First, learn to respect children. Put forward some unreasonable demands or opinions to your children. Even if you disagree or disapprove, listen to your children's real thoughts patiently, fully understand their opinions and then put forward your ideas through exchange of opinions. Don't blindly preach regardless of children's feelings, take appropriate forms for things that need intervention, and avoid being simple and rude to lead to deeper barriers.
Second, stay calm. Anxious parents should remind themselves to stay calm and wait for their children to calm down before communicating. Don't get angry with children, don't be rough, don't hit people. This will not only not correct the child's mistakes, but also aggravate the child's rebellious psychology, which is not conducive to the child's growth for a long time.
Third, we should also talk about ways to love children. We can't do cruel and heartless stupid things. A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is cold in June. It's important to talk well. What we lack for children is not love, but the way of love.
Fourth, give children some space, and parents must do what they promised first. Parents must keep their promises to their children and do well. Children should also be supervised to do what they are asked to do. Parents and children are equal in front of each other, with clear rewards and punishments. If parents fail to do what they promised, they should be punished and set a good example for their children. If the only child is punished in the face of mistakes, it will encourage their rebellious psychology.
Fifth, don't do everything yourself, but discuss it with your children. By the age of three or four, children have their own independent thinking and generally know what is right and wrong. At this time, parents should not do everything for their children, but should encourage their children to do it by themselves, discuss with them, find ways and make suggestions together. Give children a sense of accomplishment. Don't say you are too young to do anything. After a long time, children will not take the initiative to do what they can do.
Sixth, learn to listen to children's thoughts. When children talk to their parents about topics of interest, they should pay attention. Don't be absent-minded or ignore them. If you are doing something urgent, you might as well say hello to your children so that they can understand.
Seventh, give children more care and encouragement. Educate parents not to neglect their children's dialogue needs because they are busy with work and social activities. In this particular physiological period, parents should be diligent in talking to their children. Knowing that they understand parents' verbosity and teachers' criticism in a positive sense, these teachings are all good, in order to help them grow up healthily. Parents should encourage their children to make continuous progress in the process of growing up, and don't discourage them from reading, living and studying.
Eighth, seek the help of adolescent psychological counselors. The most effective and quickest solution is to ask the teacher for help online. In fact, most children's rebellion is caused by their parents' wrong educational methods. As long as the right educational methods are used, children will naturally listen to your opinions and will be willing to communicate with you.