You can also go to the website of Shenzhen Psychological Counseling Industry Association to find member units. These institutions are supervised and managed by the association, which is an extra layer of protection compared with institutions without association supervision. Problems and disputes can also be complained to trade associations, but if they are not member units, trade associations cannot supervise them.
In addition, you can refer to the following points when selecting consultants:
1, look at the training background first.
Nowadays, there are not enough people in the profession of psychological counselors. Of course, it's not that the psychological counselor who became a monk halfway is not good. At present, many excellent psychological counselors who are active in the society are half-way monks, but we must know that the learning and growth cost of psychological counseling is very high. Many people who become monks halfway have money, leisure and enough life experience, which is not worse than those who have been trained in psychology, not to mention that many people who have been trained in psychology have not been engaged in psychological counseling. The key depends on their training background. If they only study sporadically for textual research, it may not be good either. A degree in psychology is preferred. If not, are they involved in systematic research of systematic psychology or therapy? Pay attention to be systematic. Without more than one year of study, it is difficult to master a therapy (many need at least 3-5 years of systematic study). You can ask the counselor about his learning and growing experience. What is the study time per week, month and year? Personal learning and growth plan after systematic study of a therapy? If he has only studied psychotherapy for a few days in a certain year, he can basically say that he only knows, and it is doubtful that he can master it skillfully. For example, I know that the whole video dialogue psychotherapy class needs more than 70 days of training for two years, and there will be nearly 10 intensive training every year, and each training lasts for 3-5 days. Such a long period of study can ensure good results, and it is also conducive to mastering therapy skillfully. Some therapies will be certified after training. Don't be scared by the title. A better appraisal method is to ask him how much time and energy he spent to get this title. The gold content of the certificate title obtained through three-day study and three-year study is definitely different. What should I do if I am worried about being cheated by some psychological counselors? It's simple. You can know the process and requirements of obtaining the certificate by searching several training and enrollment notices of this therapy on the Internet.
2. Does the counselor have personal experience and case supervision?
The personal growth experience of psychological counselors is very important. A counselor is like a mirror. If the mirror itself is not clean or damaged, then there will definitely be problems it reflects. How can I help others solve their own problems? Although it is absolute, it is not completely unreasonable. It is unrealistic and impossible to ask psychological counselors to have no problems at all. At least the psychological counselor himself should be able to know which problems are his own and which are the problems of the visitors, otherwise it will inevitably be projected on the visitors. A counselor can lead visitors to a higher degree than the counselor's own growth height, so the counselor's own growth length is very important. Whether the psychological counselor has grown to a certain extent can be felt in the process of consultation. For example, his acceptance of himself, his acceptance of things around him and so on. You can feel it roughly through your communication.
There are also cases where psychological counselors themselves accept supervision. Generally speaking, psychological counselors have their own supervisors, that is, psychological counselors. In the process of psychological counseling, there may be many problems of the counselor himself, or the counseling process deviates from the correct treatment track because of his own psychological complexity and lack of counseling experience, so a supervisor is needed to point out the problems of the counselor and give better counseling suggestions. In principle, each counselor has his own supervision, at least peer supervision (which can be understood as mutual supervision between counselors). Due to the slow development of psychological counseling in China and other reasons, experienced psychological counselors in society rarely accept supervision, and even give supervision to others. But you can ask them about their experiences of supervision at the beginning of their career, and you can see the rigor of their career and the standardization of their growth process. I didn't receive standardized supervision early in my career. How to correct the deviations and mistakes in your career? Should his professional ability also be a big question mark?
3. Being famous, old and expensive does not mean that you have rich consulting experience.
To put it mildly, academicians are faking, let alone others. Some people are good at packaging themselves, advertising and using various resources to promote themselves, but that doesn't mean they are professional. In addition, many people want to consult their teachers when they are old, which is not necessarily accurate. Psychological counseling in China has only been carried out for decades, and there are not many experienced psychological counselors, but they have basically stopped individual psychological counseling and focused on cultivating new psychological counselors. Therefore, older people may not have rich consulting experience. Does high fees mean that psychological counseling is effective? It is true that some psychological counselors take advantage of people's psychology that high prices must be of good quality. I don't think it is necessary to refute them one by one. If you have any questions, I suggest you take a look at the project I mentioned earlier.
