On the way to struggle, we all want to get up quickly, succeed quickly and live the life we want quickly. But the fact is often the opposite: the more anxious you are, the worse things will be done. Take your time before you get back on the road.
Slow down, you need to let go of your heart. There is a story about a samurai passing by a bow and arrow workshop, and he saw a dazzling bow in the window, with an arrow inserted in it. Everything from wood to sculpture conforms to his ideal perfect bow. The samurai rushed into the shop at once and said to the boss, "I want to buy that bow in the window." The boss said, "Sorry! The bow in the window is a sample. This is not for sale. Everything that can be sold is hung on the wall. Go and choose! " The samurai looked around and found that the bow on the wall was not beautiful and baggy. He said to his boss, "I will give you more money." Please be sure to sell me that sample bow! " "The boss smiled and said," Do you know what a sample is? The sample is just a beautiful appearance. 24-hour stretching, seemingly powerful, is actually not tough. Do you think such a bow can still be used? The bows that can really be used are all slack. Relaxation is a state of cultivation, which can keep the bowstring flexible. "
Nowadays, social competition is becoming increasingly fierce. Isn't our heart like a stretched bow, ready to shoot arrows at any time? Foxconn's continuous jumping off buildings is the result of overload and high pressure. We need to keep a correct attitude, keep a normal mind, create opportunities to see the scenery and relax ourselves.
Slow down, you need to smooth the environment. Life can't be smooth sailing, there will always be adversity. Are we crushed by adversity or are we growing up in adversity? Carrots are fresh, bright and fashionable. When boiled in boiling water for a period of time, they become a rotten pool of carrot paste. The handfuls of dry tea leaves are the ugliest in shape and the lightest in weight before being put into boiling water, but under the torment of boiling water, those withered and wrinkled leaves become moist, plump and stretched. At the same time, it also turns colorless and odorless water into fragrant tea soup. Adversity is also a gift from heaven. "Heaven will make great achievements, and it must first suffer from its mind, its bones and muscles, its body and skin, its empty body, and its actions, so it is impossible to endure." Adversity makes people grow.
Slowing down is like a "rest" when climbing a peak, which can overlook the scenery below the mountain and reserve strength for climbing higher.
Slowing down doesn't mean giving up your goals or being lazy about everything. This is a process of adjustment and also a process of saving.
Slowing down can stimulate the love of life. Life is short, so why not slow down to feel the affection, enjoy the scenery, change a way of life, have more fun and leisure, feel life with your heart and love life.
Slowing down can better reflect your true nature. Use limited time to improve your self-cultivation. Always reflect on your behavior, be strict with yourself and be kind to others; Do things honestly. No matter whether you are successful or not, you can "don't complain, don't treat others" and do your best.
Slowing down can also inspire courage and vitality. There is a famous saying on the office wall of Soros, the founder of Quantum Fund, "I was born poor, but I must not die poor". In the soaring and surpassing of life, sometimes there will be confusion. We should inspire courage, dare to take risks and realize our life pursuit. I believe that no matter what the result is, the choice after rational thinking is inner growth and strength.
Slow down and move forward bravely.
Thoughts on interesting life 2 Yu Dan, a famous cultural scholar, professor of Beijing Normal University and doctoral supervisor. The researcher and disseminator of China traditional culture. A series of lectures have been held in CCTV's "Lecture Room" and "Cultural Viewpoint" to popularize China's traditional culture, activate the spiritual genes belonging to the Chinese nation in the classics with life perception, and set off a wave of the whole society getting close to and learning the classics again, which has a wide influence in the cultural and educational circles at home and abroad.
