There is a fable about two horses walking together. One bit the other's neck, but the bitten one comforted the horse who was ashamed of biting himself. Although the story is small, it reveals the touching character between heaven and earth, that is tolerance.
In the fable, the tolerance of animals is good for evil, while in Buddhism, the tolerance of Maitreya is "the stomach can hold the world". How to understand tolerance in our real life? In fact, tolerance is a realm.
Tolerance is like water.
The usual "tolerance" means forgiving others' temporary mistakes, not haggling over every ounce, not complaining about others, and being a generous person in a friendly way. Tolerance is like water, and encountering contradictions is often more effective than excessive retaliation. It is like a clear spring, slowly erasing the temporary hostility of the other party, making people calm down, so as to see the original reason of the matter clearly. At the same time, I also saw myself clearly. The bitten horse in the fable rationally chose tolerance, and finally they made up. Imagine, if it is tit-for-tat, what can be brought about by fighting back at each other in the same way, in addition to both losses and cross the rubicon? Therefore, it can be said that the legendary national horse is actually very wise. Its wisdom lies in "returning evil with good".
Tolerance is like fire.
Because a higher level of tolerance not only means not caring about personal gains and losses, but also means warming others' hearts with your love and sincerity. It is rare to be calm as water; The bearing of giving charcoal in the snow is more valuable and moving. From the fable, we can see that the horse that made the mistake has realized its absurdity and felt ashamed. At this time, the tolerance and comfort embodied by the bitten horse is like a flame, bright and warm. Tolerance can not only melt each other's freezing, but also radiate the heat of love to each other's hearts. In that era, which was criticized by some people as "materialism", what people with shrinking space from bottom to top lacked was not the tolerance between the two horses. If you choose tolerance, you choose understanding and warmth, and you choose the vastness of life.
Tolerance is poetry.
Tolerance is a poem of life. The highest tolerance is not only manifested in the handling of an event in daily life, but sublimated into a kind of mind for the universe and a poetic tolerance for life. The meaning of tolerance is not limited to people's understanding and care, but the generosity and fraternity of the heart to all life between heaven and earth. The legendary horse can't reach this realm, but this realm is so real and profound for human beings.
Those who are worried about the dullness and misfortune of life, please choose tolerance. This does not harm your dignity at all, but helps people to cross mediocrity in the long river of life. With the ideological realm of tolerance, we can understand the true meaning of life, and tolerance is also an art of life.
Of course, there is no contradiction between tolerance and "being strict with yourself and being lenient with others". Forgiving yourself easily is not tolerance, but cowardice. "Treat people in an all-round way" depends first on the object. Tolerance does not cherish tolerant people, which is promiscuous; Tolerance to those who are not worthy of tolerance is tolerance; It is indulgence to tolerate unforgivable and immoral people. Therefore, tolerance itself is also a kind of knowledge of life.
On the road of our life, it is not as simple as two horses. Life is often complicated and often boring. It is precisely because tolerance is like water that complicated things become pure after filtering; It is because tolerance is like fire that insipid becomes more and more distinct through calcination; It is precisely because of this poetic tolerance that life is endowed with art and eternity.
Talk about tolerance
Tolerance is an extraordinary tolerance and broad mind, and it is the tolerance and acceptance of people and things.
Tolerance is a noble quality, a lofty realm, a spiritual maturity and a spiritual abundance.
Tolerance is a light of love, a supreme blessing, and a release to others, that is, being kind to yourself.
Tolerance is a wisdom of survival, an art of life, and calmness, self-confidence and detachment gained after seeing through social life.
"Open your mouth and laugh, laugh at the past and laugh at everything; A big belly can hold you, the sky and the ground. Why can't people tolerate it! " What kind of tolerance and mind is this! The value of tolerance lies not only in the recognition of the same kind, but also in the respect for the different kinds. -this is also the embodiment of everyone's demeanor.
There are three realms of forbearance, which can be described as fish farming: the most elementary realm is to enjoy fish in a glass jar and let it exist and move only within a certain range; The middle layer is pond culture, which adapts to local conditions, guides the situation and uses each other. The highest state is that there are many kinds of fish in the rivers and seas. Let them live and swim, which makes the sea broad and rich. How big your mind is, how high your realm is; How high the realm is, how much you can do.
Smart people can tolerate it. The smarter a person is, the broader and more tolerant he is. Because he knows the way of the world, he sees deeply, sees too much and lets go; It is also because he cunningly found: "Let the world take a step higher, and retrogression is the foundation of progress; Tolerance of others is a blessing, and it is the foundation of benefiting others and self-interest. "
The benevolent can bear it. People who are full of goodwill must also be tolerant. He is tolerant. "I am old and people are old; Young and vigorous, but also young people ",not demanding of themselves, nor demanding of others." Therefore, tolerant people will be more popular, happier and naturally live longer than those who are mean and jealous.
If you can tolerate, you can get people. In addition to love and trust, there must be tolerance between husband and wife. If they always haggle over trifles, they can't grow old together. There is no friendship between friends without tolerance, because tolerance is the meaning of friendship. If leaders are tolerant, they can let the near come and the far go, and the world will return to their hearts.
