My friend's child is a headmaster. Every time I go to her house to play, I see awards plastered all over the wall as soon as I enter the door, which is dazzling and I can't help but praise. Children are happy to hear it, and parents are happy to hear it. Is vanity at work? No. Sticking the certificate on the wall has several advantages:
First of all: it is affirmation and appreciation of children's past achievements. The child won the prize and came back happily. Parents took it and smiled, and then put the awards on the wall neatly. The child feels that his parents attach great importance to him and his heart is full of joy. If the child gets the certificate, the parents just put it out of sight at will, and the child will definitely be lost in his heart.
Secondly: it is an incentive for children. Many parents put the awards of their children from kindergarten to junior high school on the wall, from the first one or two to a dozen or even a whole wall. When the children came home, they looked up and saw their prizes. Subconsciously, children will feel that they are excellent. Naturally, we will be more strict with ourselves. Moreover, when guests come home to praise their children, they feel more proud and proud. Children will work harder in order to get more praise.
But now many family houses are well decorated. I feel that posting children's awards will not only dirty the walls, but also destroy the mood of home decoration, so I am reluctant to post them. I think it's better to find a suitable place to stick it on the wall. Nothing is more important than children's study. I am happy to post the certificate, which is the greatest support for my children. Do you think so? Welcome to leave a comment!
1. is the testimony of children's growing experience.
In the old house where my parents live, there is such a "wall of honor". A wall of awards witnessed her daughter's growing experience. Inadvertently, she has grown from an innocent little girl to a freshman. Every time I visit my grandparents, my daughter will stand in front of the "honor wall" for a long time, one after another. She is recalling the past.
2. It is an affirmation of children's efforts.
I remember when my daughter was a child, she would bounce back after every exam and excitedly take out the certificate just issued by the school from her schoolbag. Then, our family will be happy to hold an "award ceremony". At that time, the mother always patted her daughter on the head with a smile and said, "My granddaughter is really smart. Remember to bring the certificate back next time! " "As my daughter grew up, one by one, the certificate was covered with a whole wall. I know that every award is a proof of my daughter's efforts and an affirmation of her progress and growth.
3. Can motivate children to make continuous progress.
Every time I post a certificate, I will meaningfully say to my daughter, "The certificate on the wall is only an affirmation of your past efforts, and it does not represent the future. You cannot be complacent. We look forward to your next award. " My daughter really lived up to expectations and won awards again and again.
It is these awards that make her daughter more confident and inspire her to make continuous progress and development.
Now, we have moved into a new house. My parents are used to living in the old house and are reluctant to leave. My daughter will visit her grandparents as soon as she comes back from vacation. I know in my heart that my daughter not only cares about her grandparents, but also records her childhood memories.
Now that living conditions are good, everyone has moved into a spacious new house. For fear of affecting the decoration effect, parents rarely see their children's awards posted on the wall. I suggest parents and friends post the awards in the study or children's room. It's really meaningful.
This is my personal opinion, hoping to help my parents and friends. If you have any good comments, please leave a message.
Let me share my experience. From primary school to junior high school, my academic performance is very good. Every semester, I will win prizes, such as three good students, learning pacesetters and so on. One or two awards each semester. After a few years, I did win many awards and put up a wall. At the end of the term, I handed the certificate to my parents and went to the wall every two days.
Do you have any incentives for me? I think so, too. I have been afraid to relax my study, just to continue winning prizes next semester. This also invisibly creates a kind of pressure, which will be very depressing after a long time.
During the rebellious period of junior high school, I was dissatisfied with my parents, life, study and other aspects, and felt very annoyed. Once at home, my brother and I had some arguments. I didn't resist, I just gave him a push. My mom just saw me push. In a rage, she grabbed the broom and threw it at me, but it missed me. The broom fell on the leg of the bed and my mother hurried out.
It should be the first time that my mother hit me since I was so impressed. All my pride and self-esteem seem to have been trampled on. At that time, there was nowhere to put my inner anger. When I saw the awards on the wall, all the awards were torn to pieces, so the awards from primary school to junior high school went up in an instant.
