A lifeless life
Zhang
What does happiness look like in your eyes? I wanted to invite an IT person to talk about this topic. "I'm afraid I really can't spare the time," he hesitated and said awkwardly. "I don't think I can arrange time for writing. Why don't we talk and you start sorting out?" I know he is busy. He has been flying around and making several phone calls, and he hasn't slept before 1 in the morning. That's settled. When I flew back, I was told that I should always receive a big customer who came to visit. As a result, the "30-minute" "appointment" was also cancelled.
There are no weekends, and I work overtime in the office in my spare time on weekdays. Even when eating, you should repeatedly consider the cost of time. In my impression, he is a standard "no life" person-I started thinking about work when I opened my eyes in the morning; During the day, get rid of trivial matters such as eating, drinking and bathing in the shortest time, eat the food that is the easiest to chew and swallow, and drink as little as possible to reduce the working hours embezzled by these "insignificant" things and their side effects; Constantly detect how short sleep can be, so as to promote more and more sleep time to work time; Try to leave some unfinished things in your dream to improve your work efficiency after waking up ... As for leisure: watching movies, visiting parks, traveling, and even staring blankly, there is no way-this is the definition of "no life" in FT Chinese website.
At the same time, I also received a letter from a senior student who just entered the internship stage: "I have been in Beijing for two days and I am internship in a software company. I'm so tired here. I've only been here for two days. It's like two months. The employees here rarely leave before 1 1 in the afternoon, and everyone works overtime until almost afternoon 12, and they say it happens every day. Now I sleep for 6 hours every night, eat for 2 hours at noon, and leave at 1 1: 30, which is too early. In the basement of the company, there are 15 people, a * * *, which is a bed. If there were no classmates here, I wouldn't have a quilt and mattress on the first night. Compared with here, school life is a paradise. I miss school time too much, hehe, but it's not that good. I'm in the test group now, but all the members of our group are away on business, and I haven't seen any of them. It seems that I will travel all over the country after staying. When I first came, it was particularly uncomfortable. I don't think there is a job here. It's hopeless, and the conditions and work pressure make people breathless. But it's much better now. I'm used to it. Although I am still struggling in business, I am calm. If I fight hard, I will win. I will work hard. "
Another friend is a media colleague and a typical representative of "no life". "You can work until the early hours of the morning and continue to run the press conference the next morning. Before you go to bed in the morning, you are still whispering who you are going to interview the next day. You still don't trust me. I checked some relevant information on the Internet last time. If you don't go out to eat, just order a box lunch and pull it twice. Your eyebrows are slightly raised and you are still thinking about work; When I wake up in the morning, I immediately look at the time, and then whisper what time it is, what time it is. Watching performances, shopping and eating with friends seems to be outside the itinerary and is a standard non-essential activity in the itinerary. "
As I was writing this article, my waist and cervical vertebra began to ache again because of my long-term desk. Due to the concentration of mental work, headaches have been recurring and never stopped. But a friend in Shenzhen sent a short message saying that she was in a flower shop. Her boyfriend bought her three roses, and the beautiful proprietress also sent some lover grass. Now her eyes are full of spring.
Life is always busy, and happiness often comes from only one detail in life.
When happiness shines into reality
Zhang Jinhui
Talking about happiness is a bit like moaning without illness, just like in Legend of Wulin, a rich man who has no worries about food and clothing asks his mother, "What is happiness in your eyes?" His mother was asked, "Don't worry about eating, don't worry about wearing, don't worry about tomorrow!" ""But have you ever cared about my heart? Do you know what I really want? " The tears in Mr. Qian's eyes made him look wronged. Happiness, a thing with personal characteristics, will always become elusive, thin and pale unconsciously once it is combined with reality.
