I believe there is no one who doesn't know white. He also has unique views on educating children. Many people always tell their children that "you must be the first in the exam", but he never "doesn't let the children be the first in the exam". The seemingly lazy way of education, he has cultivated a son who is a master of learning.
And what is his educational philosophy? In his view, when educating children, children must be made to suffer these three kinds of hardships, and parents must not be soft-hearted.
What are the three kinds of sufferings? 1, material suffering
Many people rely on some money at home to send their children away easily. No matter what children want to buy, parents will satisfy them one by one, but they forget the parent-child interaction with their children and often ignore the role of companionship. This will only raise children who are all sick.
Materially, only by letting children suffer properly can we know that it is not easy for mom and dad to make money. Learning to be grateful and content will make children's future life more complete.
2. The pain of learning
After entering the society, many people realize that going to school is actually the happiest time in our lives. Many old people often say that at the age when we should study and suffer, if we enjoy ourselves, we will only suffer more in the future.
Many people study hard in junior high school and high school, and they start to be lazy when they go to college. You know, learning itself is a very boring thing, but when we really put ourselves into it, we will find that it is actually not painful.
3, the pain of failure
Our life can't go uphill forever, there will always be downhill, but if children have been living in a beautiful family built by their parents, there will be no obstacles in their lives, and no one will constrain them no matter what they do. Once they face setbacks and failures, they often find it difficult to accept them.
Therefore, we might as well let them try setbacks and failures. Only after experiencing the pain of failure can children learn to face it bravely and live a better life after leaving their parents.
When educating children, we should learn to let go appropriately, learn to be cruel, and treat children with a correct view. After all, they need to go on their own for a long time to come.
What should parents pay attention to in education? First: don't be coquettish.
If parents spoil their children especially at ordinary times, it seems that it is good for their children, and parents have saved their hearts, but this will only hinder their children from becoming better people. Adults will also lack self-motivation, because they don't even have the most basic independent ability, and they will become neets when they grow up.
Therefore, in the matter of loving children, there must be principles and a bottom line. What is really good for children is to cultivate their independent ability. Only when a person knows how to stand on his own feet can he be grateful to his parents and better educate his children.
Second: Don't yell and scold at random.
When children do something wrong, such as eating badly or throwing toys everywhere, parents often shout at the top of their lungs. Children can't understand what adults say. Our anger has no educational effect on children at all It will only make children feel that their parents are strange, and it will also scare them. Therefore, it is important to communicate with children patiently.
Third: Appropriate encouragement.
Excellent children gradually become useful with the encouragement of their families, and unqualified parents will not know how to encourage them in their daily lives. When children do something right, we should learn to encourage them in time, so as to build up their confidence and make them better when they grow up.
Conclusion: Family education has a great influence on a person. Whether children can become better in the future does have a lot to do with their own efforts, but it also has something to do with the influence of their parents. Therefore, everyone should understand that it is not a bad thing to let them suffer in education, but it will stimulate their growth.