Intimate behavior has several stages, and couples will go through several stages, which many people may not understand. How much does the family know about some intimate stages of lovers? Then, I collected several stages of intimate behavior for your reference.

Several stages of intimacy 1

The first stage; Romantic love period

At this stage, men and women move from goodwill to love. The state shown by each other is simple, naive and overly frank. Sometimes I will go back to the age of innocence, and unconsciously regard each other as the most perfect object in my mind. I am interdependent, spoiled, willful and arbitrary, and I can go back to my childhood to make up for it and relive my childhood wishes. Then the couple at this time will not be separated for a moment.

The second stage; Period of power struggle

At this stage, the initial romantic passion gradually faded, and the relationship was full of turmoil and tension. In each other's eyes, they seem to have changed, and lovers may blame each other; Are you still the same? Are you still the man we just met? The two sides found that perhaps the other side did not completely change the other side according to its own intention, but there were many conflicts and contradictions. Many couples can't escape this stage and choose to separate.

However, life happens all the time in our choices. If you choose this kind of life, you should adjust your mentality, take responsibility for what happens after your choice and take responsibility for your life.

The third stage; Integration period

Instead of trying to change each other as you imagine, you are willing to love each other as they are. At this stage, there are less complaints and accusations between lovers, and more understanding and tolerance.

The fourth stage; Commitment period

After the integration period, intimate relationships are truly valuable and meaningful.

The fifth stage; * * * same creation period

After the previous stages of growth, by this time, two people's inner firmness and going through the storm will only make their intimate relationship better and will only make them love each other deeply.

Thin clouds are mysterious, flying stars spread hatred, and the milky way attracts darkness. On the seventh day of autumn dew and autumn, it is time to meet, mostly those who are together in the world, but the appearance of husband and wife. Common complaint against acacia, tender feelings like water, meet each other as if it were a dream, when it is hard to see the bridge. As long as two people love us to the end, why covet my Heron?

Several stages of intimate behavior 2 The first stage of intimate relationship: the phenomenon of lunar halo.

The author uses the "moon halo phenomenon" to express false brilliance, which distracts people and can't see the real light source.

The moonlight is like this. The moon itself does not shine, but reflects sunlight.

The first stage of intimacy is this stage. This is a warm stage.

Just like when we first fell in love, no matter how many times we were burned, we were still attracted by the passionate flame. This is the strongest emotion in human secular desire, willing to be blind for love and be swallowed up by love.

Lovers at this stage are always happy together, because they have a strong attractive magnetic field. Even if this relationship contains countless crises, it will not be excavated at this stage. Because at this moment, people will automatically shield harmful things and choose to believe in beautiful things.

And the more we like a person, the higher our expectations are. Because the root of seeking intimacy is self-demand. We just put our own needs on our partners.

And when two people spend more and more time together, when we find that our expectations can't meet our expectations, we will be disappointed and go to hell.

"The road to hell is paved with expectations."

Followed by pressure, resentment and so on. When these feelings accumulate to a certain extent, they lead the intimate relationship to the second stage, disillusionment.

The second stage of intimacy: disillusionment

The word disillusionment often gives people a negative impression, reminiscent of anger, despair and even betrayal.

But in fact, the word means to be no longer confused by fantasy. This is a good thing.

Man respects and longs for truth. If we can't get rid of the illusion, we can't see the truth. Intimacy can dispel our illusions about love. The beginning of this process is that we feel disappointed and feel as if we are wrong.

Disillusionment can make us understand that the source of happiness is not others, but ourselves. The author says that disillusionment is a gift of his soul, which enables him to escape the wrong idea of "seeking happiness outside".

However, the process of disillusionment takes a long time, accompanied by a series of pains and hardships, which leads us to make deviant behaviors such as attracting attention, power struggle, revenge and self-exile.

Pleasing deviant behavior requires effective communication between partners, and enough love can solve all trivial matters.

But the average couple often choose to end their intimate relationship at this stage.

The third stage of intimacy: introspection

In life, we will realize sooner or later that the truth is not outside.

No one will meet our needs, no one will make us happy, and no one should be responsible for our injuries. After searching everywhere, we finally understand that the cause and effect of all our life experiences can only exist in one place, and that is our hearts.

In the evolution of the soul, after disillusionment, we have to experience introspection. After disillusionment has tempered us into communication experts and can face the pain calmly, we will become more mature and sober. Intimacy can let us know who we really are.

Introspection is the process of examining all our inner thoughts and feelings, and its ultimate goal is to let us live in peace with our inner things and face them with love.

In the introspection stage, we realize that there is an inseparable connection between ourselves and our partners. We will find that the way we treat our partners is actually the way we treat ourselves.

The last stage of intimate relationship: enlightenment

Although this is the last stage of intimacy in the author's book, as the author said, it is by no means the final destination of intimacy. It is only a relatively stable state, but the intimate relationship may return to the first three stages of lunar halo, disillusionment and introspection at any time.

An intimate relationship begins with the first lunar halo phenomenon, goes through many difficulties, and finally experiences a real intimate relationship, that is, enlightenment. This is like when we cross the fog of doubt and can no longer blindly see our own essence, then we will be enlightened.

Revelation can be dramatic or subtle. Sometimes people can immediately notice its existence, but sometimes it will seep into our brains in an imperceptible way.

The power of revelation can make people learn and grow.