At this embarrassing age, I have accomplished nothing. It's strange not to be anxious What should I do?
First of all, be grateful for the difficulties.
Harland Sanders, the founder of KFC, opened a blacksmith's shop at the age of 18, and it closed down soon.
Later, he became a locomotive stoker for a railway company. /kloc-married at the age of 0/8, heard the good news that his wife was pregnant and was fired by the company. While he was busy looking for a job, his wife sold all her possessions and ran away without a trace with her daughter.
I want to study law, but I have to give it up because of my livelihood.
I have sold insurance, tires, ferries and gas stations, and all failed.
At the age of 40, I have accomplished nothing and my life is embarrassing.
One day, he tried to kidnap. When the kidnapped target approached, his conscience found out and let the target go.
One day, when he received a pension check from the postman, he found himself old and accomplished nothing. He accepted the check for $65,438+005 with trembling hands. He doesn't want to end up on the dole. He wants to break through. When he couldn't walk, he took the money as a venture capital. After unremitting efforts, he finally achieved great success at the age of 88.
The old people in KFC are unwilling to bow to fate and look for all opportunities for survival. He wouldn't have achieved so much without the predicament at that time. Difficulties are not a bad thing. The old man in KFC rose up in the predicament, achieved himself and left us an inspirational story.
As Rousseau said: "Suffering is the grave of the weak, but it is the soil of the strong."
Second, challenge yourself.
Deshun Wang, a name with its own energy, is an 80-year-old man, "the most handsome old man in China". Who believes in "old man"? Strong abdominal muscles, brisk pace, if it weren't for his silver hair and gray beard, no one would believe that he is an old man with clear pronunciation, quick thinking and witty remarks.
When I was young, I was a drama actor, and my role was insignificant. At the age of 48, he was still unknown.
He studied English at the age of 44, entered the gym at the age of 50, created a living sculpture at the age of 57, learned to ride a horse at the age of 56, practiced abdominal muscles consciously at the age of 70, rode a motorcycle at the age of 75, walked onto the runway at the age of 79, and pursued his dream at the age of 80.
He appeared in the world's top newspapers and magazines, Japanese edition of go and French le figaro.
He said, "Believe me, human potential can be tapped. Be careful when you say it's late! " He may be your excuse to retreat, and no one can stop you except yourself! "
Looking at an old man, how dare you say that you have accomplished nothing at the age of 40!
Everyone has potential, so we should dare to challenge ourselves. Some psychologists say that a person can't be content with the status quo and not make progress. He should learn to force himself to challenge the impossible, give himself more stimulation, confidence, courage, drive, courage and perseverance, and it is possible to bring his latent potential into play and create achievements that even he is surprised by.
If you can't achieve anything by the age of 40, then challenge yourself like an old handsome guy from now on and exert your hidden energy!
Fourth, don't forget your initiative.
Everyone has a dream. Don't throw it away casually. Only when you have a dream can you be motivated, and only when you have a dream can you succeed. Dreams don't run away, they always run away.
There is a 40-year-old sister and two children, both of whom are still young. She is weak, does not go to work, takes care of her children at home, and her family expenses are very high. In order to relieve her husband's pressure, she always wanted to go out and find something to do, but her husband kindly refused.
She really doesn't want to be 40 years old and achieve nothing.
Then I finally thought of a way to make money without leaving home. She knows her original intention: she wants to be a writer. Later, for various reasons, this dream has been forgotten. In doubt, she actually remembered this dream. She decided to work hard from now on, so she signed up for a training class. After graduation, she devoted herself to practicing, and now she spends four or five thousand yuan a month. Although she is still far from the writer, she can persist and will reach the other side of her dream one day.
At the age of 40, you have achieved nothing. Don't forget your proactive attitude. Fight from now on.
The world is full of knowledge and the cultivation of human feelings is an article!
At forty, you should learn to do subtraction. The pursuit of teenagers is no longer at this age.
