Generally speaking, people tend to feel nervous and anxious about things that are unknown and beyond their control. In fact, this is a physical and mental reaction of self-protection when people face unknown and uncertain things, and it is also a very normal psychological performance. You "always worry about the facial muscle beat before talking to others, and the more worried I am, the more nervous I am", because you don't know whether others agree with what you say or what others think of you, and you don't know whether what you say or what you say can arouse people's support and encouragement, hehe, so it's easy to have facial muscle beat. Practical experience tells us that the more we pay too much attention to something, the easier it is for us to be anxious and nervous, and the more we can't let go of our actions, which are reflected in our bodies, such as heartbeat, trembling hands and feet, stuttering and so on. In fact, it is normal to have these physical and mental performances. We know that everyone's true self is attractive to others, but it is also influencing and infecting others. If you don't suppress yourself and express yourself freely, anyone can become a very attractive person. Now when you talk to others, don't think about who you are facing, don't be shy, don't worry, don't be too serious, and don't think ahead. Just speak, no matter whether your own language and what you say can be understood, accepted or appreciated by others. This is an effective way to overcome tension and anxiety. In this way, you will have the opportunity to show your talent and style, and you will take the initiative, which will certainly reduce or alleviate your tension and anxiety. Secondly, each of us is a student, learning the knowledge, technology and skills of survival every day. If we are mature or perfect, then we won't call ourselves students, so we won't care too much about whether our lessons are good or bad and whether others can understand what we say. At the right time, a little spirit of Ah Q, such as "people who laugh at others are not as good as others" and "laughing naked and sticking their pants", can alleviate their tension and fear. Third, admit and allow your own shortcomings to exist. "No one is perfect, and there is no shortage of gold." It is precisely because of the different shortcomings of human individuals that human society is colorful. Therefore, we should allow ourselves to have shortcomings, not pursue perfection excessively, and learn to say frankly "I was wrong" and "I am not as good as you". Only in this way can we have and enjoy life at will, freely and easily. Fourth, don't be afraid to let others down. We can't satisfy everyone's wishes at any time and under any circumstances. Therefore, as long as we do our best, we don't have to mind what others think and see. As long as we don't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, put down excessive demands on ourselves and don't care too much about success, then success will gradually come to you and hug you. Fifth, allow contradictory emotions to exist. We know that everything in the world has two contradictory aspects, so do people's emotions and emotions, such as joy and anger, bitterness and joy, self-confidence and inferiority, strength and cowardice, and so on. These emotions and feelings are human nature. As long as we treat and choose rationally, many problems will disappear. Sixth, get into the habit of speaking loudly. People who are depressed and timid have a low voice and lack self-confidence, so they should pay attention to raising the volume and develop the habit of speaking loudly. The explanation of scientific comparative experiment is that speaking loudly can relieve depression-it can mobilize all potential, including those suppressed potential, and at the same time it can expand your courage to speak loudly, so you can speak freely. Seventh, treat it with a normal heart, that is, when you are "always worried about your facial muscles beating before talking to others", don't take it as a big deal, just like treating the weather changes-let nature take its course, talk about what you want to say and insist on finishing what you want to say. Eighth, I usually take part in group activities with my companions and friends, especially when I speak, and imagine myself speaking in public. In this way, we can not only exercise and change the situation of "always worrying about facial muscle beating before talking to others", but also develop and improve ourselves through their support, so as to improve our self-confidence. Ninth, positive self-suggestion. Always use positive internal language to hint at yourself (such as short positive sentences to deal with your negative thoughts, such as "everyone likes to listen to what I say", "I am particularly attractive to others" and "I am relaxed and happy when I speak in public"), instead of denying or labeling some negative comments. At the same time, tell yourself in your inner language that they are all the same person. He can do it, and I can do it. As long as you read these affirmative sentences several times a day, spend a few minutes in your heart and imagine yourself changing while reading, it won't be long before you have the results you imagine. Tenth, talk about your nervousness and anxiety. When you are "always worried about the muscle jumping in front of others", tell your audience boldly: I am afraid that I will be laughed at by you because I don't speak well, please forgive me! When you naturally express your tension and anxiety, your mood will naturally be peaceful, and the tension and anxiety will disappear. Finally, I suggest you find a psychological counselor to do systematic desensitization so that the symptoms can be completely eliminated. These are just some personal opinions and suggestions. I hope you can choose reference. Your friend Yang Yonglong wishes you success in self-adjustment! Why are you nervous about speaking in public? Mr. Huang Dazhao, president of Beijing Dazhao Training Center, said that although these people have different performances, they are all caused by nervous speaking in public. He analyzed that from a psychological point of view, some people are too pursuing perfection and always feel that their performance can't reach the ideal state in their hearts. After every public speech, they are always dissatisfied and even depressed. Over time, they are afraid to speak in public, and they are more and more afraid to speak. Some people are afraid to speak in public because they are afraid of making mistakes. Most of these people have had a similar experience: once they made a mistake and were laughed at by everyone, which made them embarrassed. Since then, I have been particularly afraid of making a fool of myself by saying the wrong thing in public? Br causes tension. This is what we often say: "Once bitten, twice shy.". There are also some people who cannot treat themselves correctly because of their