At that time, there were no cell phones, no photos, and all the pride was gone. To be honest, I regret it very much. If those prizes were not hung on the wall, would they run away?
So when I went to college later, I kept all kinds of awards and certificates for myself and didn't stick them on the wall.
Of course, my experience is quite special. When I go back to our children, I get a reward by reading. Most of them have opportunities, including good grades and poor grades, as well as progress awards and moral education awards. Schools will now pay attention to the diversity of children. Last time I went to a parent-teacher conference, the teacher said that the current title of poor students was gone, and they were replaced by potential students, referring to these students who have not yet understood their studies.
Education departments are advocating children's quality education, and we can't cultivate nerds who can only read books and study hard. So now from kindergarten to primary school, besides reading, there are all kinds of extracurricular courses, activities and competitions. As long as you participate, you will have the opportunity to get certificates, certificates, trophies and so on. Even going out to participate in some public welfare activities, there are also certificates given away.
Many people think that some awards are not high in gold. In our consciousness, we still feel that because the awards we have learned seem to carry more weight than others, other small painters, small athletes, environmental enthusiasts and so on seem to be weaker, and I don't think it is necessary.
In the past, why did we win learning-related awards? It is because of the poor conditions that there is nothing but study. But now, with the development of society, children can learn and get in touch with many different knowledge, which greatly broadens their horizons and increases their experience.
It varies from person to person. Some people are willing to watch on the wall every day, while others are willing to collect. That's understandable. Most importantly, these testimonies that once made children proud should not be discarded at will. You can keep it properly, take photos, and show it to your children from time to time, so that they can know their greatness and magic, including those public welfare certificates, and let them relive those wonderful moments.
In the long run, if children study abroad in the future, some certificates are insignificant to us, but they may be helpful when applying for foreign universities. There are still some differences between Chinese and foreign value evaluation systems. Don't forget that China is in line with international standards, and the whole world is internationalized. As ordinary parents, we don't have to go against the historical trend.
I am a primary school teacher. According to my experience, children's rewards at school must be posted on the wall and posted in the most eye-catching position.
A certificate is worth 50 cents at most, but it carries a lot of meaning in children's hearts. It is the teacher's approval, the teacher's encouragement, his glory and the glory of his family.
I suggest giving a certificate to the children in the lower grades of primary school before the winter vacation, so that they can spend the next year happily. Children who have just started school may be very enthusiastic about reading. If you don't get the certificate because you are temporarily behind, the disheartened child may really fall behind forever. As teachers, we should not be stingy with such encouragement. We can use a magnifying glass to discover the advantages of each child. Some of them are "three good students", some are "sunshine teenagers", some are "learning pacesetters" and some are "little golden stars of progress" ... write these hopes on their awards and turn them into the driving force for progress.
When parents and friends get the certificate, they must stick it where they can see it when they enter the door. This is the glory of the whole family!
It is necessary to post the praise children get from reading on the wall.
When my children went to kindergarten, the first prize was "Good Doll", which is still posted on the honor wall. Now everyone can recall the joy of getting the certificate at that time. The child carefully took the certificate home and told his parents: "The teacher gave me a certificate today, saying that I did well and gave me a certificate of' Good Doll'. The teacher said to put the certificate on the wall. "
I left an honor wall on the left side of the TV wall, which was specially used to post children's awards. I posted all my son's awards on the wall of honor. When my son was in high school, there were many awards on the honor wall. Why put the certificate on the wall? Sticking the certificate on the wall is not to show off anything to others. This is what children have achieved through hard work. Each award embodies the children's painstaking efforts and efforts, has an encouraging and encouraging effect on children, is the glory of children and families, and plays an important role in the healthy growth of children.
Whenever relatives and friends come to visit their homes and see awards plastered on the honor wall, they will give their thumbs up to praise their children. Children will be happy to hear that their efforts have been recognized by others, and parents will be proud of their children's past achievements. In order to encourage children to work hard and win more awards. Children will also be strict with themselves in the process of learning and set themselves a higher goal. In order to get more praise, children will study harder.