Only by being tolerant can we grow and develop. The reason why Cao Cao was able to wipe out the northern heroes from a few soldiers and occupy the Central Plains with a million troops was inseparable from his mind that "the mountains are not high and the water is not deep". -what can't be used in the later period when even the enemy can use it?
Therefore, tolerance is a sign of strength and self-confidence.
Ah Q heard people say that scar, scab, baldness, and light wanted to fight with others. Later, even light was not allowed to say to his face. -patients are taboo. A person who is too narrow-minded and selfish must be mentally ill; A society with too many taboos must also be a declining society. Do you think that a society where a poet can't even say "the breeze can't read, why bother to turn over books" can have a long lifeline? Tolerance is a realm for individuals. Without tolerant thoughts and spirit, it is difficult to cultivate great personality. For society, it is a civilization and progress. A healthy, civilized and progressive society must be tolerant, which provides conditions for everyone's free development and creation. Just like a tropical rain forest, plants and animals at all levels and in all spaces need solar energy and soil resources for mutual benefit, so that the whole community can get its own maximum effect. An ideal democratic society should have such a community effect, management rather than control, tolerance rather than connivance.
Building a modern democratic society requires a tolerant social environment; The formation of a tolerant social environment also requires the establishment of a modern democratic society. I long for the emergence of such a political environment-"I don't agree with your point of view, but I will defend your right to speak to the death."
Learn to be tolerant
Zhou Zhenguo
Pan Yue, a writer in the Western Jin Dynasty, wrote in the "Western Expedition": "A gentleman carries things with kindness." Learn to be tolerant when you are alive.
The English proverb vividly says, "There is no garden without weeds." The Arab said humorously, "The moon also has freckles on its face." In the final analysis, people are not sages, to err is human, gold is not enough, and no one is perfect.
Learning to be tolerant is the need of being a man. Sages of all ages advocated forgiveness and tolerance as important standards of ideal personality. There is a saying in Shangshu that "tolerance is great", and Zhouyi puts forward that "a gentleman carries things with virtue", and Xunzi advocates that "a gentleman is tolerant with virtue, knowing is tolerant of fools, knowing is shallow, and refined is tolerant of miscellaneous". According to Sima Guang's History as a Mirror, Mr. Lou Deye, the prime minister of Wu Zetian era, was famous for his kindness, generosity and diligence. Sima Guang evaluated him as "generous and prudent, ignorant and ignorant in committing crimes". Li Zhaode, assistant minister of Fengge, called him a hillbilly. He smiled and said, I'm not a hillbilly, who is? At that time, Di Renjie, a famous minister, also looked down on Loude's moral character and wanted to crowd him out of the court, but he was able to shrug off it. Later, Wu Zetian told Emperor: I know you because Mr. Lou recommended you to me. Di Renjie felt ashamed.
Learning to be tolerant is the need of life. There is no absolute good or bad in the world, and good and evil are often intertwined, so we sometimes have to be elegant and tolerant in the world. Don't rub sand in your eyes, be careful. It's not worth fighting for blood and gas, just like selling flour and lime. Not only embarrassing, but also causing hatred. "The heavens and the earth are wide, and the light ones are narrow." This sentence is a warning in Tan Can. Therefore, Shen Juying of the Qing Dynasty said: "There must be a clear view in your chest, but you should also be generous and not too picky." Master Hongyi put it more directly: "Smart people will not make people lose patience." This is also the reason why we often say "be lenient with others, be lenient with others". In fact, tolerance does not mean incompetence. It is just the embodiment of a person's knowledge, mind and personality strength, which is the so-called "tolerance greatness".
Learning to be tolerant is the need to achieve your career. Cao Zhi, who was quite frustrated in politics during the Three Kingdoms period, said a philosophical sentence: "If heaven is called the highest, it cannot be recovered; Don't pretend to be wide; The sun and the moon say bright, so everyone takes pictures; Jianghai calls it big, which is unacceptable. " If a person wants to achieve something, he must have great tolerance, which has always been the case. According to Song Li Banknotes, when Lv Mengzheng first entered the imperial court, a scholar pointed at him and said, "Does this boy also participate in politics?" Lv Mengzheng pretended not to hear. The man in the same column as Lv Mengzheng asked Lv Mengzheng to ask who that man was several times. Lv Mengzheng refused, saying, "If you know his name, I'm afraid you won't forget it in the future. It's better not to ask." Lv Mengzheng finally became the prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty.
Jin Ying of the Qing Dynasty put it well: "People who want more are narrow-minded, while those who want less are broad-minded." In Zhu's "Zhuzi School", he said: "The mind is just relaxed and easy to get bigger, so don't let a personal intention get in the way first." To learn tolerance, the key is to get rid of inner selfish desires and distractions, indifferent to one's own ambitions and pursue something; At the same time, we should push ourselves and others, complain directly and be kind to others. Here is a sentence from Zhu's poem "You Qi Xing Yan": "The world is wide in the belly, and people often cross the boat."