Many people will say that the society is changing so fast, the workload is so heavy and the personal responsibility is so heavy that there is no room for relaxation. How can I spare a lot of time for leisure? In Yu Dan's view, seemingly useless things, such as tea, wine and piano, are really special means to calm yourself down and let life set aside some time for seemingly useless things. Yu Dan said that she hates and likes wine. What I hate is entertainment wine, but it is also the most common one around me. Such wine is often drunk without knowing the taste of the wine. Unfortunately, good wine is used as a key for feelings, attitudes and interests. Real good wine makes her like it. Often when she is free or has no purpose, when relatives and friends drink, she has no name or size and is not interested in wine. The contents of the cup enriched her life.
Alcohol consumption is a person's temperament. Many people have experienced vicissitudes, ups and downs, and have a glass of wine. The same wine in different people's lives, the realm is very different. Some people can keep their integrity in wine, while others waste their lives in wine. Brewmaster like Li Bai and a wine saint like Tao Yuanming are all top grades among drinkers; Liu Ling's drunkenness and Ruan Ji's addiction to alcohol can be regarded as the best drinkers. But more people can only be called alcoholics, wine thieves, and even alcoholics. They lose their morality and even their country in drinking. Such people are the inferior among drinkers.
When Wang Wei, a poet in the prosperous Tang Dynasty, was in high spirits, he also wrote such a poem: "Xinfeng has a bucket of wine, and Xianyang has been a ranger for many years." Hui Ling drinks for the king, Gao Ma. As soon as they met, they talked happily, tied their horses and went upstairs to drink. "。 The temperament of a bosom friend is sometimes immediately cited as a bosom friend and treated with sincerity. Such a feast culture still follows this point. It is often said that I will take you to meet a new friend and have a drink together. Unfortunately, pushing a cup on the wine table today is often related to official promotion and shopping mall transactions. When new friends meet and drink with old friends, there is less friendship and more exchange of resources. On the surface, it is also a joke, even heroism, but some people respect the position and some people respect the investment, and the real pure wine is getting less and less. I only hope that I can meet more feelings than utilitarianism on the wine table today.
Meeting good wine is a kind of fate; It is an artistic conception to be able to taste good wine. Therefore, there is a saying that "the wine is slightly drunk and the flowers are half open". Think about it, when is the most beautiful flower? It should be when the flowers are not open, the petals are released and the stamens are about to vomit. At this time, the flowers are full of vitality and have not lost. So is drinking. Half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half drunk, half sad, half drunk, half drunk. The so-called beauty of the golden mean is about the combination of seven points and three points.
In fact, everyone's life is like a glass of wine in front of him, so you must taste it yourself.
Mr. Lin Yutang once said after reading Life with Taste, "The highest goal of social philosophy is nothing more than hoping that everyone can live a happy life." Happiness appears in our lives in various forms. It is a feeling of life and an experience of life.
Many times, happiness is not expecting what we don't have, but enjoying what we have now. In fact, in today's society, happiness has become a more extravagant thing than success.
Money can buy a car and a house, but it can't buy happiness; Power can make people obey and obey, but it can't bind happiness; Fame can be respected and admired, but it is not the same as happiness. The enjoyment of things, the strength of power and the honor of fame can only make people feel satisfied. Even if this is called "happiness", it is only a temporary feeling, because greed is not satisfied.
Confucius once mentioned in The Analects of Confucius: "Xian zai, Hui Ye! A spoonful of food, a spoonful of drink, in the mean lane, people can't bear their worries, and they won't change their fun when they go back. Xian zai, you come back! " And Liu Yuxi also said in "Humble Room Inscription", "There are scholars joking, but there is no Ding Bai between us. What happened to the holy land of "no fuss, no gain for nothing"? Or Fan Zhongyan exhorted Teng, who was demoted, to "climb the stairs, be yourself, and keep the wine in the breeze;" "Don't be happy for things, don't feel sorry for yourself. For another example, Mr. Wu Liu used "Xanadu" to describe an ideal place with a happy and peaceful life or a utopian society isolated from the world and divorced from real struggle.
Scholars and sages of all ages have the same opinion: As long as you are happy inside, what about humble Chai Men and humble huts! Happy smile has never lost its brilliant light because of its status! Because true happiness comes from the heart and cannot be measured by money, power or glory.
