During the dinner, when a simple and honest smiling face with a trace of guilt, end up with a cigarette, a full face of excitement and joy came to the table to say hello, never thought, that simple sincerity slowly froze on his face, and the enthusiasm he hoped for was gone. None of my "successful" classmates reached out to pick up the pack of cigarettes with gratitude. Then lazily raised his glass and stood up from his seat. There is not much smile, not much enthusiasm, only a little farfetched. The disdain and indifference revealed in the eyes seems to be not the simplest etiquette for farmers, so I can't remember to treat them with courtesy. I have to return my enthusiasm with a smiling face.
However, a casual remark after an old class reunion suddenly made me heavy. "That cigarette is only three yuan a pack. If you smoke it, you will lose it. It is better not to take it. " Heart also follow suddenly a tight.
What makes the distance between people become distant, what hinders the understanding of heart and heart, and what cools the temperature of love and affection? The most primitive truth and innocence in that memory suddenly escaped, as if looking at an old photo a hundred years later, which has blurred the truth. Is that a person who has been moved, sympathized and understood? Why did the world change everything in just ten years? I really don't want to believe this change if I didn't see them in hotels and smoke freely. ...
How to understand their "rejection" and how to understand the smiles and disappointments of others. We always brag about understanding, and we always appeal to be understood. Facing many real beings around us, how far is understanding from our life?
Understanding is a noble language and a sublimation of spiritual silence. Maybe we can't be generous, but we can face the people and things around us with a frank and sincere heart. The more understanding, the warmer. More understanding, more moving; The more you know, the better.
Understanding is mutual, there is no pure understanding, and there is no pure understanding. Understanding is a dialogue between hearts. Only by understanding others first can you be understood by others. If you just ask for it blindly, there is no return.
To achieve true understanding, we need a lofty realm. Just as people who advocate money can't understand poverty, people who pursue fame and fortune can't understand honesty, snobs can't understand dullness, and people who have no ambitions can't understand ambitious people. Only by filtering out the complicated thoughts of life can we realize a high-level understanding, pay for nothing in return, ignore the pursuit of money and appreciate the value of our actions.
Understanding is a kind of empathy. You can understand other people's experiences, but you can't understand your own. This cannot be called understanding. Too often, when we need to understand, it is best to put ourselves in each other's shoes. If that person were you, how would you expect others to treat you? If that happens to you, how can you expect others to understand you and put the answers you want on the people who need you to understand? That kind of understanding will be more appropriate, more real, more sincere and more friendly.
Understanding is sometimes an understanding of life, or a thorough understanding. Only open-minded people, only open-minded people, will use human kindness and fiery love to understand the suffering of others, understand the needs of others, and understand the connotation and essence of giving.
There is a pure and quiet soul behind understanding. A heart full of desire to gather and compare troubles will give up some understanding. Desire will cover the rationality needed for understanding, and it will also cover people's childlike heart, so that rationality will be hidden from now on, and purity will accumulate the dust of years. In worldly matters, we only think of our own needs and pursue our own self-interest, but forget the eyes and feelings of others. There is also a quality called crystal clear, and a realm called tranquility.
Understanding is the premise of respect. How many people in this world are noble and how many people are humble? When we will face the people around us with this understanding mentality, we have deviated from the boundary of understanding. There is no clear boundary between people except the evil soul and the filth of the soul. Just because you are rich doesn't mean you are noble. Just because he is poor doesn't mean he is humble. Just because you travel by car doesn't mean you are full, and he doesn't mean he is empty. In the face of those rough and dark hands covered with mud and weeds, none of us can do without their efforts; Who can't live without that hardship? In the face of indifference, dependence and persistence, who can say that you must be happier than him; So please put away your arrogant and prejudiced eyes, please put on a bright and gentle smile, understand the ordinary and simple, and let us respect every real contribution, because there is no dignity in giving.
Understanding is the cornerstone of happiness. Happiness is an emotional aftertaste and feeling, happiness is a feeling that people understand, and thorough understanding will make us happy. Because understanding and being understood are twins, understanding will bring happiness to others, and being understood will make us happy. In the happiness of others and our own happiness, understanding and being understood, giving and getting will be an emotional refuge. When there is no burden in the mind, when there is no regret in the memory, that may be the source of happiness! How can a person with bad feelings, a person who values himself, and a person who only knows how to take?
Understand family, let us learn to be grateful and return. Affection is our first affection, which is profound and rich, exhausting our parents' life and including brotherhood. Love can be expressed in various ways, whether it is implicit, direct, gentle or intense. Don't hurt you inadvertently with your incomprehension, and don't let your paranoia misunderstand you for no reason. Please understand the selflessness and broadness of your family, learn to be touched by little things, and then be grateful. Only with a grateful heart can we repay with deeper love.
Understanding friendship makes us obsessed with moving and owning. Friendship is a sail in our life, a lamp on our way forward, a long-term happiness in the course of life, and a comprehensive warmth on the bumpy road. Know the frankness in smile, know the concern in greeting, tolerate negligence with tolerance, resolve conflicts with enthusiasm, be moved by companionship in plain life, and appreciate lifelong possession in mutual encouragement and help.
Understanding love, let us know how to cherish and pay. In love and being loved, what we talk about most is probably understanding and not understanding, but when we really face each other, we always want to be understood by each other and ignore understanding each other, so we hurt each other in misunderstanding and speculation. When we reach out and can no longer grasp the warmth and affection we once had, we realize that our incomprehension tore up love. At this point, our palms have already become empty, leaving only a sleeve of autumn wind. So, please understand the tiredness after busy; Please understand the long loneliness in waiting; Please understand the hidden concern in nagging; Please understand the true feelings contained in plain; More understanding, less complaining and less hurting will make love stronger. Facing the emotion of being together for a lifetime, cherish the possession of your palm and give everything in your heart!
To understand life, there are ordinary or warm, colorful or single ways in life. Only by understanding the true meaning of life itself can we live easily. As long as you have achieved nothing, as long as you have dreams and love in your heart, please don't use money and fame to measure success and failure. Ordinary is not mediocre, ordinary just dilutes some utilitarian and prestigious desires that plague people; Enthusiasm is not ordinary, it doesn't matter if you are all enthusiastic. After all, there are only a few people who live vigorously. Learn to treat everything with a normal heart. After the prosperity dissipates and the impetuousness fades, ask the world how much desolation and repentance there are behind the desire for power and money. How many people wake up and get lost, only to find that life is near the curtain call, leaving a lifetime of regret and sadness.
When you are alive, please let understanding walk with you, understand others and understand yourself. Learn to understand, in fact, in the final analysis, we are treating ourselves well.