How can I find such a partner?
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Try to know yourself first.
Every time someone asks me how to find my soul mate, I always ask, do you know your soul?
If you don't know what your soul looks like, how can you find someone who matches your soul?
Self-awareness is an extremely arduous project.
Light and others; Know your appearance. It's already hard. What you see in the mirror is the past. Turn horizontally. A mirror image of. Not like the real you.
If you don't believe me, try now. Take a selfie with the camera that comes with your phone, not a beauty camera.
When you see yourself that is not a mirror image, you will feel very strange. However, this is what others usually see you.
What's more, you can't see your side, back and posture in the mirror.
It is so difficult to know your appearance, and it is even more difficult to know your spiritual world. This is something that will take almost a lifetime to explore.
But I can share with you some methods of self-exploration:
When I was in college, like thousands of college students in China, I was confused about my future career planning and partner choice.
Then I forgot what inspired me, and I invented a magical method.
After many times of verification, it is found to be very useful. To this day, I still use this method when I am confused.
Shut yourself in the study (it is best to think deeply when you are alone), pick up a pen and paper and write down 20 things I must do in my life. .
Be sure to finish all 20 articles. If the fragment breaks in the middle, you must force yourself to write it down.
Ideas that come out without thinking will not bring surprises. Only by forcing yourself to do your best can you express your deeper desires.
You may be a little surprised when you see this list full of 20 things. What's wrong? I want to do this. !
Then the purpose is achieved.
Next, write it again. ...
It is absolutely unacceptable about future partners. Features.
Why don't you write my favorite characteristics of the opposite sex and then ...
Because you may be writing, describing your ideal Prince Charming/Snow White.
And if you follow this illusion to find a boyfriend/girlfriend, you will be lonely all your life.
Why only write down three functions you don't like?
Because when you grow up to be an old man/woman, you will find many things you didn't like before, and you will get used to looking at them.
Ignore the phone and compromise with reality. Obviously more tolerant of the world. All right.
People with good nature are always strict with themselves and lenient with others. Nothing is pleasing to the eye. People are easily dissatisfied with any posture.
So even if you have many unacceptable mate characteristics, you should write them down first and then cross them out one by one.
For example, I'm writing ...
Sloppy, don't like shopping, no foreplay, feel that the songs they like to listen to are not good, look back at other girls on the way, poor English, socks and shoes don't match. ...
Finally, I looked in the mirror and barely deleted three articles. ...
1. Too many controls.
In other words, they don't respect my wishes and always want everything to be decided for me.
Living in the shadow of strict father since childhood, I finally grew up to be my own master. If I wanted to find myself a new father, I would never do that.
2. unfriendly to parents and friends;
At that time, I thought it would be nice for a boy to chase me.
Once he pursues success, he will return to the average.
But when he treats his parents and friends, he usually doesn't pretend. If he is not good to his parents and friends, he will certainly not be good to me in the future.
Of course, later I found that some boys are not necessarily loyal to their girlfriends even if they are loyal to their parents and friends.
Girlfriend and
If you look at yourself at the age of 30 and don't think it's stupid, then there's a problem-
I lived in vain 10 years.
Life is a process of continuous exploration and growth, and the religious view is that life is a kind of practice. . I don't want to die at 20 and be buried at 80. .
As for the future, I think if I delete one of these three items, I will keep it and actively add this one.
Strong desire for control. I can accept that. As long as his decision is right, let him control it.
Disadvantages, though important. However, even if he is a bad person who will grow up on his own initiative, the worst result will be to abandon me after he has wings.
But during this time with him, I believe I will be raised by him for a while.
Love makes me a better person, which is more important than having love itself, isn't it?
Seeing this, you must think: the problem is that sexual concepts are similar. What do you think is spiritual about what you said?
Believe me, the concept of sex is similar, but it's not that I like SM and you like SM. At best, it is a similar sexual preference.
For long-term intimate relationships, similar sexual preferences are not enough.
I'm tired of snapping pictures!
As long as the spirit is highly unified, both sides accept each other and serve each other. Consciousness, even if sexual preferences are inconsistent, can also work out a set of programs that both people are satisfied with.
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Go to the right place to find a match.
After you have a certain understanding of yourself, you will have a general understanding of the user portrait of the partner you are looking for.
I want to find a girl with a positive attitude towards life, go to the library, go to training classes and go to the gym.
A girl with literary personality who can accompany you through the romantic life is likely to appear in art salons, concerts and art exhibitions.
Girls who love challenges, even a little bohemian, may be in mountaineering, skydiving and outdoor sports clubs at this time.
If you are looking for a girl who is willing to face up to her sexual desire and regard sex as a sunny thing, then the female fans of Ximo Lab are your goal.
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Turn the matching person into yours.
Tell another story of yourself.
At that time, I secretly loved a versatile male god in high school.
He can sing and write. When I was a sophomore, cutclass formed a band outside the school, and the songs they wrote were still very famous on Douban.
I like poetry since I was a child. I have always been a person with an abnormal mind and a timid body. Fake girl. But he can do what I've always wanted to do but dare not.
This is a brave existence.
I think he is my the only thrill and soul mate. So I tried to tease him for a long time.
Haven't got up yet.
I refuse to accept it. I was not convinced until I met his girlfriend.
She is a class flower. Piano10; Learning to be a broadcast host sounds like the hostess of the movie "She", and straight girls are numb; A talented person will write lyrics for his own songs.
Look at yourself again. I can't do anything.
It's a mess. I'm not ashamed to call it an artist's performance. .
Tell this story just to tell you: your soul mate doesn't necessarily think you are ta's soul mate.
Find a girlfriend. Not just looking for enough. Attraction is the key.
Not everything follows self-growth, starting with Liao Han's routine of picking up girls, which is the farthest way from happiness (sex).