Therefore, we must first put aside the distractions of money and interests. Many people naturally think of "drinking to drown their sorrows" first, but they don't know that "raising a glass to drown their sorrows is even more worrying". It is often said that I will take you to meet a new friend and have a drink together. It's a pity that pushing a cup on the wine table now is often associated with love, officialdom and shopping mall transactions, with less affection and more exchange of interests.
Or holding a book and drinking tea, the profound meaning in tea may be better than wine, because tea is shallow and lingering, and a cup of tea can taste unspeakable. Life is like tasting tea. It will be bitter for a while at first, but not for life.
However, when a person is alone, he caresses Su Qin. Shi Tiesheng wrote a novel Life is Like a String. Blind pianists can see the bright faith and practice hard through the broken string of the1000th string. Master's white lies made him devote himself to loneliness and suffering, imagining a better world on the strings. When 1000 strings snapped, the bitterness of life seemed to come to an end, and life gained real meaning on the strings.
Life is by no means smooth sailing, and every unfortunate encounter is a baptism of life. Either, in pain, give up hope; Or, step on the pain and live a brand-new self. After the baptism of suffering, we will cherish what we have now more.
It can be seen that happiness is a state when we are satisfied with ourselves, the surrounding environment or the purpose of life. It is a state of physical and mental peace and tranquility. No matter whether the situation is good or bad, we can be content, cherish happiness and be grateful. As long as a person has a good attitude and a firm belief, life is happy. Happiness, like sunshine, air and water, will not fill you with physical disabilities.
What is life like in Dan's eyes? She finds life interesting, so it's interesting to taste it. So Yu Dan has a book called Yu Dan's Interesting Life. Yu Dan said: "Life is like tea, a cup of tea has just been brewed, but some people will make this tea the best Tieguanyin, and some people will make it a very ordinary big bowl of tea!" Happiness seems to be a more extravagant thing than success today. Many successful people try to have wealth, fame and power, but suddenly they find that they have just lost their happiness. A lifestyle that lacks interest and leisure often makes us lose our hearts when we are busy. How should we live today?
There is a short story in the book: a soldier escorted a felon. The prisoner is a monk. He is always careful. Every night before going to bed, he has to do three things. First, he must check whether the package is there. The road ahead is far away. If there is no money in the package, he may be exposed to the wilderness with the prisoner. The second is to check whether you are well, injured and uncomfortable. Be sure to see a doctor if your body is abnormal. Otherwise, we will not finish the task, and we may have to put our lives on it. The third is to check whether the monk is here or not and whether he has escaped. It's simple. The monk ran away and still had to die, because it didn't work! During the long journey, he chatted with the monk every day, telling his own experience every day, and the monk also told his past. In this way, day after day, the two became good friends. Gradually, his prevention of monks is not so strong! One day, just as the Mid-Autumn Festival, the monk said, untie me, I'll buy some wine, and we'll have a drink. After all, it is a reunion festival! He was untied! Soon, the monk came back with good wine and food. Two people were very drunk, but one was really drunk and the other was fake drunk. Of course, it was the soldier who was really drunk, not the fake monk. This is his long-planned escape plan! He shaved the soldier's hair and made him look like a monk. Then, he put on his cassock and ran away ... The next day, the soldier woke up and found that the monk was gone. He began to look for monks. He looked for it for a long time, but he couldn't find it. Then, he touched his hair and found himself a monk. He looked at his clothes and said, why do you feel something is missing? He thought, out of the door, out of the road, along the way, he was thinking, why are all three things here, but still feel something is missing?
He doesn't know, what he didn't see clearly is himself. He only remembers monks and bags, but forgets himself. At this time, he is not the man he thinks, but a monk. Is such a person ridiculous? However, are there many such ridiculous people in our lives? Even we are such people. We can't see ourselves clearly, only remember our names given by others, and also remember other people's names, or most people only remember the names of people who are helpful to us. Too much profit-seeking and too much greed make us lose our carefree attitude towards life.