I know a boy who graduated from a famous university majoring in computer science. As a software engineer in a well-known IT company, the monthly salary is 5000 yuan, and other benefits are calculated separately. This salary is enough to make the rookie who graduated soon envious. But this boy is very depressed:
As far as salary is concerned, it looks ok on the surface, but you don't see how hard I work. I usually work overtime, and I always have a remote control on weekends. And that old guy in the office, who is always leaning on the old and selling the old, pushes the garbage he is too lazy to do to me. And the Englishman in the same department, carrying a bag as soon as he gets off work. Sometimes when the project barely works overtime, he publicly yells at the boss, doing much less work than me, holding a salary of 2000 yuan more than me, and complaining that he is tired every day. Why? Is it because he is a foreigner?
On the corporate effect, fame is ok in China, but the distance from world-class enterprises is not so small, but far away. One of my classmates, who works in IBM, is full of love when people mention the company. If I were you, of course IBM would be a cow. Staying in a five-star hotel on business, going out for a taxi, hotel laundry fee, fitness course fee, and good welfare. I am so cool! Thief envy!
As for personal development, although my boss attaches great importance to me, compared with the salary he gives me and the job he arranges for me, if I am in the top 500 in the world, my salary will definitely double. I can own my own house as soon as possible, and my plan to buy a car can be realized as soon as possible. You can't just talk about money, vulgar! What's important is that if I am in the top 500 in the world and under the influence of the international office environment, I can also evolve into an international talent as soon as possible, and maybe I will become a hot commodity for headhunters in three to five years.
But looking back two years ago, his vision for future happiness is like this:
If I can enter a company that can provide comprehensive training and do a job that can comprehensively improve my ability, I will be very satisfied.
Of course, the salary and welfare requirements are not high, but at least food and clothing and occasional luxury should be met.
Third, in big cities, of course. Because there are many opportunities, this is natural.
The last long-term beautiful expectation-owning your own house and car as soon as possible.
Now make a comparison before and after two years-the company's idea has come true; The idea of related work has been realized; The idea of salary has also come true; The idea of a city has also come true in Shenzhen, a city that is at the forefront of fashion. In contrast, it seems safe to conclude that many troubles seem to be caused by this boy.
There is another episode-the boy has been working for less than a year, and his mother was diagnosed with rheumatic heart disease. He wants to find the best hospital for his mother, use the most advanced equipment and invite the best doctors. Growing up, he felt that his mother was so important to him, and life was so cruel in the face of his limited economic ability. When happiness shines into reality, it is as rare as winning the first prize and as easy as drinking boiled water.
A new era of success
Hu Jintian
I once watched an old American drama "Life goes on", which deeply touched my heart, so I have been deeply impressed so far. The story revolves around an ordinary single mother and a mentally retarded son. The little boy is often teased and laughed at by the children around him because of his serious mental retardation. What's more, in view of the little boy's low intelligence, no school around him is willing to accept him, and everyone suggests sending him to a special school. The little boy realized this, too. He speaks every word very hard, but he often makes mistakes. The little boy became more self-abased, afraid to associate with others and unwilling to go out. The boy's mother visited the headmaster. She said that her son is kind, willing to learn, diligent and has great potential. Moved by such maternal love, the headmaster made an exception and promised to accept the little boy, saying that he would see the specific situation after half a year.
After entering the school, the little boy really worked hard to meet the standards, but it was obvious that he was not at ease with the result. But the little boy's mother found her son playing football very well, so she often played with him in her spare time. When she thought her son was good enough to play football, she suggested that he give it a try. At first, my son was very reluctant, because in the eyes of others, "he is not normal" left him a serious shadow, but at the same time he also wanted to prove himself. So he signed up for the competition with anxiety, and his mother was as anxious as he was. On the court, the little boy's reaction is very flexible, not only normal, but even excellent. Mother's hanging heart was finally put down. In this competition, the little boy was rated as an excellent player. But, more importantly, he built up his self-confidence, began to communicate with his classmates actively, and he was also able to take a positive view of occasional mistakes, and his personality became more and more cheerful and lively.
