After studying in parents' schools in recent years, parents' educational concepts, methods and effects have been improved to varying degrees: some misunderstandings in the past, such as "letting nature take its course", leaving children alone; Wrong ideas such as "a dutiful son is born under the stick", abuse and reprimand, punch and kick, and "transform" in study and practice.
Next, let's analyze the uniqueness of a parent education through a story.
Second, the case flow:
At that meeting, she told me that as the child grew up year by year, the original bookcase was not enough and needed a new bookcase. I bought a small bookshelf in the supermarket. On the day of the parents' meeting, the children had little homework, and she wanted them to assemble it themselves. When the child came home from school, he saw a bag of boards in the room. After listening to her suggestion, he was willing to assemble the bookcase himself, but she only gave the child tools and didn't tell him how to assemble it.
It's time for dinner at half past five. She asked the children to put down their tools and have dinner with her. The children said to wait until they were ready. So, while eating, she watched him assemble bookcases in the living room. About ten minutes later, the child complained: "The board is too heavy, the screws are difficult to twist, and the work is very laborious. At first, I didn't notice the seams between the plates. When he had to redo it, he felt all thumbs. If the boss hires an employee like me, the company will definitely lose money, then I will definitely be fired by the boss. " But instead of blaming him, she immediately reminded him that the company has a three-month probation period for recruiting new employees, and further joked: "If your uncle's company recruits smart and diligent employees like you, mom will be very happy every day." Probably when the third screw was put in, the board was a little broken because of too much hand strength, and the child cried anxiously: "It's over, I broke it." She looked at it carefully, and there was nothing wrong. He was also encouraged to say, "Don't be nervous, just let nature take its course. It's really broken Even if it is a gift from my mother, I will spend 50 yuan to buy you another one. " After the whole family has finished eating, the children still don't want to give up what they are doing. She didn't rush him, but let him do what he wanted.
When she came back from a walk, she went to the child's small room, which was really unexpected. The small room was changed, the floor was wiped, neat stationery was put on the desk, and the small bookcase was put in the most suitable position. There are many books in the bookcase, and his own paintings are stuck on the wall. Suddenly, like changing a house, the space has become bigger.
Since then, children always like to make small toys, handicrafts and so on. It not only developed his intelligence, stimulated his innovative consciousness, but also made him develop a good habit of thrift, which really killed two birds with one stone.
Third, successful sharing.
1. Parents are children's first teachers. Guide and encourage children to have a correct evaluation of themselves through the story of children assembling small bookcases by themselves; Especially when children encounter setbacks, parents' encouragement is that children raise their confident sails; When a child is worried about something, his parents guide him to put down his ideological burden and do it boldly, which is the booster of his "I can do it".
2. In the process of children's growth, in addition to the constant encouragement and help of teachers, it depends largely on the timely guidance and encouragement of parents. A family education expert once said: "Without successful children, there is no successful life! There must be excellent educational methods behind excellent children. There are no children with poor education, only parents who have not mastered the educational methods. Parents use scientific educational methods to guide, guide and encourage in time, leaving a small success from their children's dribs and drabs, which will cast the success of their children's lives.
Respect, equality, interaction and communication are the bridges for parents to guide their children's growth. Respect and equality are the basis of communication. The combination of exercise, communication and learning knowledge is a three-dimensional interactive atmosphere of family education. In the process of making bookcases, Li Yang's parents did not blindly attack and criticize their children, but helped them solve problems through communication and gave them timely encouragement, which made him braver in setbacks.
4. When the happiness messenger gives the "seed" of happiness to his parents, parents should create a good family atmosphere to cultivate him and water him with the advanced educational concept of family education to make him blossom and bear fruit. At the same time, parents should be learning parents, join hands with the school and make progress in learning; Join hands with children and grow together in parent-child relationship!