There are many single friends around, so make good use of platforms such as dating websites and groups to screen the opposite sex efficiently and be happy quickly.
Of course, there are also some friends who have just entered the blind date group. Due to lack of experience, I am not familiar with some fixed rules of dating websites and dating groups, and I have stepped on some "minefields" used by dating groups, which makes the bumpy road to getting rid of the order more muddy.
After observing and understanding more than 50 dating communities and platforms in the market, as well as personal experience in managing Zhengzhou dating groups, we sorted out a "mine-clearing operation" of five common "minefields" and gave it to single friends who just entered the dating group for reference. This article takes about 2 minutes.
Minefield 1: Bad self-introduction
Marriage websites and dating groups have different channels of introduction with acquaintances such as relatives and friends.
The opposite sex on the platform is unfamiliar to everyone, and the single age on the platform is diverse and spans a large span. Lack of trust endorsement, basically rely on their own efforts and understanding.
For example, a resume for finding a job and a good self-introduction are the beginning for others to get to know you in a strange relationship. In terms of personal data, many platforms will require singles to provide external conditions such as height, age and education. The only place to play by yourself is the expectation of the other half. What kind of opposite sex are you looking for?
I often see many people writing about fate, just look at the fate's eyes and like me. Vague feelings, descriptive words.
Perhaps this is also true, but the vague demand for mate selection gives the opposite sex the first feeling:
This person hasn't figured out what kind of object to find, and it is very risky to fall in love with her.
Make everything as clear and specific as possible, or if it is really unacceptable, some people can't accept smoking, drinking and tattooing, or have the lowest expectation for academic qualifications. Write directly. Do not delay each other's time and improve efficiency.
More important than introducing information is my image photo.
In particular, many boys don't pay attention to it, don't have it at hand, or just take selfies in the bathroom and bathroom, which greatly reduces the impression.
There are also some girls who wear heavy makeup to take photos, wear sunglasses to cover their backs and so on.
It may be beautiful, but these are not qualified photos from the opposite sex perspective on blind date occasions.
Photos can provide a person's characteristic information more intuitively.
Appearance is also a lot, and it is also the primary factor for singles to choose a spouse.
Therefore, it is relatively real, and it is the basic requirement to directly see the outline of the five senses and the overall figure.
If personal hobbies can be integrated into the background and theme of photos, such as a tourist photo in a certain place with landmark buildings. Or their own works in a baking activity, or their own specialties, such as piano concerts, have better effects, reveal more positive information and play a role in adding points.
Minefield 2: brush the sense of existence with group chat.
With novelty and excitement, I just entered the dating platform, added friends, or entered some dating single communities. I have met many single members of the opposite sex, and some of my friends may be very excited and feel that they are going to take off their bills soon. I am particularly eager to brush my sense of existence in front of the opposite sex.
One is private chat, adding friends alone. Bomb each other day and night, regardless of time. Hope to get to know each other better.
According to the fact that most people are arrogant, plus the opposite sex, there is a great chance that they are not interested in themselves. This is usually a great opportunity, they will be indifferent and ignored by the other party, or even politely and directly refused, which will eventually lead to frustration of confidence.
The other is in the single community, regardless of work or night off, the screen is constantly being brushed with red envelopes, daily hair, forwarding articles, irrigation and other meaningless chats.
Regardless of private chat or group chat, it is not advisable for singles to brush their sense of existence without restraint.
One potential meaning of bubbling in group chat is: I am single. If you have started chatting privately with the opposite sex, please pay attention to the times and occasions of speaking in group chat to avoid misunderstanding and disgust.
Dating websites and dating communities are, first of all, a social communication platform to expand their social circle. Take the initiative to show yourself and find hobbies. Same-sex and opposite-sex friends with the same ideas are one of the gains. So it's okay to show yourself, soak in the group and chat privately with the opposite sex, but pay attention to the rhythm.
Don't use single communities and new friends of the opposite sex as tools to kill boring time, giving people the feeling of being idle youth, which will only overdraw your impression on the dating platform.
Minefield 3: I didn't meet my lover and quarreled in public.
When you enter the single group, you have prepared rich and distinctive personal data and photos, and you can also grasp the rhythm of chatting. With some initiative, you will enter the stage of small-scale chat with friends. At this stage, you may encounter some unpleasant opposite sex.
It has become a common state that you actively add the opposite sex, which usually meets your expectations of the other half, but does not meet the expectations of the other side.
A calm mind is what many single friends need to face. If someone else is added, or even added by other members of the opposite sex, a few words will be deleted and abandoned. Calm down, don't be angry with yourself, whether you succeed or not, at least make a friend.
Even if a friend doesn't make it, he's not a friend. What's the loss?
Don't be angry with yourself, and don't make noise in the group.
In the blind date group, more people who don't know you will see you. Seeing your immature performance will give you a wrong impression and evaluation, which is also unfavorable for your future billing.
If you beat your chest because you missed the stars and complain loudly in the singles group, you are likely to miss more moons.
What's more, with a cavity of resentment, in order to get justice, I hope netizens will judge and support themselves and send the records of private conversations between two people to the group.
Private chatting and deleting friends are relatively private communication occasions. It is extremely impolite to make public two people's private contacts without the permission of the other party. At most, it can only alleviate the temporary anger, which will not help solve the problem, and even intensify the contradiction.
Of course, if it really involves personal and property disputes, you can feedback it to the platform first. If the platform solution doesn't satisfy you, then deal with it. There is nothing wrong with defending your own interests. Just choose the right way.
Minefield 4: Online entrance Hey, it's so far offline.
After self-introduction, moderate exposure, you can calm your mind all the way. Congratulations, you are likely to meet several members of the opposite sex. If you feel ok, you can chat on the mobile phone line.
Here comes the fourth common minefield. Because of busy work, even some single people are not confident about their figure, and will intentionally or unintentionally delay the opportunity to meet offline, especially when the opposite sex takes the initiative to initiate a date, they choose to take the initiative to avoid it.
No matter how perfect the reason for refusal is, it is not conducive to further understanding between the two sides, and it will also affect the resentment and suspicion of the initiator.
The other person usually understands it as: you don't really have a good impression on ta, just saying it.
It is advisable to chat online, meet offline as soon as possible to learn more, and don't delay for too long.
Tea is cold for a long time, and people are yellow for a long time.
Minefield 5: The debate won and the object lost.
In the blind date group, you can discuss some remarks you don't like and avoid arguments.
The most common thing is to comment on other people's mate selection criteria at will. First of all, the standard of choosing a spouse is an extremely personalized and free concept. There is no universal standard to define what kind of person should find a heterosexual partner.
Even if there is, everyone has a unique place, so put yourself in the other's shoes. You should not like the opposite sex who is told by other strangers what qualifications you should meet.
There are many examples of different conclusions about other topics of no one-date dating, especially when this view will form a natural camp because of gender. Don't do stupid things like winning the debate and losing the object.
Have you ever encountered the above five common minefields? Codewords are not easy. If you think it's helpful to you, collect it, and then go if you like it.