For example, I discussed with LG what kind of candy box to buy that day. I took a fancy to model A, and LG reasoned with me. A box is X money. When we buy 800 pairs, it means that 1600 boxes are XX money, which is just an empty box without sugar. I said type A is already the cheapest of its kind. LG also moved out the fact that, for example, a colleague's candy box in their unit was only a few cents. Through such reasoning and facts, LG finally completed the procedure of an argumentative paper and concluded: "Who cares so much about packaging? Love candy, eat sugar, not packaging. Why is the packaging box so expensive? " At this time, LG's mood is already very high. This program seems to be a very successful argumentative essay, but it still doesn't convince me. I said weakly, "but I think model A looks good, and it looks better with it." LG's mood finally reached its peak. He got angry at me excitedly with the tone of hating iron not to produce: "beautiful, beautiful, you know beautiful!" What's the use of beauty? " A rhetorical question left me speechless. Yes, what's the use of being beautiful? I want a beautifully packaged candy box just to get a compliment on my wedding day. Your candy box is really beautiful. Isn't this my selfish vanity at work? Vanity is not a good thing, once it expands, it will make people lose themselves. Although I have only a little vanity, how can I get rid of it? Vanity also has a desirable side, that is self-esteem; But it's not good to go too far, which means: save face and suffer. Vanity, from the psychological point of view, is a character defect of pursuing vanity and a distorted self-esteem. Everyone has self-esteem and hopes to be recognized by society. This is a normal psychological need, but people with strong vanity do not make real efforts, but use abnormal means such as lying and speculation to fish and hunt for fame. Want to turn vanity into self-esteem, we should pay attention to the following points to adjust. Knowing the harm of vanity, people with strong vanity will unconsciously infiltrate selfishness, hypocrisy, fraud and other factors into their thoughts, which is incompatible with virtues such as modesty, prudence, openness and not seeking fame. Vanity people do good deeds for praise, are complacent about praise and success, and even cheat. They try their best to cover up their shortcomings, and they don't like and are not good at learning from each other. Middle school students are in the physical and psychological maturity, and this vanity is very harmful to middle school students who are eager to make progress and are growing up. A vain person, who is strong outside but weak inside, dares not show his heart and brings himself a heavy psychological burden. Vanity can only be satisfied temporarily in reality, and long-term vanity will lead to the breeding of unhealthy emotional factors. Understanding some manifestations of vanity and controlling and correcting vanity psychology in time are various: overestimating one's own ability and level; Show off your strengths and achievements everywhere, like to listen to praise and hate criticism; Friends and relatives who often boast that they are a little powerful in front of outsiders; Try your best to flatter your superiors; I don't know how to pretend, I'm swollen and fat, and I like to teach my family to swim. Poor family but lavish, ostentatious and fashionable; Be competitive everywhere, be better than others everywhere, and be pretentious; The mistakes in life are all blamed by others, and never find their own reasons; With shortcomings, I also find various excuses to cover them up; Jealous of other people's talents and gossiping; Wait a minute. Recognize the difference and connection between vanity and self-esteem. With the development of the body, the self-esteem of teenagers has also been developed and obviously enhanced. With the maturity of human physiology and psychology, people's social cognitive ability and self-awareness are gradually improved, and individual socialization begins. With the development of self-esteem, vanity began to intervene in people's emotional field. Vanity is actually a distorted self-esteem. People with high self-esteem care more about their reputation and prestige. Having done a good deed, psychological happiness is a sign of honor; Cherishing honor and caring for face are normal requirements for maintaining self-esteem; And doing good for the sake of praise, even at the expense of fraud, is the performance of vanity. Self-esteem is gained through modesty, enterprising and sincere efforts. People with self-esteem don't hide their shortcomings, but learn from each other's strengths; Will not raise themselves or suppress others through powerful relatives and friends; Will not pretend to understand, talk big; We won't blame others for failure and disappointment, but we can make profound criticism and self-criticism to improve ourselves. Correcting one's values and realizing one's outlook on life cannot be divorced from the needs of social reality. We must base our understanding of our own value on the sense of social responsibility, and correctly understand the connotation of power, status, honor and the true meaning of personality and self-esteem. By the middle school stage, students began to study in pursuit of a certain value goal, and learning became a conscious, positive and lasting activity. However, with the establishment of the socialist market economic system, people's ideas have undergone new changes. Coupled with the influence of some negative factors in society, many students are excessively pursuing external vanity in their attitudes towards life, the future and life. It is a symbol of fashion to talk about ostentation and extravagance, eat, drink and compare, otherwise it will be ridiculed because it can't keep up with the situation, which provides the soil for the growth of vanity. Only by focusing on reality, combining our ideals with the future of the country and the nation, and striving to overcome the difficulties and obstacles on the road ahead, can we realize our lofty ideals and ambitions. Getting rid of the psychological dilemma of conformity has both positive and negative aspects. For a good fashion in society, we should vigorously publicize it, so that people can feel an invisible pressure, thus producing herd mentality. If some bad styles and unhealthy trends in society are allowed to spread, it will also form a kind of pressure to let some weak-willed people go with the flow. Vanity psychology can be said to be the deterioration and expansion caused by the negative effects of herd behavior. For example, eating and drinking, ostentation and extravagance are popular in society, and the housing is spacious and the fun is high-end. In order to avoid being laughed at by others, people with outdated lifestyles ignore their own objective reality, blindly design at will, slap their faces and fill their fat faces, and make themselves work hard to lose money and be heavily in debt. This is completely self-deception. Therefore, we should be clear-headed, face the reality, seek truth from facts, deal with problems from our own reality, and get rid of the negative influence of herd mentality. The need to adjust psychological needs is the reflection of physiological and social requirements in the human brain and the basic motivation of human activities. People have the physiological needs of food, rest, sleep and sex to maintain the body and continue the race, the social needs of communication, labor, morality, beauty and understanding, the material needs of air, water, clothes and books, and the spiritual needs of understanding, creation and communication. People's life is spent in constantly meeting their needs. After all, human beings cannot be equated with animals. Marx pointed out: "Hunger is always hunger, but eating cooked meat with a knife and fork is different from eating raw meat with hands, nails and teeth." In a certain period or under certain conditions, some demands are reasonable and some are unreasonable. For a middle school student, the requirement for normal nutrition is reasonable, and it is unreasonable to ignore the actual conspicuous demand. It is reasonable to need clean and tidy clothes that meet the identity of students, but it is unreasonable to pay too much attention to appearance, wear heavy makeup and wear gold and silver in order to keep up with the fashion. We should learn to be contented and think more about what we have got, so as to achieve our psychological balance. The most fundamental way to reduce the negative impact of vanity is to know more about yourself, ask yourself what you really want to pursue and get, and plan your behavior and thoughts according to this rational answer. Vanity always has something to do with fame or public opinion, so it is more basic not to completely control yourself with other people's comments. It is also very reasonable to turn vanity into a source of motivation and encouragement. I admire you for what others have done well, and I have done well. Others are not doing well, but they seem to be "successful", so stick to your principles and win what you desire in your ideal in a way that you think will not only gain a good reputation, but also hinder your principles and values. Of course, it is also beneficial to introspect from time to time, deepen our understanding of ourselves and explore life. Life is limited, try to do what is beneficial to you in essence:) In most cases, we should and can control our emotions, not the other way around. May you be happy.