What moved me most about this story was the mother, who didn't give her children a definition of mental retardation according to socially recognized standards. When children tend to be autistic, they are not forced to do this or that according to socially recognized standards, but to observe and discover their strengths and potentials, so that children can discover themselves and dominate themselves. In fact, without self-confidence, where can we be positive? This is human nature. Many of our parents need their children in one way or another because of their face, and ignore their children's nature. Look back at ourselves, don't you? We often demand ourselves according to the accepted standards of social customs, eager to find a shortcut to success. Nowadays, the theory of personal charm success is very popular. Many enterprises are offering leadership training, speech training, smile training and so on, hoping to achieve the success of fast food through immediate results. There is no denying that this will give people a very good effect in the first time, and even have the feeling of becoming friends with each other. But whether people can maintain a lasting and stable relationship is not determined by superficial things. In our life, we can see such people:
All day, he was in a daze and didn't express himself. Others can't understand what he is saying, and he doesn't know what he is saying. He couldn't figure out his thoughts and needs, but he was pushed forward by the wheel. In life, they gradually lost the ability to communicate and express. These people are not just those who seem mediocre and have nothing to do. Many of them hold high positions and earn a lot of money.
Department managers who really want to establish trust and good cooperation with their subordinates actively strive for the interests of their subordinates and think hard about how to strengthen the cohesion of their departments, but they are always worried that they will slack off, skip work, stumble and make irresponsible remarks once they get sick or have something to do.
Dad, who is tired from work and wants to go home and relax, watches the children make a mess at home, and criticism doesn't work. What is even more exasperating is that the educational methods and contents that he thinks are good and beneficial to children's future development are violently resisted by children for no reason. He is not only sad, but also sad.
I just graduated and haven't done a new job in depth. I sat in my seat, thinking about more attractive work, higher salary, less workload, better travel benefits and more humane leadership ... When I woke up, I felt as if I was living in hot water now.
The desire to succeed in some fast food often disturbs our minds and our sight, and the already chaotic life becomes more difficult to see. In fact, whether it is career development, interpersonal relationship or living condition, just like a child learning to walk, he must climb first, then stand and then run. It is impossible to start running before they learn to walk. Similarly, life should be done step by step, and any jump or shortcut is unrealistic. The happiness brought by the success of fast food is short-lived, and it is likely that you will lose your way at a certain point. Perhaps, we should set up our own spiritual maps in our own hearts, and establish the pillars of practical principles for these maps, so as to obtain a lasting and profound happiness.
Happiness is in your own hands.
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Judging from the employment situation of the school, computers, electronics and software are more popular; From the perspective of social workplace, IT talents are high-paid social classes, but IT people are not happy. People can't help asking, the IT industry can't feel happiness, so what is happiness and how can we get it? "Happiness" and "happiness" have always been the core propositions of classical economics research, but with the introduction of mathematical concepts such as utility and preference, people seem to ignore the research on happiness and happiness. Some people think that happiness index is an index to measure people's feelings and experiences about their own survival and development, that is, people's happiness, happiness is a positive experience. Happiness can be understood as the organic unity of satisfaction, happiness and value. In the final analysis, it is also a personal subjective feeling.
American economist Samuelson put forward a happiness equation: happiness = utility/desire. The desire of a normal person is fixed at a certain level and stage. For example, IT people hope to get corresponding income and promotion opportunities through hard work. For this, most of them will generally work hard and wait realistically, hoping to get more benefits without paying too high a cost. Then, the degree of satisfaction with the consumption or enjoyment of a certain commodity (thing) plays a decisive role in happiness. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, people's desires have different levels. Maslow's theory divides needs into five categories: physiological needs, security needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs, and people's desires will jump from lower levels to higher levels in turn.
