We EQ trainers all know the truth: "Emotional power equals learning power". Children who don't study are often associated with their negative emotions, or learning this thing has brought him too many negative experiences. Not loving learning will inevitably produce more negative emotions and negative experiences, thus forming a vicious circle repeatedly. Therefore, how to correctly guide children's emotions, how to let children gradually accumulate more and more positive emotional experiences in learning this matter, is the first problem to be solved, and how to let children have these positive emotions and successful experiences also involves several aspects, such as children's willpower, children's ability to resist setbacks, children's optimism or pessimism about the problem, and whether children can communicate with peers and teachers smoothly and effectively. If parents are really confused, they can consider letting their children participate in systematic emotional intelligence training, which will have obvious effects on these aspects. In addition, parents can refer to the following tips to make their children fall in love with learning:
First, let the children do their homework on their own initiative.
Your child is obedient and a tame horse, but people often say, "You can take the horse to the river, but you can't make it drink water." Indeed, unless the horse is thirsty, even if it can be brought to the water, it should not be allowed to drink water on its own initiative.
The first trick is not to spend too much time doing your homework.
The second measure is to enlarge the advantages of children.
Third, don't study too hastily.
The fourth trick is to let him bring the girl he likes home.
The fifth measure is to let the children play enough first.
The sixth move stimulated her and made him go all out.
The seventh move, on the other hand.
The eighth measure often changes the learning environment.
The ninth trick is to make a homework schedule.
The tenth trick is to let the children do their homework first.
The eleventh trick is to let the children draw lots by themselves.
Twelfth trick, don't judge the teacher in front of the children.
Second, how to make children obedient and sensible
When communicating with children, we must listen to him carefully and let him feel the concern and respect of parents, so that children's small self-esteem will be established, and they will seriously think about what they think and do and express their views in conversation with adults, which will also help children's rational thinking habits. Of course, adults should also pay attention to some details when communicating with children, so as to communicate with children quickly.
The first trick is to praise the child through the mouth of a third party.
The second trick is to communicate feelings with children through letters or diaries.
The third trick is to speak in a gentle tone.
The fourth measure is to let the children know what is wrong in time.
The fifth move cleverly diverts the child's attention.
The sixth measure is to integrate into children.
The seventh trick is to talk about one thing at a time.
The eighth trick often shows trust in children.
The ninth trick is only to make constructive suggestions.
The tenth trick, don't blame the frustrated child.
The eleventh trick is to correct the child's bad life details in time.
The twelfth trick is to affirm the child with praise.
Third, how to guide children to be conscious?
There is a saturation principle, that is, children are usually bored. Although I strongly hope to have a goal, I can also appreciate the fun of finishing things. But I can't continue to take the initiative because I have many courses in my heart. If I lower my requirements and reduce the weight of my homework, I will continue to cultivate children's vitality at low tide, so they will improve their sense of responsibility and do their homework more actively after low tide.
The first measure is to appropriately reduce the requirements for children.
The second trick is to let children do subjects they don't like first.
The third measure is to enhance the initiative at the same pace.
The fourth measure is to let the children suffer first.
Fifth, interest is the best teacher.
Sixth, the mother's motivation is the most important.
The seventh trick is to change your child, first change your attitude.
The eighth trick is to occasionally talk to your child with pleading evidence.
The ninth trick is not to scold children when they are frustrated.
The tenth trick is also effective to give children proper remuneration.
The eleventh trick is to make children closer to nature.
Twelfth, success is not as difficult as you think.
The thirteenth trick is to cultivate children's initiative and self-motivation.
Fourteenth move, turn anger into motivation for learning.
Fourth, how to let children learn to manage emotions
Adolescent children are often dissatisfied with their parents, because the self-requirements accompanying their growth conflict with their parents' regulations. Parents must try their best to overcome this transitional difficulty and let their children grow up smoothly.
The first trick is to guide children to vent their dissatisfaction.
The second measure is to give children the right to choose multiple-choice items.
The third measure is to listen carefully to the child's dissatisfaction.
The fourth trick is to turn the role of the customer into a child.
Fifth, don't let busy work be your excuse.
The sixth measure is to deal with children's unreasonable demands in a democratic way.
The seventh measure is persuasion and education.
The eighth trick is to deal with wayward attitude with actual advantages and disadvantages.
The ninth trick is to guide the children's herd mentality.
The tenth trick is to give children a space to vent.
Five, how to make children love learning?
Under the cramming education model, learning itself is a patterned process, not even like it or not. Whether children are interested in learning or not, they should sit at the desk and read the textbooks over and over again, which is also the reason why children feel tired.
The first trick is to tell more inspirational stories to children.
The second trick is to motivate children with recent learning goals.
The third measure is also very important, distracting children.
The fourth measure is to get rid of the habit of children having a fever for three minutes.
The fifth measure is to stimulate appetite to promote learning.
The sixth trick is to teach children to learn to preserve their strength.
Seventh, moderate exercise can make children's brains more flexible.
The eighth trick is to stimulate children's learning.
The ninth trick is to promote learning efficiency with crisis awareness.
The tenth trick is to keep the learning content fresh.
The eleventh trick is to adjust the reading atmosphere with different themes.
The twelfth trick is to deliberately change the children's learning environment.
Sixth, how to eliminate children's learning tension?
As parents, we must be sensible, try our best to give our children proper guidance and comfort, let them get rid of the anxiety of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and often use optimistic and humorous tone to ease their hidden fears, so that children can have high confidence and courage to face the following challenges.
