Second marriage is prone to problems. Many young people get married without knowing each other very well, and it is very easy to get divorced. After divorce, many people will remarry. Remarriage must be carefully considered. The following are common problems in second marriage.

Second Marriage 1 Four Contradictions of Remarried Families

Children's contradiction

There are two common situations, such as facing each other's children. For another child, you should be able to accept him sincerely; Even if the other party doesn't bring the children, you should try your best to satisfy the other party's desire to visit the children and bring them into this new home.

It is unrealistic to accept only one's own children and not the other's children, but want the other party to work wholeheartedly for this new home. For another child, you should learn to accept him and never indulge him. Remember, you are the elder! Therefore, there is no need to please them deliberately, because this will only encourage their rebellion and arrogance.

For your child, you must let him know that you will have a new father/mother and new brothers and sisters. Our family will be more complete and happy because of their participation.

At the same time, you should let your children know that your new father/mother is your elder, and he loves me, you and this family very much. You should at least express your gratitude and respect for what TA has done for you.

Parental contradiction

Contradictions arising from parents' problems can not be ignored in remarriage, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Remarried men and women, if possible, it is best to live separately from their parents. Cohabitation will make the second marriage more complicated and fragile.

But if your parents are old and need your care, it is inevitable. At this time, we must deal with the relationship between parents and the other half, and it is best not to let parents get involved in your relationship.

Economic contradiction

77% of remarried couples have conflicts due to economic problems, which makes remarried people have to pay attention to it. Here, I would also like to remind remarried men and women that since they are married, your lifelong intimacy will be unparalleled, including children and parents.

Therefore, remarried couples should discuss everything openly and transparently in income and economy, in real estate and in all incomes.

Everything should focus on the interests of both husband and wife. If you cheat, I'll hide, you give it to the child, and I'll keep it for the child. This will hurt children and make them lack motivation and self-reliance;

Second, it hurts the other person's heart, because the husband or wife is the person who will accompany you all your life, and you gave all your money for illness, death and retirement to your children, without considering your old age and the other person's life. Over time, the other person will part ways with you because you are half-hearted, because you don't care about the other person's old age and happiness.

Trust contradiction

In family life, when husband and wife face life together and live a beautiful life of rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, there is often a crisis of trust. This is often due to the psychological shadow or even "psychological trauma" caused by the previous marriage, which will lead to insecurity, sensitivity and paranoia. In order to protect themselves from harm, the subconscious forms distrust of love and remarried partners, so it is easier to form family conflicts.

Since you choose to remarry, you must sever any connection with your previous marriage, including thoughts. Taking the second marriage as a new beginning, forgetting the unpleasantness of the last marriage and building the trust of the new marriage are the keys to the long-term second marriage.

But it takes a lot of psychological energy to really do it. The most basic thing to do is to get out of the psychological shadow or trauma of previous marriage; You should know that "controlling" your lover's heart on yourself is not achieved by controlling economic power. The more you try to hold your lover's heart and person, the farther you will push your lover. Do a good job of spiritual communication, in order to better understand each other.

In fact, whether you are newly married or remarried, the most important thing in family relations is mutual respect, and family life will be harmonious.

Problems that are easy to appear in the second marriage 2 problems existing in the second married couple

1. No emotional foundation.

I believe that most people get married for the first time because of love. If they choose to remarry, they will definitely choose the right one. Maybe you all had failed marriages, but now you just choose to make do because all the conditions are right. Maybe you don't have feelings for each other, just feel more stable.

I can't get out of the shadow of my last marriage.

After all, you have lived with your ex for many years, and some habits you have developed are hard to get rid of and get out of your last marriage, so sometimes you will compare with your ex.

3. Contact with ex-wife or ex-husband arouses suspicion

The most intolerable thing for remarried couples is that their wives or husbands are still in contact. They will think, since they are divorced, why should they contact their predecessors? Therefore, there will be suspicion between them. Therefore, after remarriage, you must not get entangled with your predecessor, otherwise you will repeat the mistakes of the last marriage.

4. Child rearing

It would be better if neither of them had children. If two people have children, it is easy for both sides to have conflicts when facing the problems of adoptive parents. Consider how to treat both children fairly, unless you can make the two children live in peace, so as to maintain your marriage.

5. Leave a "back hand" economically

The burden of second marriage will be much heavier. You who get married for the second time have never thought of relying entirely on each other, so many remarried families will scrimp and save, that is, save some small coffers. Once these behaviors are discovered by the other party, they will arouse all your contradictions.

6. Contrast before and after the elderly

The ideology of the old people is feudal, so when you get married for the second time, you will be compared by the old people while facing the new family and environment. You feel that you are not as good as your former daughter-in-law and son-in-law who has no money. This kind of life will make you collapse sooner or later.

Second marriage is prone to problems. First, the second marriage is high risk, low investment and low income.

Why is the second marriage high risk, low investment and low income? Mainly depends on whether two people have the patience to maintain this so-called home! The so-called high risk of two people means that two people can't give up their hearts. What feelings can they talk about without giving up their hearts?

Low investment means that both sides dare not pay too much, for fear that the other side will fail them again, which is why they are unwilling to pay! Low income shows that the relationship between the two sides is very weak, and if there is, it is also a simple interaction between husband and wife. Low investment is the beginning of low income!

Second: Married men and women are lucky and unwilling to face the past.

In fact, the end of one relationship means the beginning of another. Although people can't forget their feelings, they can't stay at a certain point in the past forever. Now that it's all over, why forget it there? Both men and women in the second marriage family are lucky. Maybe I'm waiting, and that ta will come to me again.

If both of them think so, it is really disappointing the reunion of the second marriage. Now that it's over, face the reality and don't let the past break your real life! Now that you have left, you should be able to afford it and put it down. This is respect for the person you love and the best gratitude for you!

Third: things in the second marriage family should be solved patiently and discussed in everything.

There are many things in the second marriage family. If you don't handle it well, you will face all bad performances! For example, the children of the second marriage family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the internal problems of the second marriage family and so on.

These are all realistic problems, but you can't get around them, and you must face them. If you want to deal with them simply, then you may face greater challenges, so in order not to bother yourself in the future, you'd better deal with this matter calmly!

All the problems of the second marriage family always come down to whether two people can give each other less hypocrisy and more sincerity. Less doubt, more patience. In fact, a second-married family can be happy for a lifetime, mainly depending on whether you want to live together or not.

Everything has advantages and disadvantages, so we should analyze it dialectically. In short, don't get involved in this muddy water if you can't get married. The water in it is too deep, so don't hurt yourself and delay others.