I like martial arts since I was a child, and I am looking forward to Wong Kar-wai and Tony Leung Chiu Wai, so I watched the midnight show on the night of the premiere of The Grand Master.

Wong Kar-wai's style. Elegant picture. The change of time and space. A meaningful front. In a trance, I heard Miss Gong Er, played by Zhang Ziyi, sigh: "My father told me that learning martial arts has three realms-seeing yourself, seeing the world and seeing all beings ..."

After watching the movie, the cool breeze blew, and I came to my senses-I saw that I was what Gong Er said, "I won't get lost if I'm not fascinated"; Looking at heaven and earth means putting the world in your heart; To meet all beings is to give back what you have learned in life. These three stages are the realm that a "grandmaster" must reach, otherwise you will only be a "grandmaster" and not a "grandmaster". Isn't this also the three stages of career? To be the master of life, we should also shape our unique life pattern in the process of adaptation, compromise, confrontation, acceptance and change with our profession.

"See yourself"

From school to the workplace, from "relying on parents" to "relying on yourself", survival is the first. In order to survive, we have to face many challenges to adapt to the workplace and improve our ability. In this training, we have a better understanding of ourselves.

I remember when I just graduated, I didn't want to go to the "counterpart" engineering bureau to deal with reinforced concrete, so I came to Beijing and found a job in advertising creativity. At that time, the monthly salary was only 600 yuan. Without the help of my classmates, it would be difficult to get a foothold in Beijing. At that time, I was a novice in this major, and I didn't know much about workplace rules and the way of the world, so I couldn't avoid the contempt of my colleagues. Fortunately, you are not afraid of hardships, and diligence can make up for it. I remember a time when I often went to Xidan Book Building by Mazar after work, and then came back by bus after work. Through reading, I met some spiritual mentors in the advertising industry, such as David. Ogilvy and George. Louis, let me form my own belief in advertising. In addition, the basic skills of advertising copywriting have been mastered through practice. During this period, the turmoil in my career made me stick to my values more and more. Although life was hard during that time, I still feel particularly nostalgic in retrospect.

In the stage of "seeing ourselves clearly", we will see ourselves clearly and challenge ourselves in the collision with our profession. We will experience boredom, anxiety, loss, confusion and other emotions, and we will also experience setbacks and hone our minds. Just like Taylor, a lecturer in Harvard Happy Class. Ben. Sharjah said, "If you fail to learn, learn from failure."

Looking at heaven and earth

After the stage of "seeing yourself clearly", you will find that there is someone behind you. At the same time, the expectations of family members and the pressure of life also make us unable to be satisfied with the status quo, hoping to go faster and further.

I am an introvert. I am more introspective than communicative. My motivation for achievement is not very strong, so I "see the world" later. Even if I have improved professionally, I have come from reading books and the internet, and I have little communication with my peers in the advertising circle, and I have not taken the initiative to find a tutor. This made me miss many opportunities to enter multinational advertising companies, and my vision was limited to my own work.

In 2009, I attended the career planning class of the new elite. I am a student of the ninth class. This experience was a turning point in my career, because it allowed me to see a bigger world and meet friends from different professions-people working in NGOs, salespeople and trainers.

These experiences made me think, what do I really want to do besides advertising? With this problem, I worked as a coach in the new elite (and thus met more different people), taught public courses, took teacher occupation classes, and then became a career planner. This is a big change in my career. At the same time, I was exposed to dance therapy because of a special opportunity.

In the stage of "looking at heaven and earth", we need to explore those unknown places and broaden our horizons; We need to take the initiative to find opportunities to "consult" or "play tricks" with first-class experts; We need to integrate our talents, skills, knowledge and resources to build our core competitiveness; We need to climb our own "Everest"-some people will become experts, some people will become managers, some people will choose to start a business, and some people will choose to develop new interests outside their careers.

"seeing all beings"

At the stage of "meeting all beings", we begin to pay attention to "how to make the world better", which often comes from the sense of mission of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". For example, my Sina Weibo ID is @ Life and can be redesigned. This not only comes from my understanding of life, but also hopes to inspire more people.

