1, the more you fear, the bigger your child is. If you are a fearful parent, you will have a child with any problems. The more you are afraid, the bigger the problem for your child. Fear leads to manipulation. The more afraid you are, the more inclined you are to grab something to make yourself feel a sense of belonging. The master is the brain, and the child is usually a free heart. They are as changeable as water and difficult to manipulate. This makes you want to grasp, control and manipulate more. The more you can't grasp, the more you can't control, the more you can't control. The more fears you have, the bigger your children will be, so the more problems you see. The child is a problem child. Is that really the case? Without your fear, your suppression or discrimination, he is a difficult child to educate. Is it true?/You don't say. Ask yourself.

If you are a completely fearless mom and dad, your child can develop naturally. Everyone wants their children to have enough wisdom and ability when they grow up. How can a child show greater wisdom and ability when he grows up? That is to let him develop according to his own nature. If a child develops according to his natural appearance, his wisdom and ability may be maximized when he grows up. But if not, you should shape or practice him purposefully. As an adult, he may be excellent in a certain field, but his wisdom will not be brought into full play. It is not easy to let a little dragon develop freely on the vast grassland. Xiaolong's host family must have a great and fearless heart! He will worry that Xiaolong will encounter such risks and problems on the road. He will worry about what will happen to Xiaolong in the future, what will happen to his long-term contacts, and these. How dare you let go of your child? You have no courage. In the random modeling of a child, we can see how fearless a parent is. He is not as bold as God, and his children can't enjoy the boundless world.

Do you know what is best for his life? In front of the baby, everyone seems to be the creator. In front of a young child, everyone often subconsciously plays the creator: we know what is best for him and we know what is best for him. From the long-term perspective of his life, you do know what is best for your child, don't you? Using your "knowledge" to adjust your child's way and impose what you think is good or right on your child is really a hijacking. You're taking his life. Whatever. You're taking his heart. Do you know how many stupid things you have done to children in the name of love or kindness to children? When a person is at the beginning, how you look at yourself, you also look at others. You punish your child by punishing yourself, and you blame him by blaming yourself. If you are still a parent with many problems, how can you educate a child who is different from you? The more you manage, the more he looks like you. The more you manage, the more he becomes what you don't expect him to be-the more you become the brand image you hate in your own heart. Only the less you care, the less he likes you, and the more new parts you don't have in your life.

4, knowledge education and wisdom education Everyone often regards knowledge as wisdom, which is also an illusion. Under the direct influence of this illusion, everyone wants to have more knowledge and try their best to put knowledge into their own thinking, which also leads to their educational methods. After the parents' "expectations" for themselves expire, they put their previous "expectations" on their children. They want their children to become a wise man. How do they ensure this? Instill him with a lot of knowledge. If a child can read more than 1000 at the age of four, and can recite three-character classics and thousands of characters, everyone thinks he is very clever. And what's the use of this? You just store more data and information on the computer's SSD. Therefore, when educating children, we should pay attention to the inner emptiness. Knowledge education is an education of existence, while wisdom education is an empty education. Remember, preservation gives your children a lot of space, not nothing-please attach great importance to wisdom education rather than knowledge education. Master's career: study and training are not for better remembering knowledge, but for better arousing kindness and erupting wisdom. Knowledge is specialized and wisdom is universal. Knowledge is not energy, knowledge is only a special tool, and wisdom is energy!

5. stipulate, expect, and promise whether you love everyone, and consider whether you are happy or how much you love a person, usually depending on whether you have stipulated, expected, or made a negative commitment to him, or how deep. The more rules we set for a person, the higher our expectations, and the dirtier our manipulation-the more promises we make, the more we love that person; On the contrary, people don't like him or love him deeply. Is it true?/You don't say. This is not correct. Supply, expectation or commitment are just substitutes for fear. They are another incarnation of fear, another name. Rules, expectations and commitments represent love. Are you sure that's true or not? In human education, because of our own fears, the conclusion "stipulation", "expectation" or "commitment" becomes our connection with another individual. When we make an agreement, expectation or commitment to him, it can make everyone feel a deeper and closer connection with each other and make us feel safe. Education is to fill the sense of belonging. The more one pays attention to education, the greater the sense of insecurity behind it. Education seems to be a kind of manipulation, which is based on fantasy and fear of the future. Education is a manifestation of fear. The more afraid a person is, the more he wants to have it. The more afraid he is, the more he seems to need to be educated.