inferiority complex. They always hide in the corner and are afraid to talk to everyone. In addition, in the traditional concept of our country, a gentleman should be "slow and quick", and it is better to speak well than to do well; The concepts of "disaster comes from the mouth" and "silence is golden" make many people afraid or unwilling to speak. But also related to the exam-oriented education in China. Everyone has studied Chinese. "Literature" is to teach students how to "write" and "language" is to teach students how to "speak". However, China never takes oral English in the Chinese exam, so both teachers and students attach great importance to writing, and their writing ability is good, but their oral English ability is not good. It should be said that many people are afraid to speak in public because they can't speak, not because they have no courage. I dare not say, I don't want to say, I won't say that the result is not public. Public speaking is a skill that can only be mastered through training. I never practice. Of course I get nervous when I have to speak in public. The nervousness of speaking in public bothers many people, especially in today's competitive society. Huang Dayun gave an example: a middle-level leading cadre working in a state organ has outstanding performance and great prestige among the masses. The superior leader is ready to promote him, but public reporting has become an obstacle. The closer to the debriefing date, the more nervous he is. On the day of his debriefing, his tense nerves could no longer bear it, and he fainted at the debriefing site. The bright future was thus ruined. Huang Dayun said that in a highly competitive society, you can't just show your talents by hard work. When you do as well as others, even better than others, and others are good at showing themselves in front of everyone with words, but you can't, the chances of getting a position and promotion are likely to be taken away by others. There is a good saying: it is a fake move to say no practice, not a stupid move to practice, but a real move to practice. Tension can be overcome. "Someone asked me,' Speaking in public is like a mountain, weighing on my heart. "How can I move it?" We should realize that speaking nervously in public is an extremely common phenomenon. An authoritative survey in the United States shows that 95% of people in the crowd are nervous when speaking in public, and the remaining 5% are not nervous, but too nervous to speak in public. Secondly, we should believe that the nervousness of speaking in public can be gradually overcome through training. As the saying goes, you can't do two things at once. When the tension strikes, you can consciously divert your attention, listen carefully to other people's speeches, and don't always think about how you should behave in front of everyone; The tension in a speech can be alleviated by paying attention to the content of the speech. Good self-psychological hints are also useful. Some people love to say to themselves silently when they are nervous: "Don't be nervous, don't be nervous." But the result of doing so is often more nervous. The reason is that this is a bad psychological suggestion. The correct way is to say to yourself, "I'm ready, I can make it clear." Or simply hold the mentality of "broken pots and broken falls": "The big deal is wrong, wrong is wrong, who can eat me?" In addition, don't ask too much of yourself, as long as you can express yourself correctly and speak in line with the occasion and your identity at that time. Facts have proved that the above methods are very effective in overcoming nervousness. Mastering speaking skills can also help to relieve tension. Huang Dayun said that the lack of speech training at school and the lack of opportunities to speak in public after work make many people speak incoherently, which makes people feel speechless, the focus is not prominent, the thinking is not clear and the logic is not strong. These can be improved by learning some oral skills. When we can express ourselves clearly, we can find confidence. With self-confidence, we are less nervous when we speak. Although public speaking has certain skills, no matter how much you know, you can't master it flexibly without practice. Therefore, more practice is the key to success. Practice more is to facilitate the mastery of skills; The second is to let practitioners get used to speaking in crowded places. Finally, Huang Dayun said that it may be difficult to find more opportunities to speak in life and work and force yourself to speak more, but slowly, you will find yourself speaking better every time. As long as you master certain methods and practice more, you can completely overcome the nervousness of speaking in public. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Others are not nervous, not just because they are bold; You are nervous when you speak, not only because you are timid. The secret lies in the difference of "heart". When you want the effect of your speech to be as brilliant as three consecutive championships, it shifts your mind to the effect of your speech. However, the more you pay attention to the effect of the speech, the less energy you spend on the content of the speech, and the limited energy will struggle between the content and effect of the speech, and it will become tired and nervous. In order to solve this problem, the best way is to put aside the effect of the speech and concentrate on what to say. This seems not to pursue the effect of the speech. In fact, the good result often lies in not seeking. There is another situation when you are nervous, that is, you care too much about the evaluation of your teacher or classmates, and you are thinking about what others think of you while talking. Doing so will not only make mistakes because of distraction, but also make you nervous because of worry. In this case, you might as well try to comfort yourself: "Don't look at my nervousness, other students are also nervous"! The advantage of thinking like this is to pull yourself and others to an equal position, thus alleviating the excessive tension caused by taking care of others. Of course, nervousness may also be related to your lack of experience in what you are going to say. Didn't you say "the artist is bold"? If you become an authority on speech and eloquence, you will have a lofty spirit when you speak, and the tension will disappear. Are you willing to take part in various activities to get calm in speaking? A student attended the mental health training class in our school because he was nervous. During the first speech training, she was so nervous that she couldn't speak coherently. Later, I asked her 10 many times in public, and the last time I made her nervous, she couldn't get nervous. It can be seen that if you want to speak more naturally, you have to exercise more at ordinary times; If you want to turn learning into ability, you should practice more at ordinary times!