These two years of career counseling in the new elite have given me the opportunity to work with many different visitors. Some of them are stronger, some are smarter and some are braver than me. I can see the light shining in their hearts and their efforts for growth. Therefore, in the past five years, I have set myself the goal of live high and helping others in live high.

In the process of growing up as a dance therapist, I saw more hardships of life and the power of "change" contained in human body. Because human nature is interlinked, "looking at all beings" also makes me "look at myself" more deeply.

The most important question about "meeting all beings" is: If you can't fail in anything, what would you rather do with your life?

Even if it is a series, there will be lengthy advertising time after one episode. There are fewer and fewer opportunities for you to stay in a company until you are old, and job-hopping has become a very common thing. At the same time, you are likely to face a career gap. What should I do before my new job comes?

1. Don't worry too much, adjust your mentality first.

If I tell you to stop worrying completely, don't read this article. Because the consultant is too insincere, it is suspected that it is easy to stand and talk, and you can hardly do it. Therefore, it is only suggested that you stop anxiety from time to time and moderately slow down the frequency of anxiety. Because you are always on tenterhooks, it will not only help your next move, but also drag you to a more passive position, affecting your judgment and killing your confidence. It is almost impossible not to encounter setbacks when you are born. We will always encounter all kinds of difficulties and puzzles at all stages, and this time is the time to test your overall wisdom. A person's energy is different, but there are only two kinds of mentality: optimism and closure. The advantage of being partial to the former is that at least you won't have any extra losses. If you prefer the latter, you will add new melancholy to the existing losses. If this is the end of the story, it's already bad luck. Why add new troubles?

Step 2 make up for your shortcomings

If you don't know what you should do, what you are suitable for, and no unit offers you a friendly hand to do, then you have at least one choice besides sleeping hard and being an otaku (otaku) wholeheartedly, and that is study. Sounds a little annoying. From an early age, we can't live without suggestions for us to learn. However, in the past, most of us only dealt with it mechanically. For the sake of decent grades and school, for the sake of family face and our future, we usually think that after finding a good job, our study should come to an end. In fact, learning is a continuous process. As an adult, there is no one around to tell you K books. At this time, all learning is spontaneous. This spontaneous behavior distinguishes you from ordinary colleagues, and its benefits are self-evident. Everyone used to write K books. Now, everyone has changed K songs. Think about what you will get if you keep studying. Learning here is not necessarily to continue reading foreign languages, but to find a field and content that you are relatively interested in and continue to invest time and thinking. If you don't have a job at present, go on studying. First of all, it will fill your leisure time. Secondly, it will help you form the habit of studying. This second function will benefit you for life.

3. Consumption should have a financial plan.

During the career gap, because of the sharp drop in income sources, you are bound to face the state of living on your laurels. In this case, to maintain the old consumption level, it is necessary to measure the balance in the wallet. If you used to be a moonlight clan, you can only borrow money. Of course, if you are in a good mood, you may get into the habit of saving money after finding a job. Moonlight is a terrible thing after all. If you still have enough savings, you should also make a more pragmatic financial plan. Not finding a new job within three months and not finding a new job within one year are completely different concepts. If you run a home carelessly and live in your usual way regardless, you will soon face an embarrassing situation. Some expenses can be cut, such as spending on clothes and catering, and cooking at home as much as possible will be beneficial to your financial situation.

4. Don't stop social activities

Although we said in the last article that we should cut expenses in a short career, it doesn't mean that you have become a living creature at home and lost other human characteristics except vital signs. The money should not be saved, and the social activities should not be stopped. On the one hand, it is a bit too much for normal people to suddenly become solitary animals. Although the job is gone, friends are still needed and there is no sentence. Why should they be so miserable and punish themselves? On the other hand, social activities are also an important source of job opportunities or other opportunities for you. The more people know about your status and your needs, the more likely you are to be spread and sold. If everyone doesn't know what you are doing and what kind of new job you want, you will miss some potential "matching" opportunities. If you just guard those walls at home, guess what the chances are that these walls will introduce you to a new job? So, you can stay at home moderately, but not too deep. Leave more doors and windows for yourself, so that you can get in and out easily and others can get in and out easily.