Leisure interest and lifestyle do not let us idle a lot of time and give up our ideals and responsibilities, but let us not lose ourselves while building value. No matter how busy you are on the road of life, you might as well take some time out of your busy schedule, have a quiet heart, look back at the initial starting point and look forward to the final destination, and then enjoy and experience life calmly and happily with a calm self.
After reading "Interesting Life" 5 in the morning, I should have had breakfast at home leisurely, so I can pay attention to the efficient office workers who are rushing to the unit; And the students are racing against time to get to school, preparing for the final exam all the time, endless exercises and endless homework. We are overwhelmed by high pressure and fast-paced life. We were awakened by the alarm clock in the morning and hurried to school to prepare lessons, give lectures and correct homework. We are exhausted after a busy day. Wonderful music, ink-scented books and scenery along the way have never had time and mood to enjoy. Is this life?
Maybe we should spare a few minutes once in a while to experience what real life is. Opening Yu Dan's Interesting Life is like being a hermit in the mountains. There is no earthly noise and philistinism, but only infinite tranquility and elegance. Word by word, it leads people's soul to the purest nature and brings us the taste of life in ancient culture. Holding the book "Interesting Life" made me feel the taste of another life. Yu Dan told us about the interesting lifestyles of ancient celebrities, and told us with various examples that high-quality life is not the patent of the rich and the idle, and everyone can live a leisurely and comfortable life like ancient celebrities. In the book, she conveys an idea to us: finding a calm and happy self in a leisure way is also a way of life. Yu Dan believes that leisure is an inner discovery, leisure is a pleasure and leisure is a beat of life.
We sigh that life is trivial and boring, and that happiness seems to be more extravagant than success today. We have lost our ability to find happiness, lost our complicated life, lost our busy time and lost our worldly fame and fortune. All our leisure and fun are thrown away without a trace.
Our life needs some seemingly meaningless things to adjust. Life is short. The meaning of survival lies not only in struggle and struggle, but also in knowing how to appreciate the beauty that passes by and the indifference that can be seen everywhere. As the book introduces: "Professor Yu Dan will lead us to experience the life interest of ancient celebrities, be a leisurely person, and use a piano, a pot of wine and a cup of tea leisurely to find the real feeling of life and happiness. Leisure interest and lifestyle do not let us idle a lot of time and give up our ideals and responsibilities, but let us not lose ourselves while building value. No matter how busy you are on the road of life, you might as well take some time out of your busy schedule, calm down, look back at the initial starting point, look forward to the final destination, and then embark on a long road of life with a calm self. "
People can look forward to the future and recall the past, but they can only grasp the present, just like the preface in the book says, doing something seemingly useless. Add some interest to the present life, and enjoy the artistic conception of "qinqi calligraphy and painting poetry" and "rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea" in the secular life. Although I can't reach that height because of my weak foundation, I can learn more, learn from each other's strong points and give full play to what I can do and have artistic conception.
After watching "Interesting Life" 6 early in the morning, it should be time to have a leisurely breakfast at home, and you can pay attention to the efficient office workers who rush to the unit; And the students are racing against time to get to school, preparing for the final exam all the time, endless exercises and endless homework. We are oppressed by the high pressure and fast pace of life, but we can't breathe. We were awakened by the alarm clock in the morning and hurried to school to prepare lessons, give lectures and correct homework. We are exhausted after a busy day. Wonderful music, ink-scented books and scenery along the way have never had time and mood to enjoy. Is this life?