The first trick is to accompany the child and make him feel safe.
The second trick is to dilute the child's failure with an optimistic and humorous tone.
The third measure is to say that a month is thirty days.
The fourth measure is to pay more attention to the importance of children's psychological construction.
Fifth, breathing can regulate children's emotions.
The sixth trick is to deliberately say the wrong thing in front of the children.
The seventh trick mascot to stabilize the mood
The eighth trick is to solve the problem and eliminate the tension.
Seven, how to make children concentrate?
Mothers should moderately adjust the progress of their lessons instead of sticking to the established plan, so as to get the performance of taking care of both. Some children even read books while enjoying other people's games, which will affect their interest in reading in the future.
The first technique is the roundabout suggestion technique.
The second measure is to make an irregular segmentation schedule.
The third trick is the magical use of the alarm clock.
The fourth trick is to establish a flexible homework schedule.
The fifth measure is to get rid of the lax consciousness of "doing it at any time"
The sixth measure is to assign children to do housework purposefully and moderately.
The seventh trick is to let children guess questions and improve their attention in exams.
Eighth move, warm up.
The ninth trick is to use "quantity" to drive forward.
Eight, how to eliminate the confusion of children's learning?
For a mother, trivial things in her eyes are sometimes a heavy burden for her children, so she should always put herself in the child's shoes and help her children solve problems in life as a bystander.
The first trick is to guide children to make the most correct choice.
Inductive inquiry method in the second choice
The third trick is to ask questions skillfully on the premise of a choice.
The fourth trick is that the milk of black cows is also white.
The fifth measure is to clear the fog of panic when something happens.
Sixth, when you cross the bridge, will it succeed?
The seventh trick is to experience it yourself.
Eighth, fate is hidden in our minds.
Nine, how to make children turn negative into positive?
Life can be without many things, but it can't be without hope. Where there is hope, life is endless! For children, we should always encourage them and don't let them have negative emotions.
The first move is to find the internal causes of children's negativity.
The second measure is to let children publicly announce their goals.
The third measure, physical health, is the basis of establishing a positive attitude.
Fourth, good living habits are the magic weapon to keep a positive attitude.
The fifth measure is to let children develop the habit of reading aloud.
The sixth trick is to let children develop the good habit of getting to school early.
The seventh trick is to let children make more positive and optimistic friends.
The eighth trick is to let children develop the habit of writing big characters.
The ninth trick is to let children do some housework and get rid of depression.
The tenth trick encourages children to try new things.
The eleventh trick is to let children develop a sense of responsibility for housework.
Twelfth trick: Don't always ask yes and no questions.
The thirteenth measure is to cultivate children's positive attitude of asking questions.
Fourteenth trick: more praise and less criticism can make children more motivated.
X. How to cultivate children's self-confidence
The value of life depends on ourselves! Tell children that people, as independent individuals, are unique and never forget this. Let the child know the value of his existence, enhance his confidence and work harder to create his own personality and future.
The first trick is to tell the child that he is priceless.
The second trick is to let children do something easy to do.
The third measure is to weaken children's mistakes and highlight their achievements.
The fourth measure is to pay attention to the efforts made by children.
Fifth, praise the child first, and then blame him.
The sixth measure is to strengthen the advantages and let the children make continuous progress.
The seventh trick is to build children's self-confidence with high goals.
The eighth trick is to build mutual trust with children by "primitive dependence"
Ninth, parents should not blame each other in front of their children.
The tenth trick is not to blame the child in front of a third party.
The eleventh trick is to convince children that the god of luck will come at any time.
The twelfth trick is to let children recall past achievements and rebuild their confidence.
XI。 How to eliminate children's inferiority complex
Eliminating inferiority and cultivating self-confidence are actually two sides of a whole and must complement each other. However, the skills of cultivating self-confidence mentioned in the previous chapter are not specifically aimed at children with poor ability, that is to say, children with defects or poor grades often cannot play their role. This chapter is different from the previous one and can be widely applied to children with poor ability.
The first step is from "defect consciousness" to total negation.
The second measure is to use affirmative sentences frequently.
Third, mothers should also have skills in talking to their children.
The fourth measure, for specific reasons, relieves the child's heart.
The fifth measure is to eradicate children's psychological barriers with words.
The sixth trick is to let children read biographies of great men in the world.
The seventh measure is to let children objectively face their peers with excellent grades.
The eighth measure is to cultivate children's special talents.
The ninth trick is to weaken the child's inferiority complex by luck.
Twelve, how to turn a child's "shortcomings" into "advantages"
Because the mother always reminds the corrected shortcomings, the child will know it himself, but the child with high self-demand will often worry about his own shortcomings, so the mother's direct scolding will often be counterproductive and make him less confident.
The first trick is to let children face up to their shortcomings in an appropriate way.
The second trick is to accuse other children of their mistakes in front of them.
The third measure is to distinguish between shortcomings and personality.
The fourth measure is to change the child's position and let him be self-disciplined.
Fifth, the shortcomings and advantages of children are interchangeable.
The sixth measure indirectly eliminates children's dissatisfaction.
The seventh measure is to use the implied effect of moderate punishment or threat.
The eighth trick is to hint at the child's shortcomings through soliloquy.
Ninth, don't use authority to suppress children's resistance.
The tenth trick encourages children to "do what they can"
The eleventh trick tells the child: "You can do it"!
I wish the baby a healthy and happy growth!