Exercise

I don't have to go to work in the future, I don't have to squeeze the subway from nine to five, and I don't have to twist any broken alarm clock. It will be more convenient to live alone, and there are no people who don't like you. Therefore, most people will show a state of crossing the wild without a boat, and people will love someone in trouble. Black and white upside down or sleepless, at first glance, is just a way of life, and money is hard to buy. Frankly speaking, outsiders are not qualified to point fingers-as long as your weeds don't grow to your neighbors' homes. However, the state of being too lax will eventually have a bad influence on you in the dark. When you are in a mess, your fighting spirit is actually hard to be ignited, and life hits you in all directions. On the contrary, when you maintain a relatively healthy life and live in a clear living environment, it at least shows that you have the ability to control yourself. Don't underestimate this self-management ability. Most people lose in self-management. When you are in a career gap, if you can maintain a good physique and a positive mental outlook, you are a very obvious winner in life.

6. Make your career goals clearer and make constant adjustments in the process of finding a job.

An old frontiersman loses his horse—a blessing in disguise. Having a free period after finishing a job is actually not a bad arrangement for you from a long-term and optimistic point of view. When you work day and night, you will have no leisure to think. Everything is taken for granted: going to work, receiving tasks, completing tasks, paying wages, and paying back credit cards, year after year. Sometimes, you may encounter new opportunities, but you may turn a deaf ear to these opportunities because you are used to the fixed rhythm. Over time, maybe you will gradually become a frog boiled in warm water. And when you suddenly have free time, you have to re-evaluate your career prospects more or less. What should your career goal be, whether it should be adjusted, how to approach and achieve it, and whether the next work can help you complete the accumulation. These questions should arouse your thinking and be clearly defined. In this way, in the process of finding a job, you will not be aimless.

Whether you are a newcomer who is about to enter the workplace or someone who has been in the workplace for decades, you will always face a confused choice: employment or career choice; Whether to seek new challenges or continue to work hard. In the reality of the surplus of junior talents and the shortage of senior talents, this confusion is becoming more and more obvious. In fact, this has a lot to do with the lack of clear career planning.

Facts have proved that people with clear goals are often more likely to succeed than those without goals. In the long career, if there is no clear goal, you can only take a cursory rotation in various industries and jobs, and finally get nothing.

In fact, everyone in the workplace will have a goal. Newcomers will pay more attention to the accumulation of experience and future development. People who want to start a business will deliberately pay attention to the development of the industry and the accumulation of funds. Professionals at different stages will have different goals, but many times these goals will not help them succeed.

This stems from the fact that the setting of career goals is not combined with the social environment and their own situation. Social environment plays an important role in the process of achieving the goal. Take the last ten years as an example. When the IT industry is developing at a high speed, relevant technical posts are most likely to succeed in a short time. However, with the influx of senior talents, the development of talents in related industries has become slow. Many people like to plan according to their own personality and personal ability when analyzing themselves. In fact, personality and ability can be honed by professional life, and interest is the key to success. There are many successful examples because they are interested in history.

Having goals alone does not guarantee a good career. Making a feasible plan and carrying it out continuously is the key to ensure the success in the workplace. When planning your career, you can start thinking from the following six points:

1. What is my career goal?

2. Several stages of achieving the goal, and the stage where I am now.

3. Ability to achieve goals.

4. What I have at present and what I lack.

5. How to improve the shortcomings?

6. Formulation and implementation of promotion plan

Because career is a long-term process, career planning should set short-term, medium-term and long-term goals according to its current situation. In fact, it is not difficult to make career planning. Many people still can't reach the set goals after having a clear career plan, more because they haven't been implemented continuously. Therefore, first of all, we must thoroughly implement short-term goals and form habits in order to achieve the ultimate goal.

Because career planning is a predictive behavior, many changing factors will be involved in the implementation process, such as family factors, environmental factors, role changes, etc., so there must be some room for planning.