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0 1 The relationship between husband and wife should be the closest among all relationships in the world, and there will inevitably be small frictions. Effective communication with each other is the way to clean up.

What a good marriage needs is to manage wholeheartedly, guide the other half of the marriage and carry out "transformation".

Before marriage, men can try their best to win a smile; After I got married, I left all the trivial things in my life to women.

The secular world demands too much of women, and they will be praised for their successful careers. Women should not only take care of their husbands and children, but also earn money to support their families.

In men's eyes, washing, cooking and doing housework is not worth putting on the table, but a relaxing job that needs women to do.

Most women will look at their mother-in-law, who is also a woman, so the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to reconcile.

In fact, if the mother-in-law takes the initiative to help, then the young couple should express their gratitude. It is also the right of each other to enjoy their old age.

After all, it is the man you married who bears the burden of life with you and is the chief culprit of these grievances in your life.

Some marriages are a kind of enjoyment and support for women, which can make women more and more excellent and understand life more and more.

Other marriages are poison and torture to women. They turn women into bitches, disgruntled women, and are no longer grateful for life.

Most Chinese marriages present this pattern: the mother-in-law is offside, the husband is absent, and the wife is misplaced.

For example, Xiao Ning's married life is stirred up by this model, and her mother-in-law always has a strong sense of participation in her life.

For example, Xiao Ning bought some clothes and shoes in shopping activities. When her mother-in-law sees Xiao Ning wearing new clothes, she will begin to tell her that money is hard to earn and life is not easy, and then she will recall her painful experience.

Xiao Ning arranged for her children to attend English training classes, and her mother-in-law would come and say, What's the use of such a small child learning those?

Mother-in-law will also instruct her to send fruit to her son lying on the sofa. If she doesn't peel and cut into pieces, she will also express her dissatisfaction.

Faced with these, Xiao Ning is not without complaints, but they still need her mother-in-law's help. For example, Xiao Ning and her husband were late from work, and Xiao Ning wanted to send their children to a care class, but her husband didn't agree.

Therefore, the task of picking up and dropping off children can only rely on the mother-in-law.

Xiao Ning's husband is invisible in marriage. Not only does he not do housework, but he goes out to drink and play cards with friends every once in a while.

Talking and laughing outside, I was in high spirits, and when I got home, I was sick all over, and I was always tired. Xiao Ning worked hard in the company for a day. After returning home, she will also help the children with their homework, do housework and take care of the giant baby husband from time to time.

The traditional female role of mother in China has entered the society. Unfortunately, most China fathers did not return to their families.

Faced with this situation, Xiao Ning didn't think about fighting with her husband, but kept fighting with her mother-in-law, trying to get her mother-in-law to share a piece of her life.

Therefore, this kind of "competition for favor" can easily lead to irreconcilable contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After all, there is no blood relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After all, because a man has entered the same family, many emotions cannot be connected. It's best not to increase contradictions between them as much as possible, otherwise the process of settlement will be very difficult.

Xiao Ning did lead a hard life, but the person who shared this hardship for her should not be her mother-in-law, but the man who formed a family with her and entered the marriage hall.

In the early days of marriage, men can often listen to your advice, but once they have formed an inherent lifestyle, it is impossible for men to sit and listen to your complaints and complaints.

After a long time, you can only pay for your actions.

Of course, generally speaking, in families, men are generally lazier than women. If he doesn't have the habit of doing housework in family of origin, it will be difficult to improve in his new family.

However, this does not mean that it should be allowed to develop freely. Marriage is a book and a science. In addition to daily necessities, you need a sense of ceremony.

What couples are most afraid of is that one can't hear, the other can't ask and has no taste.

In fact, men can also think like this: you love your wife, and women will take better care of your family accordingly.

You face the girl you finally marry, but you don't cherish her; I just don't like going home when I spend a lot of money on real estate. In the face of children who can bring affection to themselves, but just don't want to get along, what is the significance of you from strangers to familiarity to forming a family?

Whether a woman's married life is happy or not is a prerequisite for her to become a "lady" or an "dissatisfied wife".

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