1, communication mode
Try to reduce the frequency of communication with children in language, and express it in a way that children can accept, such as stories, games, children's songs, etc. Children's nature is play, and play is an important means for children to know the world. In play, it opens the child's heart, lowers the child's psychological defense and releases the child's nature. If language is needed, the counselor will try to guide the child with simple and straightforward language in the process of interacting with the child.
In addition, after many attempts, children's psychological counselors have learned to interact logically with children. For example, in the sandbox game, the child points to the cat's toy and says "This is XX", and the experienced psychological counselor will ask "Does he have any other friends?" Or "What are you?" ... slowly, the communication between the two sides will become smoother and smoother, and the child's intimacy with the counselor will become stronger and stronger.
2. Family factors of origin.
Family factors are the key link in children's psychological counseling. Children are still young, and many things need family intervention to be successfully completed. For example, the behavior description and symptom introduction of problem children need to be accompanied by adults. In addition, although it is child counseling, it is often parents who have problems. Parents like to complain that their children have "problems", but they often ignore or simply don't admit their own problems. It is best to communicate with parents and children, and solving family factors can get twice the result with half the effort.
3. Communication attitude
Be patient and tolerant of children, give them more initiative and treat them with equality. The child's heart is actually very sensitive, and it is normal to have distrust of strangers. Through game therapy, painting, sand table and other projects, it is a good way for counselors to open the situation. This process needs to wait and observe.
Children's psychological counselors will instill in children the attitude of "you have your own rights, and you can play freely here without restrictions" through specific actions such as squatting with your children and letting them sign their names. This will help deepen the consultation process and consolidate the consultation-visit relationship.
Having said that, I finally summed it up in three sentences:
Love children, talk about the world, listen to the world and see the world. Don't feel childish. "Three views" are different. Why should children believe you?
Don't stare at children, sometimes think about how to communicate with parents;
Give children enough patience and respect;