That's the truth. The more you try to avoid certain topics, the more others want to find out. Because the job I changed in March is a completely unfamiliar field, I really don't want to explain more to them, and I seem to understand more and more why many people are most afraid of class reunion or something. I haven't seen you for several years after graduation, so it is inevitable that everyone will compare with each other. As a result, every time I see one, I really want to find a hole to get into.
A few days ago, the monitor of the university who had not contacted for a long time suddenly asked on WeChat: Sister Juan, are you there? I don't know why I saw such news, but I subconsciously felt nothing good. She said that she studied in Britain last year and came back early after her defense. Now the school has re-held graduation ceremonies for China students in Beijing and Shanghai. As a native of Chongqing, she naturally chose Shanghai. She also said that many students in Shanghai, especially I must meet them.
So I made an appointment with her and invited her to dinner on the Saturday when she came. Later, she joined another student in our class who was also in Shanghai. She is a member of the Culture and Sports Committee of our class. When I was in college, I was the study committee member of our class. We joked that the class cadres got together at once. They are fellow villagers and high school classmates. I don't know the members of the Culture and Sports Commission very well, and I don't know that she is in Shanghai, so there is basically no contact.
Thinking that they eat hot pot all day in Chongqing, I specially found a Jiangsu and Zhejiang restaurant with good comments from the public. At dinner, they asked me about my job. I never like to tell others about my work, so I guess I will. Which foreigner in Shanghai is easier? The salary is not high, the monthly rent accounts for the bulk, and there is no food or anything.
Our monitor, after graduation, worked as a teacher in an IELTS training institution and went to study in Britain one year later. The tuition fee is 200,000 yuan. She said that she played at home for half a year, returned to China last September, and didn't go to work until September this year. I just joined the work at the beginning of the year, and I am one of the four key high schools directly under Chongqing. I get a salary of 7K+ and other benefits. This salary is really ok in Chongqing. According to her, she booked another aristocratic private school before, and the treatment was better, but she was still a little uneasy when she thought that there was no establishment after all.
Besides, our cultural and sports committee members went to Australia to study directly after graduation, and watched her circle of friends run around the world, drying lipstick in various brand-name bags. I don't recognize many brands. It is said that I am now in a consulting company, living in a single apartment in Xujiahui, the rent is 4K+, and I never cook three meals a day. I always feel that this kind of life is far away from me.
One day last month, my deskmate had been out of touch since graduation, and suddenly WeChat sent me a message. Everyone always thought that she had disappeared, never sent a circle of friends, never praised her classmates, and had no idea what this person was busy with. When our classmates were chatting, they all wondered if this person had disappeared. Same old story: Sister Juan, are you there? She said that she is now in Shanghai, and the company sent her to attend a two-week training. I said, Oh, long time no see. Let's treat you to dinner this weekend.
This time, I found an online celebrity shop, and we waited in line for two hours to eat it. Her hometown is Deyang, Sichuan, and now she works in Chengdu. It takes several minutes to get to her home by high-speed train 10, but she seldom goes home. After listening to her words, I still don't know what she is doing now. Probably related to the loan. It is said that the old boss left to start a new company. She came with many former colleagues, and everything was familiar, so it was easy to do.
She said that she bought a house in Chengdu at the beginning of last year, and her parents supported her down payment. Now she is about 3000 yuan a month and will pay the house next year. I envy that the mortgage is only 3K, which is the price of renting a better house in Shanghai. She said that she would stay in Chengdu in the future. Anyway, close to home, Chengdu is developing very well now. It's incredible that one of the few girls around me bought a house.
At the end of August last year, my college roommate sent me a message saying that I went to Shanghai, and I have stayed in Shanghai ever since. I asked when I was free to get together. At that time, because I was busy with exams, I didn't have time to go to class on weekends. Later, she got a job, worked as an English teacher in a training institution, and had classes on weekends, so we never got together. We changed jobs and moved this year, and we are only separated by a subway station. When we were both on vacation, I cooked at home and invited her to dinner and movies.
