Carnegie said: Only 65,438+05% of a person's success depends on his professional skills, while 85% depends on his interpersonal relationship and ability to deal with people.
British Prime Minister Churchill said: How many people can you talk to and how great your achievements are!
Warren Buffett said: One thing you must do, whether you like it or not, is to make a speech in public easily, which may take some effort. This is a kind of wealth that will accompany you for 50 to 60 years. If you don't like it, it is your disadvantage, which will accompany you for 50 or 60 years. This is a necessary skill.
"Mao Sui's Self-recommendation" said: A debate in one word is more important than the treasure of Jiuding; A glib tongue is better than a million teachers.
In ancient times, an elderly Pharaoh earnestly warned his son who was about to inherit the throne: "Be an eloquent man, and you will become a real strong man. The tongue is a sword, and speaking is more powerful than fighting! "
"Wit is not necessarily eloquent, but eloquence must be talented". Eloquence is an important ability that modern people must have, and it is also an essential quality for creative and pioneering talents, because a person expresses his views with clear language and meticulous logic, supplemented by expressive actions, which increases his comprehensive rendering power and personal charm. A person's speaking ability can represent his strength. People with good eloquence are easily respected and admired, while those with poor eloquence are easily left out and forgotten.
Eloquence is a tool of interpersonal communication and a comprehensive embodiment of human wisdom. Good eloquence is a powerful weapon for outstanding talents to forge ahead. Because a person's daily joys and sorrows are often reflected in his language, what we say when we are in contact with people is very important. With talent and no eloquence, he may achieve the goal of success, but with eloquence, his chances of success will be greatly improved, because your talent can be fully displayed through your manners, so that the other party can know you better, trust you more, and let the other party dare to entrust you with important tasks.
Eloquence is so important, how can we have eloquence? The training methods of Dalian Carnegie Speech Eloquence School are introduced as follows, hoping to help you!
First, the control and grasp of the word "eloquence" in the training process
Dalian Carnegie Institute of Speech and Eloquence has different interpretations of the word "eloquence" in the process of talent training, and then adopts corresponding training methods. "Mouth" is mainly manifested in the fluency, cadence and urgency of language expression, coupled with the coordination of expression, eyes and head posture. "Talent" is your own thoughts, opinions, viewpoints and feelings, or the thoughts, opinions, opinions and feelings of others that you can express. Some "gifted" individuals vary greatly. Strictly speaking, "talents" can not be cultivated in a short time, which is related to people's values, concepts and thinking. But "oral English" can be trained in a short time, that is, expression ability and skills.
1. If you simply cultivate "talents", you just want to cultivate a "Li Bai". It is estimated that it will never happen again after three to five years, and it is almost impossible to train in a short time.
2. Your own "talent" or other people's "talent", as long as you can express it, others will regard it as your "talent". This shows the importance of "mouth" in daily life, work and interpersonal communication. "Mouth" can be completely trained, and it is not as difficult as imagined. The operation method is mainly to understand the deep reason of "mouth" and then prescribe the right medicine!
3, "mouth" training method:
A) solve the tension problem. This part mainly aims at psychological endurance and open mind. Including voice, expression, eyes and head posture.
B) the logic of expression. Language organization formula, that is, language organization skills.
C) Solve the problems of expressing affinity, appeal, shock and penetration. Fast 3V convergence training.
4. If all kinds of eloquence training institutions pay too much attention to "talent" or take "talent" as the starting point of training, then there is no doubt that the training effect is very poor. Because, strictly speaking, "talent" cannot be cultivated, and it is absolutely impossible to cultivate it in a short time.
5. To judge whether the training of eloquence training institutions is effective, we can know whether it is aimed at "mouth" and the corresponding countermeasures and methods. No matter how the other side ensures that they can vomit blood after training. The premise is that you have a "lotus", and eloquence training is to make you spit it out, not to train you to have a "lotus". It is absolutely impossible to say that training has made you a "lotus"!
Second, theory guides eloquence training
1, gestalt theory, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Gestalt psychologists believe that "the beauty of the whole is greater than the sum of its parts", so we should consider the whole form of a situation, not the various components in this situation. Trainers pay attention to the whole person, so strictly speaking, the school curriculum is not to teach eloquence, but to pursue self-development.