It's not too late to be old and strong. Awkward age, but everyone needs to go through it. How to cross wisdom is after the mood is sublimated!
Have a successful career and a stable family, then find your own heart and reach your true self!
However, what about those who are in the bottleneck? Take a step back and look back. Where is the direction? Only meditation, meditation and meditation. ...
Road twists and turns, but people are upward, there is always a moment to cross. ...
Friend, I don't know the true situation of your evaluation of "nothing" The following is just a brief talk about my own views.
This kind of person is real and has lived carefree since childhood. In their lifetime, their parents are aboveboard "gnawing at the old" and their parents always think it is reasonable. These people are "giant babies" in real life. They don't think much about the future, or even think about it carefully. They just look at the comfort of life at the moment. It is no exaggeration to say that such people are drunk today and it is not enough to eat to death.
Based on this, I think they are real and accomplish nothing.
This kind of evaluation mostly exists in the definition of a certain stage given by the evaluator based on some comparison.
In other words, he has a comparison object, and the comparison object is not necessarily the same, but their similarity lies in that "the person who is listed as the comparison object" is always higher than himself.
This is a situation that every self-motivated person will face. Only comparison can make progress. When you surpass a person, a new object of comparison will appear, and you will mature and grow in this cycle of comparison.
So based on the above, have you ever thought that "you are also the contrast object of others"?
I believe that you are not really "accomplished nothing", and you will continue to surpass yourself and achieve the future!
You can't accomplish nothing at forty, which proves that you are modest, low-key and self-motivated!
People are still in their prime at the age of 40, so we should seize every minute to work hard and strive for an early career success! Good luck!
How do you define nothing? In the most extreme case, it is good that you are still alive and can surf the Internet and ask questions. Think about how many people died before your age. So, alive, you made it!
Or how to define nothing. be what you wanna be Is there a clear goal? If so, any age is not a problem. Of course, your goal should be realistic. If the goal you want to achieve at your age is to become a world champion in gymnastics, it is impossible. But if your goal is to make yoga instructors in your community pay the price, it should be feasible. Just give an example. Ask yourself what kind of person you want to be. What kind of life will you be satisfied with? Then formulate specific and feasible implementation plans. You can decide the life you want to live in 3-5 years first. Then be specific to the goal of 3 months to 1 year, and then start acting now. Don't wait until you are almost 50 to ask the same question. Of course, if you are almost 50, by the way, as long as you wake up, it's not too late.
Hello, my friend, as long as you are ambitious, it's never too late. Ren Zheng Fei, founder of Huawei, started his business at the age of 43. Up to now, Huawei has become a world-renowned mobile phone brand.
Liu Bang, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, was one of the great pioneers of the Han nationality and culture, and made outstanding contributions to the development of the Han nationality and the reunification of China.
Born in a peasant family, Liu Bang served as a small official of Sishui Pavilion in Pei County during the Qin Dynasty. Later, because of the release of the criminal, he died and disappeared in Mangdang Mountain. Shortly after the Chen Sheng Uprising, Liu Bang also collected 3,000 children's responses and captured Peixian and other places, claiming to be Pei Gong. At this time, he was 48 years old.
Age of fame: 48.
Therefore, if a person has a will, even if he fails at present, he will succeed sooner or later as long as he persists in his firm belief. I wish you a bright future [pray] Come on!
Almost 40, also a greasy age. Let me tell you a story about an ancient middle-aged greasy man! The opposite of greasy is heroism. A hero who always urges himself to make contributions and never dares to slack off, even if he is a fat man, will not be greasy.
In Jin Yong's world, if there is only one great hero, it is estimated that many people will say "Xiao Feng". The person we are going to talk about today is Xiao Feng's idol. When Xiao Feng was framed, he used "Mao Changquan" to express great dissatisfaction.
Song Taizu Zhao Kuangyin was born in a military camp. He made great achievements when he was a teenager. At the age of 33, he proclaimed himself emperor. During the reign of 17, he made great efforts to conquer the East and explore the West, and never slackened.
