Cultivating love rat: A large population, a big world, and a perfunctory spread of life and death. Everyone has it. It doesn't rain for a year, but the sea is still rough. Some people are Dinko and love rat, just like a tree. We sat on the train and passed by. Others are my reference, and I am also the reference of others. Human development and life and death experience. In fact, our best friend is the sun.
Love rat scum, in the final analysis, is selfish, no rules, no moral bottom line. In this case, as mothers, we should start from these aspects to educate our children.
First, teach children to share. When I was a mother, I always held it in my hand and was afraid that it would melt in my mouth, so I wanted to give good things to my children together. Then we will see that the best food on the dining table is for children, and parents only eat when their children are full. Children who wear the most expensive clothes are the best, and it doesn't matter when they are old. Over time, children feel that all this is taken for granted. When you want to pick up his favorite food while he is eating, he will cry and make a scene. When his consumption desire is not satisfied, he will roll around and complain bitterly. Therefore, we should teach children to share from the beginning. When we eat delicious food, we can't enjoy it alone. In other respects, it should not be allowed to stand alone, but should do what it can!
Second, we must establish a sense of rules. Small rules of life come from good habits, habits determine character, and character determines fate. Usually pay attention to cultivate good behavior habits in all aspects, and gradually form a sense of rules. In observing social rules, parents should set an example, keep their own morality and give their children a good image. Children will naturally be influenced by it and become people who obey the rules.
As for the bottom line of moral values, it also depends on the requirements of parents. Be clear about what is completely impermissible and what can't be done. Be sure to set clear requirements and set an example.
In fact, as parents, the daughter is the father's little cotton-padded jacket and the mother's heart. In fact, the child that worries parents the most is actually the daughter, and the son will be much better. Because in the traditional concept of China people. Especially when children don't understand feelings or love, they are most likely to do something out of line. Boys do something out of line, which is called taking advantage, and daughters do something bad, which is called ruining family style, or suffering losses.
As parents, we should start instilling some healthy thoughts when our children are young. There are differences between men and women. But that doesn't mean you can't play with the opposite sex. But to let children know their boys or girls, I don't mean how traditional we are. Especially when children reach adulthood or high school, their development is basically completed. At least let the children know what is the consciousness of self-protection. Imagine that even if one of the young couples has a sense of self-protection, many tragedies will not happen, and the children are underage but become unmarried parents.
For example, how to prevent my daughter from becoming love rat, I have always said from a personal point of view: First, we must teach her the correct three views when the child is still young, because as long as the three views are correct, the child cannot become love rat. In fact, in our reality, there are many people with incorrect views, whether after 80, 90 or 00. But they don't even know that they have three views. I think this is not just a problem of our education system. I think the biggest problem should come from parents. If the daughter becomes love rat, it means that the child's three views are incorrect. If the three views are incorrect, then it must be the three views of the children's parents. If not, it is also the lack of parental education. Even if the education is good, it may be because they don't set an example. Therefore, the three views of parents are also very important.
So in order to prevent my daughter from becoming love rat, I think that's all. 1 is education, and 2 is three views. That is, mothers should set an example and play an exemplary role.
Convey the correct values of money: no matter how hard it is, don't lose the bottom line of being a man. Although money can make people have material conditions, it cannot replace all good spiritual qualities, especially happiness, which money can't buy. It is not easy to get money, and valuable wealth needs to be accumulated by your own efforts, because the process of accumulation will be more valuable than wealth.
Rich, but not coquettish: the purpose of rich is to make girls become intellectual, noble and independent women. Therefore, parents are advised to cultivate their children's temperament from an early age, take their children out to broaden their horizons, read more books to increase their knowledge, and let her know what she wants and what is really worth pursuing in a society of desire.
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I think the most important thing is: companionship, respect and communication.
Companies, effective companies.
Not watching TV with her, not watching TV at home, but playing mobile phone at home. But work with her, read books and play with her. ...
Respect, respect children's choices.
Children should be consulted in everything. Parents can give advice, but you can't force your child to choose what you think is right. After all, "the road still depends on yourself."
Communicate and build a bridge in your heart.
Communicate with children more, understand their inner thoughts and children, so as to adjust their ways and methods according to their reactions and psychology.
Everyone has his own way to go and his own things to finish. The child is an independent individual, an independent person, she has her own ideas and opinions, and she should go her own way. As parents, we can't stay with them forever. We'll only go with them once. So, when I should be with you, I will be with you. When it is time to let go, learn to let go.
Everyone has different requirements for their children. I just want my daughter to be happy when she grows up and have her own childhood memories. I won't let my daughter learn too much. As long as the daughter remembers, she can be naughty, but not bad. Can be lively but not unprincipled. You can play, but you should know how to protect yourself. You should have your own initial heart, and don't lose yourself. You don't have to succeed in what you do, but you must have no regrets.