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The number of 30+ has filled many working women with expectations and fears.
Before the age of 30, we have been experiencing, and these experiences are mature capital after the age of 30.
Age has made us complete the transformation, and the whole person has gained a lot and matured a lot.
Gradually mature, we think that life after 30 years old will become more substantial and smooth after experiencing the world and hardships, but we don't know that life after 30 years old is another starting point and the beginning of more hardships.
Women in the workplace after the age of 30 will encounter various crises in the workplace, and it is not so easy to break these crises.
Once, when we talked about the crisis of middle age, we thought it was a 40+ thing, but we didn't know that 30+ women would also face the crisis.
In the workplace, 30+ women apply for jobs, but they encounter a series of "hidden rules" in the workplace.
And age is the biggest and most obvious factor.
Many companies say that they are under 35, although it seems that everyone under 35 has a chance.
In fact, many companies are silently lowering their age to below 30. As long as their resumes are 30+, they will be silently dragged into the trash can.
This is a reality and a fact. This is the rule of workplace operation, and no one can break it.
However, is the career crisis of 30+ women just because of their age?
As a member of social groups, women have their own special gender identity, which causes their career crisis, not only because of their age, but also because of the influence of society, family and personal cognition.
If 30+ women want to break the workplace crisis, they need to deconstruct it from many aspects, so that women have more choices.
0 1. Society: Give more tolerance and opportunities.
Ma Yun once said that the future is the age of women.
Judging from the current social development process, women's status is getting higher and higher, and most of them participate in social work and undertake the same jobs as men.
At the same time, the contemporary society is more and more tolerant of women, giving them more and more opportunities for survival, employment and development.
Let women have the opportunity to survive and develop in the job market and the space to realize their self-worth.
However, in the social workplace, most women's workplace status is still inferior to that of men, such as promotion and salary increase, job competition and so on.
Although some companies are tolerant of women in the workplace, they are still not enough.
From the perspective of women's identity, because women have to bear the responsibility and obligation to give birth to the next generation, getting married and having children has become a necessary process for most women.
In the workplace, married childless and married women of childbearing age will encounter a "recruitment contempt chain" when choosing a job.
In other words, married childless women and married fertile women will be rejected in job interviews.
Because the HR of the company will worry that you will be pregnant six months, one year or two years after you come in, you have not created value for the company but asked the company to pay for you.
Therefore, many times HR will ask you, "When are you going to have children?" "Are you going to have a second child?" Wait a minute.
These problems only appear when interviewing women, while men obviously don't encounter these problems.
Even if your answer is no, it will make HR question you, just don't believe your answer and finally eliminate you.
At the same time, 35 years old is a watershed in the workplace, although both men and women will encounter problems brought about by age when they reach 35 years old.
However, after working women reach the age of 35, there are not many opportunities for women to find jobs, whether in society or in the job market, of course, because their competitiveness is not as good as that of men.
In addition, in the traditional cognition of mass society, women in the workplace will spend more time and energy in their families, and their contribution value and competitiveness are naturally not as good as those of men.
However, the promotion and development space of women is also limited, which makes the development space of 30+ women in the workplace smaller and smaller.
Alibaba's success is not only in keeping with the times, but also inseparable from Ma Yun's vision of employing people.
47% of Alibaba's employees are women, while 33% of Ali's executives are women.
Ma Yun once said: "You have to rely on men to do this; Be good, rely on women, be wonderful, and rely on men and women. "
The progress of a society and the development of an era are inseparable from the creation and contribution of women.
However, if women with 30+ want to break through the crisis, they need more tolerance and opportunities from society and more and broader development space.
02. Family: Establish life order.
For women, family is sometimes a haven, but sometimes it is a shackle.
Under the traditional educational concept, it seems to be a necessary process for women in China to grow up, get married, have children and form their own families.
Although more and more people choose not to get married now, most people still choose to enter the marriage hall.
For those Dink families, the pressure of not having children and taking on family responsibilities and risks may be relatively small, but for most families, they are faced with not only family responsibilities, but also the pressure behind them.
Most professional women over 30 have their own families and children.
Even families without children will face the pressure of birth.
30+ is the golden age for the development of female career life. It has faded away from immaturity and is also the golden age for women to struggle in the workplace.
