Here, we don't mention the situation of children being beaten unconsciously, but analyze why children aged 3-4 develop the habit of hitting people, and what kind of influence parents' attitude will have on children. Educators believe that parents' different attitudes towards children's beatings will lead to different results. For example:

1, stop it in a consulting tone: When the child hits someone else, the mother says in a consulting tone: Baby, can we stop hitting the child? Such questions can't make children distinguish right from wrong.

Obviously, Yang Yang is always accused, and no one in the whole kindergarten can beat him. I really can't help him.

3. Inappropriate joke: "Ran Ran, hit this smelly brother."

4. Verbally stop no action: the child hits people, and the parents just scold the child "Don't hit people." But there is no action to pull the child away.

5, no criticism of the action to stop: just opened the child who hit people, but did not tell the child where his mistake was.

6. The overreaction strengthened the child's awareness of hitting people: in the face of complaints from other parents, the angry father slapped him, "Look at you hitting people again next time!" . Children will also learn to beat people as a means to vent their emotions.

These methods do not have a very clear concept of good and evil for children's "beating" behavior and cannot play an educational role. At this time, parents' attitude should be very clear. First of all, we should stop it in time and solemnly tell them "no hitting." Then allow children to complain about the reasons for hitting people. Parents should clearly express their attitude towards this matter and explain the truth to their children. If it is caused by other children, it is necessary to tell children that there are many ways to solve the problem, and hitting people is not the best way to solve the problem. If the child is emotional and can't listen to the truth, he can temporarily "cold treat" and wait for the child to calm down before further explanation.

Second, it is suggested to teach children ways to protect themselves:

1. Seriously say "Please don't touch me" to my face.

2. Say "Don't hit me" loudly.

3. Push him away with your hand.

4. Ask the teacher to explain the situation.

Generally speaking, when children can bravely use the above methods to protect themselves, the situation of being bullied will change after several times. I hope these suggestions can inspire parents.