Both children and adults want to be recognized by others. Every award is actually a teacher's encouragement to children, and it conveys a kind of love and responsibility. Behind the awards are the children's hard work and their little pride. Children like rewards just as adults like money. Parents don't want their children to be enslaved by certificates, but more parents support, encourage, love and tolerate their children!
Some parents like to put their children's awards in drawers, and we can feel that their children are a little disappointed from their faces. It's not that parents don't attach importance to their children's growth, but that parents don't know how to share their children's feelings.
Sticking awards on the wall is an educational means. Whenever a child is naughty and sees a wall full of awards, he will always remind himself that I am an excellent student and can't be sorry for the honor of the wall. Children will understand when they grow up that what a person really needs is self-confidence and sunshine from the heart!
As the mother of a second-grade primary school student, I would never post a "certificate of merit" on the wall, absolutely not, for the following reasons-
1, personal psychological shadow: a little "honey pride". Since childhood, it has always been the legendary "other people's children." I have basically won all the popular awards of our time, and my parents are keen to put my awards on the wall; At that time, visiting others, neighbors, colleagues and relatives was still very popular ... and then I had to answer all kinds of annoying questions with reserve, and then I was gradually isolated by the people around me and became a "lofty" person.
Take the present situation as an example. My parents accidentally beat me to death once, because in such an atmosphere for a long time, as a minor who is not very rational, I have always thought highly of myself, and even overestimated my ability and luck, so I struggled with my inner anxiety after college until after work. It's a long story.
2. There are too many children's awards in this era: if you compare them carefully, there are many more opportunities for children to win awards now than when we were young. There are certificates of various social examinations, certificates of various social competitions, and awards in schools, not only for their weekly performance at the end of each semester, but also certificates of completion of various training courses ... So, what kind of awards have high gold content? Almost all children can get various certificates of various names as long as their own conditions are not too bad or their families are too careless, and the certificates are getting bigger and bigger and more refined. According to my statistics, my daughter has accumulated more than 40 certificates (excluding class prizes), trophies and medals from kindergarten to the second grade of primary school. You know, children who are used to awards will stimulate progress.
3. The decoration style of the certificate on the wall is inconsistent with the decoration style at home: the previous certificate is needless to say a piece of paper, but now the certificate usually has a cover, or simply a medal or trophy tray. If you want to climb the wall, it's not that big, and it's technically difficult. It's better to make a showcase (this is a bad idea, my family doesn't have it).
In fact, I think the problem of parents is not the certificate itself, but whether it is necessary to show their children's achievements. From this point of view, I personally don't think it is necessary. From the utilitarian point of view, first of all, we can't underestimate children's cognition of their own level. Secondly, with the fierce competition, it is good to help children hide a little talent.
Let me talk about my own experience first. Because of my efforts in high school, I won more than 20 prizes in three years, including math contest, English contest, composition contest, word dictation contest and so on. As long as there are competitions, there will be my awards, so I often look forward to some competitions in my school, so that I have the opportunity to win and receive awards. In today's words, if I am not modest, then I will be a real scholar. Other students are afraid of exams, but I like exams, because I can be among the best in every exam. In addition to regaining self-confidence, you can also get a certificate and have a little trouble.
So, should the certificate be posted on the wall? Anyway, my mother posted all my awards on the living room wall. As long as someone goes in, they can see my award for the first time and send out a voice of admiration. Because those awards include the first prize in math contest, the first prize in English contest, the first prize in composition contest and the first prize in mid-term and final exam, the gold content is still quite high. My mother likes the envy and jealousy of others. My mother attaches great importance to my education and is often proud of my academic achievements.
From my personal experience, it is necessary to stick the certificate on the wall, which can not only show parents' attention to their children, stimulate their enthusiasm for learning, give their children persistent confidence and determination, but also make parents happy and inspire other children.
However, today's children are more likely to get rewards than before. For example, kindergarten children, in order to establish self-confidence from an early age and not dampen their enthusiasm, the teacher will give each child a "good boy" award at the end of the semester to show encouragement. Although everyone has this kind of certificate, it is still very precious to a child. Every time my children get the prize back, they will show it to me at the first time, listen to my praise, and then let me stick it on the wall. That air is really exciting. In any case, certificates are the glory of children and should be posted to make them happy.
