If the tube is loose, the child will become a "little devil on earth" and lawless; Strict words will bind children and make them introverted and inferior.
So how do you master this degree?
Professor Li Meijin from the Public Security University gave some advice to parents, that is, "two don't care, three don't get used to it", so that children can take fewer detours and take more detours in the future.
Anyway; anyway/no matter what/ in any case
1, regardless of minor difficulties.
Children will always encounter such and such problems in their lives. If parents rush in front of their children and solve problems for them, then the children can't grow up.
Because I am used to my parents helping me solve it, when one day I have to solve it myself, my children will start to panic and feel inferior, thinking that I can't do it without my parents.
Such children are often more vulnerable and less resistant to setbacks than other children. When other children encounter difficulties, they can adjust their mentality more quickly and find ways to overcome them.
However, children who always rely on their parents, when encountering difficulties, the first thing that comes to mind is to hide behind and avoid problems.
Then these two kinds of children will lead completely different lives in the future, so in normal times, when children encounter some minor difficulties, parents should guide and encourage them, rather than "replace" them to solve problems.
No matter what children should do.
Although the child is still young, it is not impossible to do anything, such as folding the quilt, preparing tomorrow's clothes and making an agreement with the child. These are all things that the child can make his own decisions.
Then parents must learn to let go when facing such problems and things as children. In this way, parents will be more relaxed; Secondly, children will be more responsible for their own affairs. Children who grow up in such an environment will not only be more confident in character, but also be more planned in doing things.
Three are not used to it
1, disrespect others.
Now many families have only one child, and five or six elders in the family spoil him alone, begging the stars not to give the moon. The child hit grandma today, and grandma said the child didn't mean it; Give grandpa an order tomorrow, and grandpa said, it doesn't matter, just play with him when the child is young. ...
Then in the world of children, it will be considered that this is allowed. Then, when the child grows up, parents want to control the child's behavior, but at this time, the child has formed a habit, it is difficult to correct it, and the child will not understand why it used to be like this, but now it is not.
Therefore, parents must not spoil their children when they don't respect others, and should stop them in time. The child is 3 years old and beat his grandmother. As long as the mother tells him seriously that it is wrong, the child will correct it.
But when the child 13 years old, even if the parents severely beat the child, it is difficult for the child to correct it, but it will make the child more rebellious.
2, no sense of responsibility, not used to it
No one likes punishment, no matter adults or children, so when a child does something wrong and parents ask who did it, then the child's instinct is to escape.
But relying on this instinct, children will become liars and irresponsible people, which is untenable in this society, so parents must correct their children's bad habits in time.
Many times, children either make mistakes intentionally or don't know that they have done something wrong. They judge whether they are willing to admit it by their parents' faces and expressions, so parents might as well improve their attitude.
Let the children know that the mother asked who did it, not to punish anyone, but to solve it better, so that the children will be braver and more willing to make up for their mistakes.
3. I'm not used to the principle of touching the bottom line
Many parents complain that they clearly made an agreement with their children, and the children also promised not to commit any more crimes, but what can they do if they go back on their words in the future?
I made an agreement with my child for the first time, and then the child broke it. If my parents don't punish this behavior, my children will think I can do it again, so I will challenge my parents' principles and bottom line again and again.
But when the child made a mistake for the first time, his parents immediately stopped him and gave him some punishment in time when he made another mistake. When the child has learned his lesson, he will know that this matter has touched the bottom line of his parents, and I can't continue to do it.
Rules, morals, etc. Children don't understand it from birth, so they need the norms of their parents.
Then when the child does something wrong, he must stop the child quickly in a reasonable and effective way, so that the child can regulate his behavior without hitting a wall again and again and grow into a better person.
Only by educating parents as early as possible can children avoid detours.
but
Good habits are not formed in a day or two.
Children's subtle changes require parents' perseverance, so in this process,
It is essential to guide children to read some picture books that regulate their behavior habits.
Through the protagonist who is similar to the child's age, he resonates with the child, thus forming good habits. I recommend emotional management and personality cultivation for children aged 3-8. There are a series of 10 topics to help parents regulate their children's behavior from different angles.
Let the children "experience the hardships of their parents and know how to be grateful to their parents" through the situational mode.
"Be a caring and kind-hearted person", "obey the rules when going out and do things with etiquette", "be able to feel the joy of helping others" and "be able to distinguish right from wrong and correct mistakes" ...
At the same time, it is also a bilingual picture book, which not only regulates children's behavior, but also helps parents enlighten their English thinking.
In addition, there will be "words for parents" behind each theme, which can help parents understand the relevant knowledge of children's psychology, so that children can get a better education and become a more upright, caring, grateful and polite boy.
10 is only 59.8 yuan, which is less than that of 6 yuan on average, that is, the money for a breakfast can help children grow up better, develop good habits and good personality, and cultivate good reading habits at the same time, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone! What a bargain!
In addition, a set of 30 volumes of "Emotional Intelligence and Personality Cultivation of Children Aged 0-6" has solved many problems that children may encounter in the process of growing up from many angles, improved their behavior management ability and shaped their good personality, and gradually improved their emotional intelligence.
Through a wonderful story, let the children see "themselves" from the story, reflect silently and grow up. A total of 30 picture books, only 62.8 yuan to catch up with the special event!
If you fold it, 2 yuan will be a little more.
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