At that time, I just felt that my philosophy was deep, and then I gradually realized that if I want to face this complex world, I must have a semi-satisfactory mentality. Everything is not perfect, but perfect.
I ching said, "when the moon is full, it will lose money, and when the water is full, it will overflow." Once you start to pursue perfection, bad luck often begins.
Therefore, Arvin thinks that if you want to muddle along in life, sometimes you have to be a little confused, half deaf, half dumb and half blind, which is the best.
Sometimes, don't be so curious, you have to listen to what others say, you just want to find out, and finally you are in trouble.
Don't care so much about other people's secrets in interpersonal relationships. Even if someone tells you voluntarily, you should only listen to half, and forget all the best things afterwards.
Sometimes, listening more is really not a good thing.
Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe published the book "The Power of Insensitive" on 13. The so-called callousness is actually cynicism, indifference, or even not listening at all, which does not affect one's emotions.
The book describes that in a Japanese hospital, the director of neurology is a doctor with a very hot temper. Every time he takes an intern, he suddenly resigns because he can't stand his insults.
But once, after a young intern came, he paid no attention to the director's abuse. He didn't seem to hear it, but just smiled foolishly. He is an extremely insensitive person.
In this way, a year later, the dean personally announced that this young man was his next successor, and the dean personally took him.
Sometimes, people who know how to be semi-deaf and dumb will automatically block many other people's gossip, and they will be silent in the face of a world where flies want to make a fool of themselves.
As the saying goes, "illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth." Most people's troubles come from your mouth. You can't control your mouth and keep you worried.
Some middle-aged people, in particular, like to mind their own business and always love to fight injustice and "do justice." But in the end it is often the best of both worlds.
It is difficult for an honest official to break housework, let alone an ordinary person.
Mencius said, "If you are poor, you will be immune to yourself, while if you are rich, you will help the world." People who have the ability to handle their own affairs will take care of other people's affairs.
But in fact, many people are busy with their own affairs, so they just worry about it everywhere.
After middle age, a small family is enough for you. If you remain half dumb, you will find yourself alive and transparent.
In fact, semi-blindness is the root of a person's happiness. Don't see through anything. See through, your life is meaningless, meaningless.
The ancients said, "Clear water means no fish, and people look at it without disciples." Don't see through everything, just know a little.
Such as human feelings, love, marriage. If you don't know anything, you will be easily used as an ATM or easily abandoned. But if you see through everything, you will lose interest in getting married.
I know such a person. I met him on a trip. His occupation is marriage emotional counseling, helping others save their marriage, and he has been doing it for 15 years.
He shared with me that human marriage, no matter how sincere the feelings are, will definitely have the idea of cheating in about four years, but you don't have this condition. It is almost common for rich and valuable people to cheat.
Moreover, he also said that if you find yourself married for more than four years, without any thoughts of running away from your partner, and even deeply in love with her, then your marriage must be unhealthy and you must not be fully loved by your partner. To put it bluntly, she still has reservations about you.
Therefore, the psychological counselor said that it is precisely because he has seen through the essence of marriage that he has not been married so far and has been avoiding this problem. I've seen too much by myself, and I have no clue.
In fact, it is not only a marriage problem, but also many problems in life, such as making friends, the world, workplace relations and so on. So don't look too deep, it is the most perfect to remain semi-blind.
"Half-deaf, half-dumb and half-blind", learning the above three mentalities should help you cope with this world where flies seek profits and dogs seek profits.
In fact, I personally prefer the wisdom of the ancient people in China. The biggest reason is that they think long-term and face the complex world in a more harmonious way, instead of escaping.
I am Arvin, and I will continue to share more life puzzles with you.