Although he is a big fat man with dark skin, no one will think that he is a greasy man. In the 53 years after the collapse of the Tang Dynasty in 907, various regions became independent countries, and the dynasties of Hou Liang, Later Tang Dynasty, Later Jin Dynasty, Later Han Dynasty and Later Friday appeared in the Central Plains, which is the "Five Dynasties" in history.
This is another dark age after Wuhu and Sixteen Kingdoms.
The five code names are "eight surnames and thirteen kings", and regime change is basically a big fight, which is a hell on earth where people kill, eat people and burn their homes.
There is only one job for a man to save himself: to be a soldier and stand on the side of the camp that can win the battle.
Except that Hou Liang was overthrown by hostile Li Keyong and his son, and the latter Jin was overthrown by the Khitans, the other three dynasties were usurped by their own generals. Since the mid-Tang Dynasty, the changes of the forces of the provinces and towns depend entirely on the preferences of the soldiers: if the generals and soldiers support you, you can gain the power to be in charge; Once you are no longer popular with them, you may die in an instant.
If you have read edward gibbon's History of the Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire (this is a huge book, but if you want to make a difference, you have to contact such a huge book), you will find that it is exactly the same as German mercenaries holding the Roman emperor hostage.
Because of this, people in this era do not pay so much attention to loyalty to the king. Zhao Kuangyin's father, Zhao, worked for the kings of the later Tang Dynasty, the later Han Dynasty and the later Zhou Dynasty.
If you can't do it well, you will jump ship, just like internet companies now.
| Chen Qiao mutiny
Zhao Kuangyin has never experienced a boom. He was born in a military camp and was brave since he was a child. When he was young, he went to Wang Yanchao, a warlord in Fuzhou, and Dong Zongben in Suizhou to look for a job, but there was no result. Later, he defected to Guo Wei, the founding emperor of the Zhou Dynasty, and participated in the whole process of the coup in Guo Wei.
Guo Wei died at the age of 50, leaving no descendants (killed by Yin Di in the later Han Dynasty). He passed the throne to his nephew Chai Rong, namely Zhou Shizong. This is a capable emperor, and Zhao Kuangyin has made many achievements and won his trust. Sejong died and passed it on to his 7-year-old son Chai Zongxun.
There is a very important point in the Dictator's Handbook by Bruce Brno de Mesquita:? When the ruler is dying and the new king inherits the throne, his ruling group will worry that the interests will not be guaranteed and something will happen.
On the first day of January of the following year, the court received a report that the Northern Han and Qidan allied forces violated the border. Just after Zhao Kuangyin and his troops left the capital, there was a rebellion in Chen Qiaoyi. His men dressed Zhao Kuangyin in a yellow robe and made him king. The army returned to the capital, Chai Zongxun was in Zen, and Zhao Kuangyin proclaimed himself.
Although the history books try to whitewash the peace, some people say that the yellow robe is entirely supported by soldiers, while others say that it was planned by Zhao Kuangyin's younger brothers Song Taizong, Zhao Guangyi and Zhao Pu. In short, Zhao Kuangyin knew nothing about it before.
But we know that Zhao Kuangyin himself may be the mastermind. Who dares to plan such a big thing behind his back?
According to "Long Bian Zi Zhi Tong Jian" records:
At the beginning, at the end of showing Germany, some alchemists privately called Yongde a symbol of being ordered, and Yongde got a hidden promotion in the military. Queen Xiao Ming will be hired, and Yongde will give thousands of dollars and silks to help her, which is very virtuous.
Yang Huizhi of Pucheng, right gleaned, also tasted Sejong's words, thinking that there was hope in the world and it was not appropriate to ban soldiers.
Queen Xiaoming is Zhao Kuangyin's stepwife. She got married in 958. At this time, Zhang Yongde began to flatter him privately. At the same time, Yang Huizhi also saw that he was "not expected to ban soldiers (this is already a very serious accusation)". We can speculate that when Zhou Shizong was still alive, Zhao Kuangyin probably showed obvious signs of disloyalty.