2, humanism, self-fulfilling personality People can affirm themselves, regard themselves as a valuable person, and achieve their goals because they know themselves.
3. Self-efficacy theory, reinforcement theory and citation theory prove that it is more acceptable and memorable for students to talk about evaluation immediately and comment afterwards. Teachers don't need criticism that weakens their confidence. The teacher emphasized the overall advantages of students' speech. If there is anything that needs to be corrected, the teacher also achieves the purpose of correction through indirect and harmless ways. Since a person must feel successful in order to succeed, the teacher should try his best to make every student feel a sense of accomplishment after the speech. Teachers should often quote famous writers and celebrities to strengthen the effectiveness of comments.
4. The courses of difference theory and conformity theory require individuals to seek internal growth first, and then form external, and respect each student's personality. Teachers deeply understand the existence of individual differences among students, and ask students to compare their feelings before training in all aspects, rather than comparing with other students. Students should bring what they have learned to all aspects of life. It is the teacher's responsibility to guide students to truly apply what they have learned to life sincerely and meaningfully. And because of the group driving force in the classroom, students almost always use it automatically and consciously.
5. Motivation theory teachers emphasize the possible benefits, point out how to cultivate skills, and show the effect of changing attitudes in each study, thus inducing students to have the motivation to achieve their goals. After each speech, the teacher will point out their progress.
6. In the theory of business constraints, good performance is praised and strengthened immediately, while shortcomings are ignored. At this time, students will naturally form a habit of doing well.
7. Strengthen language practice based on students' practical experience, so that students can understand their own development and motivation. They realize that there is nothing unusual about their fears in some cases, and students can also find the value of the principles and commandments taught in the applied courses, because the students who give speeches are living witnesses, and they have proved the effectiveness of these principles and commandments and that they can benefit from the application in private life and business.
8. Methodology 65438+ 0/3 of each course is used to build students' self-confidence; Due to self-efficacy and self-development, after self-confidence is established, the focus shifts to the present and the future.
9. Self-suggestion theory A person's inner self-dialogue determines a person's view of himself and is the basis of action. They gain the strength to face life from their growing self-confidence and enthusiasm, and they enhance their ability to communicate opinions more effectively, so as to enjoy better interpersonal relationships, get the greatest satisfaction and pursue self-development in business, society and private life.
Third, the training course arrangement
1. release part: mainly for "voice, expression, eyes, head posture"
2. Language organization: "speech formula" in various occasions.
3, integration training: mainly training the integration of speech eloquence 3V.
Fourth, self-exercise eloquence.
1, perseverance
Failure cannot rule out the influence of mentality. You won't be defeated unless you give up. No matter how many times you fall, you won't be crushed as long as you get up again. If you fail, keep going and keep trying, and you will succeed. Don't become a coward because of failure, but go forward bravely in the face of failure and frustration.
When you try your best and still don't succeed, don't give up, don't change your goal, just start another plan. Failure is hard for people to persist, but success is easy to continue. If the work is harder than you think, please remember: there is no such thing as a free lunch, and nothing can make you stay in bed all day and become a sports champion.
Nothing in the world can replace perseverance. Talent is not allowed, people without talent abound, and geniuses who have accomplished nothing are not uncommon; Education is not good either. The world is full of people who are useless at learning. Only perseverance and determination are invincible.
2. Eight steps to success in eloquence.
① Setting goals: When to reach what standards;
(2) Speak loudly: If you are out of your mind, if you stand in front of an audience and tremble with fear, you should speak very loudly;
3 fast speech: fast speech can make the brain run faster; If you can concentrate on reading quickly, you can read two books in the time when you only need to read one book, and get a more thorough understanding.
Appropriate pause: When the speech speed is fast, pause appropriately at punctuation, which can get dramatic silence effect. Let the audience catch up with your ideas;
⑤ Emphasize important words: Pause after the words you want to emphasize can play an important role. Emphasize words that are important to you or your audience, for example, words like "you";
6 Voice with a smile: If you have a smile on your face and a smile in your eyes, you can make your voice contain a smile. In this way, when you speak loudly and quickly, you can avoid rough pronunciation;
⑦ Change the tone: As long as you can speak loudly, you can change the pitch and volume of your speech;
Take immediate action: When you are calm, you can speak in a warm and lively tone.