Maybe we should spare a few minutes once in a while to experience what real life is. Opening Yu Dan's Interesting Life is like being a hermit in the mountains. There is no earthly noise and philistinism, but only infinite tranquility and elegance. Word by word, it leads people's soul to the purest nature and brings us the taste of life in ancient culture. Holding the book "Interesting Life" made me feel the taste of another life. Yu Dan told us about the interesting lifestyles of ancient celebrities, and told us with various examples that high-quality life is not the patent of the rich and the idle, and everyone can live a leisurely and comfortable life like ancient celebrities. In the book, she conveys an idea to us: finding a calm and happy self in a leisure way is also a way of life. Yu Dan believes that leisure is an inner discovery, leisure is a pleasure and leisure is a beat of life.
We sigh that life is trivial and boring, and happiness seems to become something more luxurious than success on this day. We have lost the potential to find happiness, the complicated life, the busy time and the worldly fame and fortune. All our leisure and fun are thrown away without a trace.
Our life needs some seemingly unprofitable things to adjust. Life is short. The advantage of survival lies not only in struggle and struggle, but also in knowing how to appreciate the beauty that passes by and the indifference that can be seen everywhere. As the book introduces: "Professor Yu Dan will lead us to experience the life interest of ancient celebrities, be a leisurely person, and use a piano, a pot of wine and a cup of tea leisurely to find the real feeling of life and happiness. Leisure interest and lifestyle don't want us to idle away a lot of time and put down our ideals and responsibilities, but just want us to build value without losing ourselves. No matter how busy you are on the road of life, you might as well take time to stop yourself, calm down, look back at the initial starting point, look forward to the final destination, and then embark on a long road of life with a calm self. "
People can look forward to the future and recall the past, but they can only grasp the present, just like the preface in the book says, doing seemingly useless things. Add some interest to the present life, and enjoy the artistic conception of "qinqi calligraphy and painting poetry" and "rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea" in the secular life. Although I can't reach that height because of my weak foundation, I can learn more, learn from each other's strengths, give play to my strengths and have artistic conception.
After reading "Taste Life", I realized that Yu Dan was listening to her talk about the Analects of Confucius in CCTV's "Lecture Room" column. The simple explanation attracted my heart, and I began to pay attention to Dan from then on. As a representative of China's traditional culture disseminator, Yu Dan tells the spiritual gene of China's traditional culture from different angles with his own life perception.
Yu Dan's interesting life is a good book that I can't put down. In the book, Yu Dan talks about his feelings about life from a piano, a pot of wine and a cup of tea, and turns these leisure elegance that we think only the ancients have into a leisure way for us to find the taste of life. Tell us that no matter how busy life is, we might as well stop, drink a cup of tea and a cup of light wine, so that our hearts can rest, find the true meaning of life and find the feeling of happiness.
Are you happy? People all over China are asking this question today. I can really calm down and ask myself. What is happiness? We are busy with school, promotion and making money ... spinning like a top every day, busy every day, muddling along, and finally feeling extremely empty. I often hear people around me sitting at the dinner table, in room K, in front of the computer and saying, "How boring! How boring! " . Yes, when we try our best to have wealth, fame and power, we suddenly find that we don't know what happiness is. In today's society, happiness has become a more extravagant thing than success.
After reading this book, Yu Dan gave me some spiritual guidance and reference, reminding me to live a meaningful and interesting life. The pleasure of a leisurely life is not to let us idle away our time and give up our ideals, but to let us achieve our goals without losing ourselves.
What makes me feel the same in the book is tea. Like the famous preface to this book, I didn't know the benefits of tea until I was near middle age. Tea is very strong in recent years. I prepared a lot of tea in the humble room, especially Kung Fu tea. I like tea selection, Tibetan tea, tea making and tea tasting, and I appreciate too much tranquility and happiness in tea. Here, let's record the process of making "Babao Chrysanthemum Tea": One day, I suddenly wanted to prepare some chrysanthemum tea for my friends, so I visited pharmacies, supermarkets and teahouses and found eight kinds of materials to wrap tea, so I named myself Babao Chrysanthemum Tea. Gongju is the main material, and jujube, hawthorn, lotus seed core, platycodon grandiflorum, American ginseng, medlar, rosemary and rock sugar are the ingredients. The tea has the effects of clearing heat, invigorating qi, improving eyesight and helping sleep. I believe that drinking this kind of tea every day will benefit my friends' increasingly tired body and mind. Chrysanthemum tea is not only sweet, but also very beautiful. With a glass teapot, you can see little Huang Ju, with red and green ingredients, which is very ornamental. I just don't know if friends can appreciate and appreciate each other's beauty with their heart.