It is also recorded in Sima Guang's Su Shui Ji.
Before Zhao Kuangyin went to war, there was a rumor in Beijing that he wanted to be emperor. He was afraid and went home to ask his family what to do. Sister Wei princess royal is a decisive big woman, picked up a rolling pin and chased him, saying:
"When a gentleman in important things, he can self-determination? What is it to be a horrible woman at home! "
You are a person who wants to achieve great things. Can you make up your mind and run home to scare women?
Obviously, Zhao Kuangyin's plot is well known to his family.
Knock on the blackboard!
Some things come to a head, so we should do it.
If Zhao Kuangyin hesitates, his people may look for other owners. At that time, he will lose his life. If he is bent on being a loyal minister, he will die when the little emperor grows up and thinks he is in the way.
Why don't you start taking on the world and get a little blame? Some people also called "Raiders of Relationships" on the inexplicable platform, and we all listened very happily.
To win the world and be good enough for the old masters and descendants is compassion.
In the face of power, don't go against those who support and love you.
The designs of Zhao Kuangyin are bigger than those of the first five emperors.
Guo Wei led the army into Beijing, and met with "arrows like rain" resistance. Like many other founding emperors, he plundered the army.
The process of regime change in the late Zhou and Song Dynasties maintained an extremely rare peace.
After putting on the yellow robe, Zhao Kuangyin asked the generals and soldiers of the Zhou Dynasty to be kind to the royal family and civil servants. After entering Beijing, you are not allowed to rob treasures and property, and you are given generous rewards to change the bad habit of looting by imperial soldiers in previous dynasties. Except that Han Tong, who was in charge of public security in Beijing at that time, and some of his family members were killed, a bloodless battle was almost achieved.
In addition, he accepted almost all the ministers of the later Zhou Dynasty and gave them promotions. Fan Ju, the prime minister of the Zhou Dynasty who was dissatisfied with him, said that he was ill. He visited him in person and trusted him very much. Finally, Fan Ju, who was forced to surrender, willingly played for Song.
If you insult me, I will die, but your gentleness is irresistible, master.
Strategically, Zhao Kuangyin minimized the resistance to proclaimed himself emperor and avoided unnecessary losses.
In the reviews, he gained a good reputation of "kindness".
In people's minds, he maintained the stability of social order, protected people's property, and won the love and respect of countless people.
With power in hand and self-restraint, Zhao Kuangyin was not content to be a greasy middle-aged emperor sitting in a dragon chair. Chen Qiao mutiny was only the beginning of his struggle.
If a person is determined to do great things, money and femininity will suddenly fade away. Song Taizu holds Henan in his hand, but his eyes have seen all over the world.
Twice suppressed rebellion.
How to consolidate Zhao and Song regime instead of becoming the sixth short-lived dynasty after the Five Dynasties?
Since the mid-Tang Dynasty, the situation of separatist disputes in buffer regions has lasted for nearly 200 years. How to end this chaotic situation?
How to recover sixteen states and resist the powerful Liao State?
These are the three major problems facing Zhao Kuangyin.
Shortly after Zhao Kuangyin ascended the throne, there were two rebellions.
The first time was Li Jun, our envoy of Zhao Yijun.
This is an overbearing megalomaniac, who has been guarding the northwest frontier for a long time, winning many wars, ignoring Zhou Shizong, not to mention Zhao Kuangyin.
It took Zhao Kuangyin two months to put down Li Jun's rebellion almost perfectly, which was the first war after the establishment of the Song Dynasty.
The second time was Li Zhongjin, Commissioner of Huainan.
Guo Wei's nephew, after Zhou Zhenger's Eight Classics, is closer to Guo Wei than Zhou Shizong. Li Zhongjin once controlled the imperial army with Zhao Kuangyin.
After the 7-year-old Chai Zongxun ascended the throne, the court began to worry about Li Zhongjin and transferred him to Huainan. Historians believe that Zhao Kuangyin played an important role in it.