3, three weeks of successful self-training eloquence
Theory: success is simple, but it is very troublesome! Trouble is the easiest to fail, and it is easy to find a proper excuse for this failure; Difficulties and challenges are easy to motivate people to succeed, because people are often not afraid of the inevitable big difficulties! Always appreciate the law of quantitative change and qualitative change of philosophy. You may have gone through 10 days without much progress, but I don't know who arranged it, and everything will go according to your original requirements. The first 80% of the time is often fruitless, don't be discouraged, don't be discouraged, and the next 20% will make you get what you want!
Tools: Imagination-two skills developed from it, suggestion and self-image → belief, self-confidence and concentration.
2 1 day the process of training your eloquence
Now that you have made up your mind to practice your eloquence, you already have the first few steps of a successful process, so I will omit them here. The following is the process of practicing eloquence!
① Thinking → ② Objectives → ③ Planning → ④ Action → ⑤ Evaluation.
① Thinking: First of all, what is the reason why I didn't have this ability before? Think about the written text of the evaluation results in the future, in order to improve! (1 day)
② Goal: Self-goal "Train the boldest speech, the loudest speech and the smoothest speech".
Self-oath: I must speak boldly, loudly and fluently.
Completion time: 2 1 day.
③ Plan:
1. Self-suggestion: Before getting up in the morning and before going to bed at night, silently recite 10 times: "I must speak the boldest, I must speak the loudest, I must speak the most fluently, and I can do it!" Hint, read or write silently by yourself during the day, at least 10 times. When you meditate, you should see and hear everyone applaud your wonderful speech. You are proud of it! (10 minutes)
2. Self-image: At least 65,438+00 minutes, imagine your successful speech in front of everyone. When I saw and heard everyone admire your wonderful speech, everyone stood up and raised their hands to ask questions. You were in high spirits and didn't know who to answer first. Finally, a man ran to the stage with tears in his eyes and said, "Thank you, you answered the question that I was puzzled about 10." I also want to ask a question? "Then he ran back to his seat. You are more enthusiastic, smiling and making a series of philosophical remarks. Everyone nods like a woodpecker. Finally, you end your answer with poetic words and inspiring gestures. Remember the thunderous applause 1 minute! (10 minutes)
Practice smiling in front of the mirror for at least 5 minutes (say the mouth shape of eggplant), and practice gestures and standing. (5 minutes)
4. Take at least 10 minutes of deep breathing training every day. Read inspiring articles aloud for 5 minutes and speak loudly for at least 5 minutes every day. (20 minutes)
5. Communicate consciously with at least 5 people every day. (10 minutes)
6. Train yourself once a day 10 minutes of speech or 10 minutes of silent reading. (10 minutes)
7. Tell at least one complete story to your relatives or colleagues every day. (10 minutes)
8. Grind your teeth and laugh 10 times a day, cultivate the habit of laughing, smile brightly and sincerely, and don't laugh half-heartedly. (4 minutes)
9. Train to face others' eyes, eyes and sight, and cultivate self-confidence, observation and insight. (4 minutes)
④ Action: Complete ② ③ every day, persist, persist and persist again. Where there is a will, there is a way; Climbing is a matter of perseverance, but tackling the problem has nothing to do with deliberation!
⑤ Evaluation: At the end of the day, take 20 minutes to evaluate today's results and write them down in black and white:
A. what is not enough and how to improve it.
B. Did you say the first sentence bravely, loudly or quietly? Why don't you speak loudly?
C. When did you become nervous and stuck, and how did you improve? Did you console yourself at that time: "Why were you nervous just now? It doesn't matter, continue to speak steadily ";
D. Stick to your goal and continue from tomorrow!
4. Self-improvement supplementary exercise materials and others
(1) inspirational articles, such as a chapter of a scroll, the text is less than or equal to 600 words, not too much!
② Read aloud. Read aloud, otherwise it will be invalid. Reading aloud can be divided into fast reading, slow reading, fast reading, changing intonation reading, fast reading and changing intonation reading, fast reading and changing intonation reading, changing intonation reading and expressive reading.
③ Retelling and reciting. Pay attention to cadence, urgency, eyes and expressions, head posture, etc. The voice.
Finally, Dalian Carnegie Speech Eloquence School wishes you "eloquent, eloquent and eloquent" as soon as possible!