My roommate studied journalism and minored in English. I remember when we were in college, we were all preparing for the TEM4 exam. She stays up late to catch the play every day. Later, she failed in CET-4, and she began to regret that she should study hard. Later, when we were preparing for the TEM-8 exam, she was still busy chasing dramas on Taobao. In the end, it seems that it survived at 6 1 minute. After graduation, she went to an educational institution in Shenzhen as a teacher, and stayed in Shanghai for almost three years, saying that she wanted to be closer to her family. Her hometown is Inner Mongolia, where her parents retired. When she has nothing to do, she drinks afternoon tea and dances square dance with her old classmates (as she said), and sometimes helps her brother's family to take care of the children. My brother has settled in Shanghai. It seems that I bought a duplex in Hongkou a few years ago for more than 8 million yuan. My brother went to college in Shanghai, and now he is an executive of Yili. My sister-in-law is from Shanghai and runs her own musical instrument store.
A few days ago, she said she resigned. I asked why suddenly, this job didn't last long. She said there was a new proposal that was still under consideration. Then on Friday night, she wanted to ask me out for a walk. My friends and I are eating out, and we have an appointment to go for a walk in Tongji playground on Sunday night. I have always thought that work and salary are personal matters, and I don't want to inquire, and I am afraid that she doesn't want to talk about it, but she has said a lot herself. Her current salary seems to be similar to mine, saying that it was set at the beginning 15k. Later, her supervisor saw that she was determined to leave, and there was a good opportunity to recommend it to her, or a training institution. That's what she said. Luckily. People talk to her directly about her annual salary, 25W. God, I was so shocked after hearing it.
I have a little insomnia on Sunday night. I am thinking not only of my roommate, but also of my classmates in front. I don't know why there is such a big gap between us a few years after graduation, and I think I have worked harder than any of them since I graduated from college.
It was late that day, and I couldn't help chatting with my friends. My friend said you were jealous, but I said yes. Jealousy is because I think I work hard, but I can't seem to compare with them in the end. On the contrary, the gap between us seems to be widening. My friend told me that everyone lives in a different environment. Growing up, many of her friends played all day, but they were among the best in the exam. My classmate didn't get a college diploma, and now his salary is 30-40w. She said that she had long looked down on these things because society was unfair. Why do some people have a good family and have been pampered since childhood, while others do not have enough to eat? What we have to do is to do well in the present and not compare with others.
Indeed, don't compare with others, otherwise you will be very unhappy, and you can control your own pace of life.
My college monitor, after studying abroad, stayed at home for half a year and said that he always wanted to go out for a walk. I said, go there while there is still so much time. She said that a person doesn't know where to go, as if he is used to staying at home and doesn't want to go. She said he was a little worried about going to work in September. ...
That style Committee member is full of big names, and the circle of friends is also a variety of famous brands. No one in our class gave her praise and evaluation, because she always felt floating in the air and few people in the university were close to her.
My former college deskmate was a 0/0 minute drive from home, but she hardly went home on weekends and holidays. I asked her what she did on weekends, and she said that staying up late to play drama and games was just like college. What time did she go to bed in the morning and even later on weekends? When she woke up, it was almost afternoon. I stayed in Chengdu for several years, but I seem to have never been anywhere.
My roommate, who was fine in college, seems a little ungrounded now. I said I talked about several boyfriends, from Jiaotong University and Tongji University. It doesn't seem appropriate. I feel too picky. She finds it inconvenient to live in her brother's house. She rented her own house soon after she came to Shanghai last year. The monthly salary is not high, but she is willing to rent more than 3000 houses. A person lives in a spacious house of more than 40 square meters. On Sunday evening, she took me to her house to have a look. The last time she came to my house, I said that when I saw her house, I felt that we couldn't compete. She said she just wanted to be nice to herself. That's what I said. Look at the rubbish piled up on her desk. I was vaccinated before I came in, saying that the room was a little messy. When I opened the door, I saw that it was full of snack bags and unused napkins, and the shoes on the ground were all in a mess. I joked that it would take several minutes to find a complete pair. Why not buy a shoe rack?
Thinking of this, I don't seem to envy them so much. Because I think I am very happy now and my work has started. I can take time to do yoga, read books, participate in various activities and meet interesting friends.
My friend said that there are a lot of bloated people these days. Don't compare with others, just be yourself.
Yes, no one can disturb the pace of your life, and walk firmly at your own pace.
PS: I finished reading a book "Change Your Clothes, Change Your Life" yesterday. That's great. Recommend it to you ~
Just as I was writing this article, WeChat, a very good friend of the university, told me that I was getting married during the Dragon Boat Festival. We all come from rural families. Once she was very worried, saying that she was from a poor family and looked ordinary, thinking that she would never meet the right person again. Last year, she saw that the circle of friends finally found Prince Charming and wished her well. I don't know where my TA is. I'll wait for you on your way to becoming excellent, okay?