4, dare to boast, cure all diseases or 100% cure.
There are always some people in the psychological counseling industry who get into bad habits in order to make money. Psychological counselors generally have their own professional fields. There are some differences in treatment methods for different psychological problems or mental diseases. In fact, different people have different methods for the same psychological problem. No psychotherapy can solve all psychological problems, even if it is only for a certain kind of psychological problems. I don't think any psychotherapy can claim complete cure. Of course, it doesn't mean that you can treat all mental diseases by learning all the therapies. What's more, some mental diseases have not been completely overcome. Besides, you can't master all psychotherapy all your life, let alone master it. It can 100% cure some psychological problems. This cowhide is blown too much, and the cowhide that can cure all diseases can't be blown out. Remember to be taken in by these people because they are eager to seek medical treatment. In order to avoid incurable psychological problems, new psychological problems will arise.
I will only give you reasons and suggestions.
Although many people who seek the help of psychological counselors hope that psychological counselors can give advice and opinions. But unfortunately, psychological counselors are not corporate consultants, and medical consultants can directly give appropriate solutions according to your situation. What psychological counselors do is to help visitors understand their true inner thoughts and then make their own choices or decisions. There are many problems in psychological counseling. Counselors are not gods, and it is impossible to understand every field. This is unrealistic. In addition, more importantly, counselors can't make decisions instead of visitors, depriving visitors of their own growth opportunities. Visitors have psychological dependence on counselors and shirk their responsibilities, which in itself is a psychological problem, or the cause of psychological problems. Therefore, in order to prevent this from happening, psychological counselors generally do not give suggestions and opinions to visitors.
If the counselor keeps telling you the truth, telling you about your life experience, telling you that this is wrong, what you should think, you should relax, and so on. You will wake up soon. This is not what a counselor should do. People around you advised you. This is very different from professional psychological counseling. Leaving is your best choice. Spend this money, it is better to invite a few older friends to dinner and let them tell you something.
6. Is free psychological counseling reliable?
At present, many institutions have launched free psychological counseling services. Some really want to help the public, but some also use free psychological counseling to achieve other purposes. It's hard to evaluate in my heart, but I can say a few words from the effect: first of all, let's not talk about the learning cost, living cost and operating cost of psychological counselors, which will definitely cost money; Secondly, providing free psychological counseling is a short-term service. It is usually a one-time service. Try it if you don't believe me. You can talk to the psychological counselors (not necessarily professional psychological counselors) of this institution or platform every day to see their reactions. We know that psychological problems can't be cured overnight, so they can't be cured in a short time. Professional psychological counselors will make perfect treatment plans according to the situation of visitors, ranging from as few as five times to as many as 10 times (for example, once an hour every week) to as many as several years or even longer. Thirdly, the counselor himself has to pay the supervision fee (much higher than the psychological consultation fee he receives). If counseling is free, you can imagine the possibility that he will be supervised. Finally, the qualifications and experience of those who provide free psychological counseling are debatable. People who are interested in eventful psychology or have just obtained a certificate or some caring people. Experienced consultants don't have so much time and energy to do free consultation.
Psychological counseling is not a simple chat, and the time and money invested by psychological counselors are very large. Nature has input and output. In addition, giving can also show a person's motivation and motivation for treatment. People who are unwilling to pay will not have much stronger motivation for treatment. Without money, they may not cherish the opportunity of psychological counseling.
7. The feeling of self is very important.
After the above layers of screening, will everything be all right? Just like choosing an object, there should be many people with height 168, weight 50kg, fair skin and beautiful heart, but whether you have eye contact and whether the two sides are suitable (three views, personality, gender, etc. ) still need to experience and observe in getting along. The same is true of choosing a psychological counselor. Whether the personality characteristics of psychological counselors are to your taste, whether the genre you master is aimed at your problems, and so on. Need to be discovered slowly. If you feel really bad (of course, sometimes because of impedance and other reasons), then I suggest you change to a psychological counselor. Referral is very common in psychological counseling, and professional psychological counselors can understand and accept it.
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