However, most women have to choose to enter marriage and family during the rising period of their career development, because this age stage is also the golden age of childbirth.
Therefore, when there is a conflict between family and career, most women will choose to make concessions for their families.
With a family and children, it is natural that one party will shift its focus from career to family, and most of this person is a woman.
If you value your career more than your family and choose your family when you can fight for your career, then with the growth of age, the road to career development will become narrower and narrower, and the natural career crisis will gradually emerge.
Then, we must learn to build the order of life, how to build it?
Some women will choose to accompany their children when they are young, and then return to the workplace and start their careers again when they are older.
Some women will choose career and family at the same time, but some working women will feel guilty because they spend less time with their children.
At this time, we should adjust our mood and state. Only when one's own state gets better can the family and children get better together.
Of course, don't forget to seek the support and help of your family at this time.
For working women, time and energy are very limited.
We should learn to communicate with our families and ask them to give us some understanding, support and help, so that we can move forward with our families and careers.
It is not easy to be a contemporary professional woman. Besides being ourselves, we are also the mother, wife, daughter and daughter-in-law in the family.
In these multiple identity relationships, only by establishing their own life order can we break the crisis of career development.
03. Ability: Enhance core competitiveness.
All the unfairness in this world is caused by personal ability.
Many 30+ women encounter workplace crisis. In addition to social and family factors, personal ability is also a key factor.
Fish in troubled waters in the company before the age of 30, and my vision is limited to doing my current job well. When I was in my thirties, I found myself in the company.
Even some people are still doing the lowest-level work, and waves of small fresh meat keep pouring into the company, and some even become their own superiors, but they can only do it.
Job-hopping is even harder.
When I was in my thirties, it was difficult to find another job without excellent qualifications and past experience or management experience.
So many people will choose to retire in the company after their thirties, or come out to start their own businesses, or become freelancers.
Because the workplace is too cruel, I have never been promoted to management, and I have been doing scattered and chaotic work at the bottom every day, and I have seen the end of my career development.
The lowest salary, the most classes, no one to accompany the children, no future for work development, and the road is getting narrower and narrower.
We often say that the crisis of thirty years old must be caused by twenties.
In other words, when I was in my twenties, I didn't understand career planning and personal goals, which really led to only going to work.
I don't know how to improve myself, how to continue learning field knowledge, and how to improve my core competitiveness, so I didn't realize what I could do besides work until I was in my thirties.
Attitude is the most basic accomplishment for a person to set foot in the workplace, but ability is the most basic weapon for a person to strive for the workplace.
If a person does not have personal core competitiveness, he will encounter a workplace crisis at any age.
Therefore, when we encounter a crisis in the workplace, we should reflect on whether our personal ability is enough and what core competitiveness we have to compete with other people in the workplace.
Strengthening personal ability and improving personal core competitiveness are the sharpest tools to break the workplace crisis.
04. Mentality: Don't make people old.
You can't change your world, but you can change your mentality.
In this impetuous and anxious era, many people are walking in a hurry, but forget the meaning of life itself.
Many women over the age of 30 feel that when their real life fails to meet their personal expectations or goals, their lives will come to an end.
Some women feel that once they are over 30, they will be old, and many things will be too late or impossible to do.
Especially in the workplace, many 30+ women feel that they are not as good as the younger generation, and no matter how hard they try, they can't achieve their goals, so they are too lazy to work hard.
In fact, many times we can't change the real living environment, but what we can change in the face of life and difficulties is our own mentality.
Don't be too early, 30+ is the beginning of the wonderful part of life and the starting point of the golden stage of women.
No matter where you are today, as long as you have a heart that treats yourself, life and years well, life will always be beautiful.
At the beginning of the article, Carina Lau said, "30 years old, still empty-handed ..."
But she also said the second half:
"I used to think that at the age of 50, I was sitting on a cane chair and looking at the clouds in the sky. Now all of a sudden, 50 years old can be the peak or the starting point. It is a very sad thing for a woman to give up herself prematurely! "
30+ is not terrible, and 30+ is not terrible if it is in crisis. What is really terrible is that we don't have the courage to face the difficulties.
May every 30+ woman have the courage to face the crisis and the ability to break it.