After reading these, I believe my friends can also appreciate the pleasure and happiness brought by tea. As the preface says, "Tea is not water, but taste. After a long time, even tea is not this taste, but the taste of heart and life. "
As a woman, I certainly like the natural freshness of flowers and plants, and I love the feeling of flowers blooming. But the conditions are limited, so I can only be a flower farmer on the balcony. After a busy day, lying on a lazy sofa, watching gorgeous flowers and tasting continuous Pu 'er tea made me feel like a fairy and filled with joy. Happiness can be so simple!
Comments on "Life of Interesting Products" 8. I like reading.
For me, sometimes I can't leave my hand for three days, or I can't turn the page for ten days. I can only say "like" and dare not say "interest". I know that my culture is not deep, and I often don't know what books to read for more than ten years, so I start with famous books and award-winning works. Recently, I was recommended by my friends to read the book Life in Danzhong. The beautiful scenery in it took me to indulge in mountains and rivers, enjoy quiet tea, enjoy drinking and listen to piano music. Let me enter the traditional lifestyle and leisure elegance of China people, and feel the art of life at the same time. A little fun and leisure lead people out of the complicated world, "stop in the pavilion", keep their mind and enjoy life.
Reading through the book, it seems to appreciate the string burning of "famous sentences" one after another, just like a feast of China's classical poems and songs. In reading, I often feel envious. Yu Dan is so full of beautiful words, handy and proficient in the wisdom and taste of the ancients. What kind of happy life should she enjoy? Then "The Taste of Tea", "The Taste of Wine" and "The Taste of Qin" gave me the answer. "Life needs a little leisure interest to adjust the tense rhythm, but interest is not innate, but cultivated from life; Interest is not brewed in the closet, but naturally nourished between heaven and earth. The cultivation of interest is to awaken life, and then enhance spirituality and perception between individuals and the universe. "
In the "introduction" at the beginning of this book, the words "We, what's wrong?" This question is thrown at every reader. "Peace is becoming an unprecedented luxury. We seem to have everything except happiness." The luxurious "peace" here is not a multi-dimensional world, but is directed at your heart and mine. 2 1 century China, with rapid social and economic development, accelerating pace of life, and increasing anxiety and pressure, you and I are like dust, and it seems that we can't escape the above confusion. However, the wise ancients told us that if we have our own spiritual life, we can change the material environment according to our own moods and interests. Life is a long road, and leisure is an attitude towards life and a way to discover yourself. Leisure is a kind of interest and an ability to discover one's heart. In daily life, we will keep our childlike innocence and childlike curiosity, and trivial days will shine.
A metaphor in the book: "life is like a pot of boiling water, and it will not become a hot spring because of who you like." When you enter the society, you have to bear the suffering of 100 degrees Celsius. Although people can't choose the water temperature, they can choose their own life texture and the way to meet water. ""Life is like tea, a constructive life. Even in a cruel world, suffering itself can become perfect. "
I like reading, so I must read the printed paper and ink. Because of this kind of reading, I can smell the ink and appreciate the profundity of "brushing" paper, which is by no means comparable to electronic reading. I am also happy to taste tea, starting with the wandering cup with low threshold and the tap water boiled by electric kettle, and enjoying green tea and coarse oolong tea. Of course, this will not reach the realm of "blind tea Zen". I just want to welcome the world with a little fun and leisure, and let my soul "go out and look for it, and come back with a wonderful understanding."