A good friend of Weibo chatted with me the other day. Xiaoguo, a 25-year-old girl, graduated two years ago and left with her boyfriend. Doing a job you don't like and living a life you don't like are very unhappy.

The dilemma faced by Xiaoguo

First, the relationship with her boyfriend is now at a bottleneck, and her boyfriend is lukewarm to her. Should I abandon my present life and go to Shanghai, my boyfriend's city?

Second: I don't like my present job, but I am relatively comfortable and stable, and my life is guaranteed. Do you want to give up your present job and return to your favorite major?

I asked her, "If you go to Shanghai to find him, will the contradiction between you two be solved?" She said, "Maybe."

Perhaps, there are still many unpredictable problems hidden in it.

I said, "If you work, you'd better change. Because you are now engaged in paperwork, although it is relatively comfortable for the time being, but after that? If you do interior design now, you are still just an assistant designer, with a low salary and overtime every day. However, there is still much room for improvement in the future. "

Xiaoguo nodded thoughtfully.

Finally, she followed my advice: the most important thing for her at present is to find a job as an interior designer and stop being a clerk. Then work hard, live a good life, and let the emotional things go with the flow.

Xiao Guo is a lucky girl after all.

As long as she works hard in the design industry, even after five or ten years, she doesn't want to work in the system. After resigning, you can also take private jobs at home or form your own team. After all, skill alone is not enough.

However, many civil servants are not so lucky. After working in the enterprise for several years, they found that their work was not satisfactory. I want to resign, but what about after I resign? Keep looking for a job, no!

Start a business? At this time, I found that my five-year work was still zero-based before starting a business, and I had no skills and core competitiveness.

02、

On the platform of the company, we are busy with work every day, get paid through work, ensure our life and get social recognition.

However, if one day we don't want to work in the company, what can we do after we resign?

Of course, open the network of entrepreneurial ideas, a dazzling array of entrepreneurial projects. But are these what you are good at? Or do you want to do it yourself?

Personally, I actually want to be a children's art training studio. When I first had this idea, I denied myself for the first time.

Because I graduated five years ago, the university is a design major in the Department of Fine Arts, but I hardly painted after graduation. When I was looking for a job, I wanted to go to 4A advertising company, but I was ruthlessly rejected. Then do real estate planning, the legendary Party A. ..

At first, I was complacent, because the four A companies that rejected me at the beginning are now looking for cooperation one by one. After the cooperation, the designers took pains to revise the manuscript again and again under my guidance. Well, it seems that they listen to everything I say unconditionally.

But what can this prove? You can get up! ? But I can't!

I still don't have a specialty of my own. If I had kept looking for a design job or painting, even if I quit, I still had the foundation and capital to do what I like.

However, fortunately, there is still time, and everything can start again. As long as you have a firm intention in your heart, you will move forward step by step towards your goal.

03、

One of my new tutors, Sister L, is a determined woman, bold and generous. She has been doing real estate marketing. At the age of 32, she is already the marketing director of a well-known real estate company.

She is rigorous and responsible for her work, and her sales performance has advanced by leaps and bounds during her tenure as director. She is often interviewed by various media. She shines everywhere in city newspapers, websites and applications.

In her third year as marketing director, she was eliminated because of the huge political struggle within the company.

The new marketing director has nothing in common with Sister L's work style, and she has replaced all her systems and some employees. ..

Sister l has become a thing of the past in the original company that no one dares to mention.

At first, she was angry. Why did she work so hard for so long that minutes were replaced? She didn't neglect her duty at work. Why?

The workplace is like a battlefield. Everyone is careful to protect themselves in the smoke. Who cares about the sacrificed sister l?

During that time, Sister L was depressed. I asked her out for tea, and she didn't want to go out.

Later, instead of looking for a job, Sister L opened a women's clothing store in an old street in the East District. From an enviable director to an ordinary clothing store owner and clerk, I didn't understand Sister L's practice at first.

When she left her job, many headhunters called her and had a better choice. Why do you want to be a women's clothing store?

However, Sister L's clothing store business is gradually getting better. I have been to her shop, and she hired a tailor to help customers change clothes. She used her spare time to learn how to make clothes from a tailor. She has a unique vision, and the clothes she designs do have some characteristics.

Sister L also often goes out to travel and buy special fabrics, shawls and jade ornaments. , deeply loved by everyone. In the past three years, two custom clothing stores have been opened, one in the south and the other in the west.

I bought a batch of cheongsam fabrics in Suzhou two weeks ago, and now I am rushing to make cheongsam in the store.

Two months ago, I asked her to have tea. She looks happy and secure in a white cotton shirt, a blue linen skirt, simple sneakers and shoulder-length straight hair. It is in great contrast with her rigorous and capable professional high heels.

I asked her, "Actually, your career is still very long. Keep going and there will be better development. Aren't you unwilling? "

Sister L chuckled: Of course. I often didn't sleep well when I first left my job. I don't understand why I was so careful and earnest, but I was easily killed in the workplace war.

But it is because of this experience that I seriously examine myself. What do I really need? What do I really like? It is to work hard in the workplace, spend all the time doing the work that everyone envies, get enough salary, and live a happy and rich life that everyone thinks. But is this really what I want?

No, this is what everyone wants, but it's not what I want. I've thought a lot. What can I do after working for others without relying on the big platform of the company? I used to work in real estate, and I have no energy or strength to take land as a developer myself.

I am a freelance writer, but I can't write articles? I make dessert shops, but I don't like desserts. Shall I make a game website? I have no skills. Later, I sadly found that after my ten-year career, three years as a planning manager and three years as a marketing director, I was as helpless as a child after leaving my job.

I am in my thirties, and I am no longer young. I can't gamble my future willfully. Finally, I am still willful, insisting on the little dream that has been buried in my heart. Open a clothing studio. You can customize your guests' favorite clothes.

At first, the family didn't understand. Why can't you keep looking for a job? But I have made up my mind. The mountain will collapse, but everyone will run. I just want to see what I can do besides work. "

Of course, I don't know anything about fashion design. I used the evening time to sign up for the course of fashion design and hired a master for the shop. Learn to do business while learning design. I'm still busy distributing goods, but that time was particularly full, as if it were time to study again.

Now that business is gradually stable, I also have time to drink tea, read books and walk around. More importantly, I am very happy every day, because I can also realize my self-worth through my own platform.

Sister l exudes a steady and firm light.

I remember watching Silent Confessions recently.

Back to my initial confusion, what can I do without the company platform? How can I find my true self?

First, cultivate a hobby that may develop into a second occupation, such as writing, painting, design and training.

Second, we should always improve ourselves, be independent, keep learning, enrich ourselves and do a good job in life accumulation. Never let the inherent work tie your hands and feet.

Third, if you have time, you can participate in some meaningful social activities and get to know more talents from all walks of life. Of course, no matter how good they are, it has nothing to do with you, but we can learn from the advantages of others.

Fourth, stay industrious, make money hard, make money hard, make money hard. Say the important things three times, and do enough capital accumulation for building your own platform.

Fifth, keep a positive attitude, keep a fresh sense of the world, and don't ignore your inner voice for the sake of trivial things in front of you.

To sum up, I still don't know what I can do after leaving the company platform.

But I firmly believe that a girl who is hardworking, diligent, loves to laugh and has dreams will not be too bad luck. What did you say?/Sorry?