[Allusion] Mencius is a typical representative of Confucianism and a very famous politician and thinker in the Warring States Period. He is knowledgeable, kind and respected by many people. Whenever people encounter difficulties and problems, they always ask Mencius for advice. And Mencius will be very kind and polite to explain the truth and provide good advice. He likes to help people solve problems and problems.

During the Warring States period, there were many scattered vassal states, some strong and some weak. Tengguo is a very weak country. Many powerful vassal States want to invade it and occupy its land and people. Teng Guo is weak and can't tolerate so many countries bullying himself. The whole country really has no choice but to seek protection from big countries. Teng Wengong feels that it is not a long-term solution to let big countries blindly protect it. Moreover, big countries will not protect Tengguo for nothing, and will put forward many conditions. To get its protection, we must agree to these conditions, otherwise the consequences will be unimaginable.

Only by making Tengguo rich and strong can it not be bullied by other countries, and it is no longer necessary to seek protection from big countries. This is the root of solving the problem. But people in Tengguo don't know how to make the country rich and strong. So Teng Wengong called all the ministers to discuss the plan of strengthening the country. But after a long discussion, they don't know how to make the country rich and strong. When Teng Wengong heard of Mencius' reputation, he personally asked Mencius for advice. Mencius encouraged Teng Wengong and told him that if he wanted the country to be rich and strong, he must implement benevolent policies. Mencius said, "Confucius had a disciple named Yan Yuan, who was the most proud disciple of Confucius and won The True Story of Confucius. Yan Yuan once said,' I can do whatever I want. Those who have achieved something in the world should be as smooth as shun. "Tengguo cut off the wide area of the land and filled up its short area to form a square with a length of at least 50 miles on each side. As long as the benevolent government is implemented, it will certainly be able to govern into a rich and powerful country. "

Later, according to Mencius' words, people summed up the idiom "learn from each other's strengths".

make best use of the advantages and bypass the disadvantages

People's energy is limited. When you spend your energy on some aspects, it means that you give up other aspects at the same time. Instead of spending a lot of energy to turn weaknesses into strengths, it is better to use these energies to play their strengths, and the input-output ratio will be higher. Simply put, people should "foster strengths and avoid weaknesses".

The right way is to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses (text)

Is a rabbit that can swim and run still called a rabbit? My answer is no, in the face of wolves, the Animal Management Bureau can completely let rabbits and turtles live together: when encountering strong enemies on land, rabbits can carry turtles with fast speed and solid shells as defense; In the river, turtles can swim fast with rabbits on their backs. So the critic frog is more rational than the thinker crane. It is better to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses than to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. Outstanding advantages can make up for shortcomings. On the African savannah, cheetah is undoubtedly the king of grassland life, but little known is that although cheetah can run over any creature on land, its strength is only equivalent to a strong calf, so cheetahs often start to run hard from opening their eyes and subdue their prey in an instant with lightning speed. Cheetah did not make up for its weakness in strength, but developed its own speed advantage to climb the throne of grassland to adapt to nature. Nature will eventually eliminate cheetahs with average strength and speed and push them to humans. A talented person in a society may be a talented person on one hand, a mediocre person or even a fool on the other, but an outstanding advantage is enough for him to have a bright future. Combining everyone's advantages can make the whole team strong. During the development of China Shenzhou series, it is divided into many systems, including launch system, control system and guidance system ... People who know rocket launch may know nothing about the guidance of spacecraft, but dwarfs who have expertise in all aspects can stack arhats and become invincible giants. On the pitch, a team has a striker, a central defender, a defender and a goalkeeper. They all have their own strengths, but they also have their own shortcomings. But a good team faces one person instead of 1 1. This man can score goals, defend and defend the goal. That is to say, 1 1 people have complementary advantages, and one person's strengths complement the other's weaknesses, which is the king of victory. Just like Qi Jiajun's mandarin duck array, several people are in a team, some draw bows, some hold guns, some hold knives, and the rest hold shields, so that they can launch effective attacks from far and near in the confrontation and naturally be invincible. What about us inexperienced people? Be a mediocre all-rounder or an excellent expert? The latter should be the answer: be an excellent expert. On the one hand, cooking a delicious meal for yourself is much better than cooking a tasteless chicken rib without meat. If you can write an amazing work, if you are quick-thinking, you might as well synthesize a new material. If you can run like a fly, you might as well set a new record. It is the hard truth for a person to develop better and faster to highlight his own advantages, combine the advantages of others and make up for his own shortcomings. From this point of view, frogs really see farther than cranes!

famous aphorism

Confucius said: If there are three people, there must be a teacher. So disciples don't have to be inferior to teachers, and teachers don't have to be superior to disciples. They have a good understanding of Taoism and specialize in their skills. That's all. (the world says there are still many)

-understanding: in daily communication, there are several people with me, and there are always people who are better than me in one or several aspects; I should choose a good one and learn to follow it; That bad thing must be different, but it should be a reference and a lesson.

Ceng Zi (Zeng Shen) put forward that "a gentleman makes friends with words and helps others with friends"; Friends get together, exchange experiences in learning literature and culture, learn from each other's strengths and achieve benevolence. Zeng Shen's father, Zeng Xi, expressed his ambition to Confucius. He described the late spring season as "five or six champions, six or seven boys", five or six adult friends and six or seven young students, "singing and dancing in the bath"; Swimming, singing and reciting poems in the wind. His vast atmosphere was praised by Confucius.

-Experience: How to make friends in life? Confucius has a saying, "If you don't have friends, it's better to be with yourself", which often causes misunderstanding. Confucius means to make friends with people who are superior to me in one or several good aspects, that is, "choose the good ones and follow them." There is a more modest saying: to make friends, you must see that friends are better than me and learn from them.

"Choose the good and follow it, and change the bad-that is, friends should learn from each other and help each other.

Example:

Facing defects:

Andy, an American, has only four fingers in his right hand. He is an excellent radio presenter, but his dream is to be a TV presenter. Although Andy has almost all the conditions to be an excellent TV presenter, the heads of various TV stations turned him down when they saw his disabled hand. After a year and a half of hard work, Andy was finally hired by a TV station. During the audition, Andy put on imitation gloves according to the opinions of the TV station and faced the audience and his own shortcomings with the most natural attitude. Because of Andy's sincere, confident and charming hosting, Andy was warmly welcomed and became an excellent TV presenter. Letters from the audience kept coming. They warmly praised Andy's hosting art and his frankness in the face of defects, and the audience accepted his defects.