it at all, but I deliberately challenged the teacher's bottom line. He didn't say a word, and he looked so cute. I encouraged him, and even said that I could "be lenient" with him, but people resolutely refused to go to school and were liberated. They also said that they would do anything with their father.

Mom said to let him stay at home for a few days and see what he thinks. I promised, but with a heavy heart. Especially listening to his mother briefly describe the failure of his education, in the final analysis, it still stems from the lack of childhood maternal love, intergenerational support and doting. Mom's words are actually complaining, complaining about being lazy, complaining about children failing to live up to expectations, and complaining about the inconsistency of educational concepts at home. Yes! How important it is to reach a consensus. Why haven't you woken up?

Let's talk about Yin Yin! As long as she walks into the classroom and sits in it, her figure is still very good. Learn actively, especially like to raise your hand to speak. I always smile when I eat and play with students after class, and I really don't see any psychological problems.

I remember that when I borrowed books for the first time, my wandering eyes, abnormal behavior, and even my timidity and fear inadvertently were captured by me on purpose. Comfort, encouragement, give people a sense of security, enhance self-confidence, supplemented by professional psychological counseling means to implement communication programs.

What kind of child is this? After listening to the parents' introduction that day, the first feeling was that the child encountered two situations: First, the adaptability to the school was slightly poor; Second, interpersonal relationships have been frustrated.

In order not to make empirical mistakes and delay children. I called my former tutor to explain the situation. The teacher handed me a scale and asked her to measure it first. She cooperated well and finished it soon.

Judging from the results of the scale, children are good at pursuing perfection, but they are particularly inferior. He is easily stubborn, opinionated and in a bad state. There are also genetic factors: for example, a family member doesn't like praise and likes to find fault. Strive for progress, but do not like entertainment, lack of flexibility. But the advantages of children are also obvious. Do things seriously and stick to your personality. Smart, simple and frugal. Kind and sincere.

In addition, the tutor warned me that the child is too timid and there are risks everywhere in her world. The mind is extremely delicate and pessimistic. She is a person who can afford it but can't let it go. The face is too thin, but the demand for dignity is greater than the sky. So you can assure her that you can get help in any case, as long as you need it. But you can only help her if you promise to join the class.

However, the failure of a math exam once again became an inducement, and she went back to school on Sunday to shrink back, escape and refuse again. Later, I patiently communicated and got on the right track. But when the new semester starts, I can't believe it's the same old play again. I just don't get off. I had no choice but to take it home. After two days, I figured it out. Call me and get ready to go back to school. I readily agreed. After a week, I repeated it again.

According to the child's current situation, considering his family reasons, especially personality problems, I decided to reach an agreement with him. If this happens again, he refuses to enter the classroom. The purpose is to warn her that she should find her own steps and not follow her temper.

On that day, I promised to go to bed before going to work, and it was gone in the morning. Mom is very tangled and in a bad mood. I encouraged her to be open-minded and promised that if the child wanted to come, she would just call the teacher herself.

But what I didn't expect was that my mother completely relayed what I said, and your teacher said that if you want to call. I am speechless.

Especially after staying at home for three days, her mother called and sent a message saying that the child was going to school, asking me to bear with it, apologizing for the various situations of the child, and so on. Especially when I learned that I "refused" my child to enter the class and even suggested changing classes, I was a little angry and said to her, "Refusal is to convey a bottom line education to her and tell her to be responsible for herself. At the same time, it is also a warning to her that nothing can be solved by her playing with personality! Children don't always get you used to this! " The next day, the child called himself, and I readily agreed. Take the road of your choice, and it will be fine in two or three weeks! After a holiday, I'm back!

In fact, when I was a child, I was very worried that my children would be wronged and not let them experience setbacks and hardships. Instead, it hurt my child! If the family is child-centered, the raised children tend to be self-centered and never consider the feelings of others. Coupled with the stubbornness in the bones and the inertia in the roots, if you want but don't want to pay, your heart will be unbalanced and negative emotions will inevitably occur. The debt I owed when I was a child will be paid back sooner or later! Why are you so stubborn?

Finally, take a philosophical essay to share with you:

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn;

If a child lives in hostility, they learn to fight;

If a child lives in fear, they learn to worry;

If a child lives in pity, they learn to blame themselves;

If a child lives with irony, they learn to be shy;

If a child lives in shame, they will learn to feel guilty;

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident;

If a child lives with patience, he learns patience;

If a child lives with praise, they learn to be grateful;

If a child lives in acceptance, he learns to love;

If a child lives in recognition, they learn to love themselves;

If a child lives in sharing, they learn to be generous;

If a child lives in recognition, they learn to have a goal;

If a child lives in honesty and integrity, they will learn truth and justice;

If a child lives in safety, they learn to trust themselves and the people around them;

If a child lives in love, they will know that the world is a good place to live;

If a child lives in sincerity, they learn to live in peace.

Family education is the foundation of children. What school education does is to cultivate branches, leaves and flowers on the roots. The roots are unstable, and all the cultivation above will not flourish. And this root is body, character and habit.

Honey. Are you ready as a parent?