Of course, there are also voices of opposition, on the grounds that posting awards may encourage children's pride and make them complacent, thus affecting their academic performance. Modesty makes people progress, while pride makes people lag behind. It's better to keep a low profile
My opinion: since it is a certificate won by children, it should be posted to make children's faces shine, and adults will use it to cash it. No matter how shabby the wall is, it will shine immediately with a certificate. The certificate will prove that parents attach great importance to their children and care about them, which will make them more motivated to learn. Second, it will enhance their self-confidence, and at the same time set an example for other children and promote other children to keep improving.
When I was in primary school, my parents also liked to put awards on the wall. When you are free, you can also look at what is written on each certificate with me. At that time, you can be happy. Although I didn't get any reward, I was happy to see my parents happy.
At first, it was posted from 1 m. Later, after I graduated from primary school, lace was pasted on both walls of my house. Later, because there was really no room, I stopped posting it. Later, these awards were hung on the wall until I graduated from high school.
I think when we were in primary school, almost every senior's wall was covered with awards. But now, there are really not many people posting awards at home.
On the one hand, the current awards have low gold content. More than half of the children in a class have won prizes. Everyone in the circle of friends has won the children's three-good student award, and our son has won the three-good student award. We have no feelings. However, there were fewer awards in those years than now, especially for the three good students. I remember there were over 60 students in my class at that time. Only the top ten students in the final exam are eligible for "three good students", and then it depends on their usual performance, such as their participation in labor. So only five or six students can get the "three good students" in the end. There are other awards, such as learning excellence award, learning progress award and moral civilization award. Comparatively speaking, "three good" students are the most important, not only to issue certificates, but also to post them in schools. That's really an honor.
On the other hand, now that the home has been decorated, I always feel that putting up a wall certificate does not match the decoration. At that time, the home was painted with lime walls, and there were no calligraphy and paintings and various colorful decorations on the walls. And the lime wall is not afraid of flowers, and the family is not so particular.
Therefore, after winning the "Three Good Students Award" at that time, everyone should solemnly post it on the wall in a conspicuous position. Unconsciously, these awards are also affecting me. Once I got a three-good student, I will be very sad if I don't get it next time. Then you will work harder. In addition, the guests at home will praise me intentionally or unintentionally when they see the awards on the wall. These compliments are a powerful psychological hint to me when I was young. So later, I won the title of "three good students" for several years in a row and became one of several fixed schoolmasters in my class. I also put certificates all over most of the walls. It is these awards that have labeled me as a schoolmaster and defined the personnel design of schoolmaster. Therefore, I have to work hard for this label and personnel design.
Later, when I came to junior high school, the school stopped issuing certificates. But at that time, I already had a strong sense of learning. Later, although the university and work gradually looked down on honor, these awards were still the bottom line of my work, constantly reminding myself that I was excellent and I was the best.
The above is my own experience, but it's not just me. I have been to several classmates' homes in those years, including my classmate who finally became the top scholar in the county and was admitted to Tsinghua. He doesn't post stars and cartoons on his bedside, but he also posts awards from childhood. Although some have turned yellow and some have fallen off, they have been inspiring him.
Therefore, children who have won prizes, especially those who have more weight, should be posted on the wall. If you are afraid of damaging the wall, you can make a display board or something you like and put it where children can often see it. These rewards are much more useful to motivate children than parents' praise.
Seeing the subject's question, I thought of my cousin. My cousin is very rich now, and has a luxury house and a famous car, but his performance as a child is quite interesting: when my cousin was in primary school, his grades were in a mess, but he was a real "naughty boy". Because of his poor grades, he hardly won any prizes during his five-year primary school.
That year, when my cousin was in the third grade of primary school, I saw a cousin's certificate on the wall of my uncle's house, which read "labor activists". I asked him how he got the prize. He said that there is an activity in his class-the whole class cleaning activity. When the teacher was in class, he said that whoever performed the most actively would win the prize, so he used the "power of the wild" in this cleaning-when the teacher looked in his direction, he tossed his head and mowed the grass hard, and when the teacher looked in the other direction, he was "panting"