When Zhao Kuangyin ascended the throne, he immediately deprived Li Zhongjin of control of the imperial army, and only gave him a fake post as a gesture of appeasement.
Li Zhongjin accepted the vacancy in the Secretariat and immediately wrote to ask for an audience with Zhao Kuangyin to show his loyalty, but Li Zhongjin did not hand over the soldiers to Zhao Kuangyin.
Li Zhongjin wants to make a deal? Zhao Kuangyin, who has always been "kind and generous", rejected him.
Li Zhongjin is the uncle of the little emperor who abdicated. He is in charge of the imperial army. His position is very disturbing. But just after the founding of the People's Republic of China, Zhao Kuangyin always paid attention to posture, unwilling to take the initiative to pick things up, so he pressed hard until Li Zhongjin surrendered or defected unconditionally.
This time, Zhao Kuangyin put down the rebellion as easy as blowing off dust. It is worth noting that after conquering Yangzhou and Li Zhongjin, Zhao Kuangyin went his own way and killed hundreds of "Li Zhongjin's best friends".
Being a man is for those who can no longer pose a threat.
Li Zhongjin's best friends are a group of powerful professional soldiers, so we can't expect them to be loyal to themselves.
| Have the right to release soldiers with a glass of wine.
Thanks to the support of the army, Zhao Kuangyin himself succeeded in winning the upper position, so he was very afraid of the generals who were forbidden to guard the capital. He was afraid that they would use their own old methods, but these people followed him through life and death with no bad records. He still hopes to solve the problem as peacefully as possible.
In July, 19961,Zhao Kuangyin hosted a banquet and drank with a group of old comrades-in-arms such as Shi Shouxin and Wang Shenqi. After a few drinks, he began to complain:
"I am not the force of Cao, so I can't stop there. I can read Cao Zhide endlessly. However, the son of heaven is also very difficult. If it weren't for the joy of our time, I would never dare to lie down. "
Translation: "Without you, there would be no me today. I really appreciate your kindness. " But I didn't know until I became emperor. It's really hard. Preferably a magistrate. I can't even sleep well now. "
After a few drinks, the big leader suddenly began to talk about his difficulties, which is a typical "bad news" remark:
I have a hard time, too. I owe everyone this month's salary. Let's get together and have a good rest.
Hear Zhao Kuangyin, operatives here are estimated to be a tight scalp.
"Long live, why?"
Knowing that the leader has dug a big hole, he will jump if he is wronged again.
"It's not hard to know. Who doesn't want to do it? "
Translation: "What's wrong with this? Who doesn't want to be an emperor? "
A group of people were frightened and quickly knelt down and kowtowed to show their loyalty. If another emperor, this may be the prelude to killing people.
Fortunately, Zhao Kuangyin is not Cao Cao, and he loosened the string:
"I know you are loyal to me, but if your people are greedy for money and give them yellow robes, you won't be able to do it!"
By depicting this scene, Zhao Kuangyin told his subordinates, I don't want this to happen. With this sentence, there is still a chance.
Detainees hurriedly kowtow, crying:
? "I'm not so stupid, but your majesty lamented and showed me the way to live."
We are idiots, please give us a way out!
Temperature is enough, Zhao Kuangyin finally put forward the conditions:
"Life is like a blink of an eye. People who do well have money, but they want to accumulate more money to entertain themselves, so that their children and grandchildren will not be poor. Second, why don't Cao release the military power, go out to defend the great princes, choose a fertile land and house city, make an immovable industry for future generations, buy more geisha and dance, and drink and have fun all day. I have an appointment with Ercao, and there is no doubt about it. Peace is not easy! "
It means:? You, don't struggle, don't make progress, be a greasy middle-aged man honestly, and I'm relieved!
In 969 A.D., he used similar means to remove the authority of local governors and ministers to save our time, so the chaos in the buffer regions since the middle Tang Dynasty was completely solved by Zhao Kuangyin.