According to Samuelson and Maslow's theory, the author thinks that happiness is in his own hands. We can't say that happiness has nothing to do with money (material things), but we can't say that there is an absolute positive correlation between them. Money can meet the basic physiological needs and security needs of human beings, but it does not mean that the more money, the stronger happiness, which is also the misunderstanding of money and happiness by most people. IT staff are well paid, but they are under great pressure and have heavy tasks. Some people spend most of their time on airplanes and become trapeze artists. And some people spend most of their time facing the computer, lacking social interaction and becoming taciturn. For them, money doesn't have much incentive and it's hard to bring utility, so there is no such thing as happiness.
For individuals, due to the influence of family conditions, educational conditions, personal ability, social relations and other factors, there are significant differences in income. The utility that individuals can obtain through money is largely independent of people's will. It is not that the harder you work, the more money you can get, and the more utility you can get. Therefore, only by controlling your own desires can you get happiness from your work.
The happiness at work first comes from the love of a certain job. This love comes from the fact that the job itself matches your expectations and abilities, and you will be full of passion and confidence when you do it. Because in this case, work is often no longer a simple means of making a living, but sublimated to a certain "career" height.
"Work as a career, work as a career" to get the pleasure of work. As the peak experience in the work, the sense of accomplishment can often resolve a lot of trivial and tiredness in the work, and make IT professionals instantly rise to the cloud of happiness. Especially for newcomers with short working hours and "old people" who have worked in the same job for a long time, they need a sense of accomplishment in their work to get happiness, and newcomers cherish this feeling more. Xiao Wang, who graduated from a university in Dalian, has worked in a small software company in high-tech zone for more than half a year. As a programmer, his main job is to deal with computers and codes. At first, I thought this life was boring, but with rich work experience, he could feel his value every time he completed a task and modified a module. Gradually, I have achieved success and happiness in my constant work.
Harmonious personnel relations create a happy atmosphere like running water. For professionals, their dependence and feelings on this environment have been accumulated for a long time. Ken likes to work, which has a lot to do with the relaxed and happy working environment in his department. At work, he feels that his personality can be fully displayed, and he doesn't have to wear a mask to be a man, so he is relaxed. Although on serious work issues, everyone will be flushed in order to stick to their own views, but we are still colleagues and friends, and we can seek common ground while reserving differences on work issues. Moreover, if you feel uncomfortable sometimes, colleagues will also try to help with cooking or do something. In the collective environment, every individual can get the collective care and respect, but the premise is that he should integrate into the collective and not marginalize himself.
Work can enrich life. Harvest in the busy, improve in the busy, and feel that every day is not wasted. The intense and intensive work in IT industry can make employees nervous and excited, know many people, see many things and realize the meaning of life. This is the self-realization process of life value.
A happy working person is undoubtedly a more creative person, which is especially important for the development of enterprises. Whether you can feel happy at work depends on whether you have done a job that suits you, whether you love your job, whether you can get a sense of accomplishment from your work, whether you can get a sense of belonging from the environment, and whether you live a full life. These are all in your own hands. People who are unhappy at work in the world may have their own reasons, but happy people are all similar, that is, by adjusting their own needs, they can get achievements from their work and enrich their lives.
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Who betrayed my privacy?
Xiao Zhang, who just graduated, is looking for a job. Recently, he received an email from a headhunting company: "You have become the focus of our company. Please pay attention to the relevant positions we recommend for you. " Just graduated, how can I become a talent that headhunting companies attach importance to? Zhang, who was puzzled, logged into the website in the email and found that his phone number, ID number and copies of relevant documents were rearranged and hung on it.
Xiao Wang, who participated in the interview, was also puzzled. The interviewer asked him pertinently if he liked the irregular lifestyle, and took his chaotic daily routine as evidence. Stuck Xiao Wang couldn't help asking the interviewer how he knew such information. The interviewer's answer made him regret it-the blog was very detailed!
Network makes our life more convenient and provides us with a platform to fully show ourselves. However, behind the informationization, there are also many "peeping eyes" with impure purposes. Are you worried about your privacy when you are looking for a job? Welcome to contribute to the discussion: Zhang Mengjun @ Neusoft. Omit.
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