Drinking poison to quench thirst has a strong artistic component. In real history, Zhao Kuangyin must have talked about it one by one, and only when he hit the bottom will he announce it at the meeting. There would never be such a sudden attack.
| Middle-aged people who don't slack off
Zhao Kuangyin's obsession is that "today's sworn enemies are only in Qidan". It's just that the newly established Song Dynasty was weak. He chose south before north, easy before difficult, established a stable, unified and powerful regime, supported by economic strength, and then recovered sixteen states. This strategy is very good. We know that the later South became the foundation of the Southern Song Dynasty and the light of civilization.
Zhao Kuangyin, who was self-disciplined and hard-working, quickly captured Jingnan, Xiangnan and Houshu. During this period, he fought with the Khitan in the Northern Han Dynasty twice, but failed to win. In 976, Li Yu, the queen of the Southern Tang Dynasty (who was good at writing lyrics) submitted her resignation.
Zhao Kuangyin gave generous preferential treatment to surrendered monarchs, and did not kill them indiscriminately, because they were not their own courtiers. He knew that some of these people were like him, but they met the right opportunity. ? When we read Eight Dragons, Mr. Jin Yong said through the mouth of Duan Yu: Duan's family in Dali was especially grateful to Da Song, and it was lucky to be here in troubled times. Dasong didn't want to destroy us. We want to be friends with Song Yongyuan.
Also in 976, 50-year-old Zhao Kuangyin and his younger brother Zhao Guangyi died after drinking, and Zhao Guangyi succeeded to the throne.
Zhao Kuangyin in unofficial history was hacked to death by Zhao Guangyi with an axe, which is not right, but Zhao Kuangyin's busy work obviously damaged his health.
Zhao Guangyi's statement is that they discussed the inheritance of their younger brother in front of his mother.
Even if there was no murder, there was robbery. Zhao Guangyi once said that the throne would be returned to his nephew, but he passed it on to his son, but he never dared to kill all his brother's blood. Song dynasty is no longer the barbaric five dynasties.
Zhao Kuangyin didn't unify sixteen states, but he saved Chinese civilization, and he saved China from a military state. Since then, Song has regained its prosperity and is very friendly to scholars.
In many folklore, he is regarded as a demigod hero, opposite Zhang and Chen Tuan's ancestor. Until the Ming and Qing Dynasties, there were temples in many places in Song Taizu. In the legend of Yang Jiajiang, there is always an Eight Sages King with a golden scepter and a golden hammer. His prototype is his son Zhao.
Ordinary people and playwrights know very well that they want to see the schemer Zhao Guangyi's children being beaten all over the stage by the son of the great hero Zhao Kuangyin.
After Zhao Guangyi ascended the throne in 186, Song Gaozong Zhao Gou passed the throne to his adopted son Zhao Shen.
Zhao Shen is a descendant of Zhao Kuangyin, and Mao took over the country again.
Knowing such a hero, perhaps we can understand the pain and sadness in the hearts of the Song people when the Yuan Dynasty destroyed the Song Dynasty.
At the end of the Yuan Dynasty, many rebel leaders would say, "My original name is Zhao, and I am a descendant of Mao."
Heroes don't need to plan too much for their children and grandchildren, but build your achievements seriously. Someone is willing to treat you as an ancestor and be your children and grandchildren.
In this world, for various reasons, few people are successful, and most people are ordinary people, living an ordinary life. What is your idea of success? Is it as rich as an enemy? Or is it famous all over the world? Desire is infinite. If you reach this level and want to go to a higher level, one of the eight great pains in life is that you can't get it. Actually, why not Living a simple life with family is also a success.
As the old saying goes, forty is not confusing.
Why do you feel sorry for yourself? You are always locked in pessimism. You are old. Don't ask why you have accomplished nothing. Go back and sort out what achievements you have made, what achievements you have and what you are good at. Everyone should have his best side. If you work hard in that direction, why worry about achieving nothing? Give a sigh?
Believe in yourself and try to turn yourself into gold.
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