You know, filial piety is fatal to marriage. In marriage, a filial man will make concessions for his parents, even unprincipled compromises. No matter how vigorous the love is, once married, an ignorant and filial husband always favors his parents everywhere. Even if the daughter-in-law is all right, it is wrong for her mother-in-law to think that her daughter-in-law is wrong.
Wenjing is a young man in a small town, and his parents are ordinary farmers and workers. However, Wenjing's parents never disciplined him since he was a child, which led to his poor academic performance. He dropped out of school before finishing high school. After a few years in a small town, he and his friends went to work in a big city. After that, I left my hometown for more than ten years.
Wen Jing is very capable. What he has done in big cities these years are coolies, and others are relatively simple and frugal. The money he has earned for so many years has not been squandered, and all of it has been saved as a wife's book. I also bought a house in the suburb of a second-tier city and married a daughter-in-law in a city, namely Qing Yu.
Qing Yu's family is not very rich. Although her family is also in the city and a relatively remote suburb, it is generally better than Wenjing's. When Qing Yu married Wen Jing, she took a fancy to this man's quality. She thinks that Wen Jing is simple, kind and filial, and can make money and save money. Such a person deserves to be entrusted for life. She was willing to stay with Wen Jing for two years, and finally they got married.
Jade Qing is a very real girl. When she married Wenjing, she hardly asked for any bride price, and the wedding was very simple. The house bought by Wenjing in the second-tier city has no name, and she doesn't care. She married the man she liked without hesitation.
Qing Yu never imagined that all his sacrifices and efforts would have a tragic ending. This man who he once thought was worth entrusting for life would do such a thing and break his heart.
In fact, the life of the two people after marriage is still quite good, and the relationship between husband and wife is also very harmonious. After all, the new house they live in is far from where her husband's family lives. They don't live with their mother-in-law, let alone live together, and there are many unnecessary troubles. The young couple's feelings are more affectionate and there is no quarrel.
Just last month, Yu Qing found herself pregnant. I was happy at first, but then I stopped.
As the only child in the family, Yu Qing's parents are naturally very happy and attach great importance to their daughter's pregnancy. Although Wenjing didn't go back to his hometown, after he called his parents to report the incident, Qing Yu's in-laws were also very happy to finally become grandparents. For a long time, both families were immersed in the joy of status upgrading. After her in-laws learned that Jade Qing was pregnant, she always wanted Jade Qing to go back to her hometown to meet her pregnant daughter-in-law. Mainly her mother-in-law wants to explain to Jade Qing face to face what should be paid attention to during pregnancy.
Needless to say, going back is a kind of pain. You know, Qing Yu's rebirth is hard. Jade Qing always feels uncomfortable, overreacts during pregnancy, always vomits, and is sleepy all day. Going back to her hometown is really enough.
However, Wen Jing is a filial person. His mother repeatedly asked to see his daughter-in-law, but he couldn't refuse. He had to do ideological work for Yu Qing several times. When Jade Qing reacted a little better, she took her back to her hometown.
In fact, jade Qing is very reluctant. Only she knows how uncomfortable her body is. Every time Wen Jing got married, she advised her in a straight tone: "You are just pregnant. No woman is so delicate when she is pregnant. When my mother was pregnant with me, she was still working in the fields. What are you comparing with my mother now? " Jade Qing can be angry to death every time he listens to him. However, considering Wenjing's heavy feelings, he finally understood her husband's dilemma, endured his discomfort and agreed to Wenjing's journey home.
I didn't understand why I called myself until my husband's family was well. Obviously, this is just a two-month-old belly. How can it be shown? But my mother-in-law stared at her belly for a long time, depending on whether it was pointed or round. She also mysteriously gave her a pack of Chinese medicine to boil and drink, saying that it was good for the fetus and was used to protect it. But judging from her husband's obsession with the boy, Yu Qing knows that this is Chinese medicine to protect the boy. But after all, she came, and Jade Qing could only follow her mother-in-law and smile.
Although expressions can temporarily deceive people, physiology cannot. Jade Qing got up early and came back to her husband's family by bus. She has been very uncomfortable. Although morning sickness is not very serious, she always feels sleepy, quite sleepy.
After listening to her mother-in-law's nagging for hours, jade Qing really couldn't hold back. She went straight back to her room to rest without lunch. She woke up once, ate something casually and went back to sleep. It was dark again, and her mother-in-law didn't get up until her meal was ready.
This made her mother-in-law very unhappy. Qing Yu is like this these days. Finally, my mother-in-law broke out. She called her son and scolded her daughter-in-law for her "bad behavior."
"You see your daughter-in-law, lay down after dinner, but she didn't wake up for hours. She woke up as soon as she finished eating. I think she did it on purpose. Just pregnant, the mother is expensive, I will get it later! " Quiet mother scolded for a long time, and finally cried sadly. Wen Jing looked at her tearful mother and felt very sad. He knows that his mother is exaggerating, but he just can't hide her pitiful appearance, and her heart is painful. He felt that jade Qing was really a little sissy these days, so he thought about giving her a small lesson in front of her mother and letting her go smoothly.
So I called my mother, slapped Yu Qing on the spot and said, "Why do you sleep all day?" ? You should respect my mother no matter what. "Wenjing gave her mother-in-law a long face. Although this slap didn't take much effort, Wenjing felt that Jade Qing was pregnant with her own child, and she wouldn't be any better. I'll explain later. coax her. But this slap abruptly broke Yu Qing's heart.
On the same day, Qing Yu's eldest brother didn't say a word of nonsense and drove directly to pick up Qing Yu. At that time, her mother-in-law was a little panicked, but Wen Jing said, "It's all right. It doesn't matter if you don't look. Just going back to my parents' house for two days. I'll take her to apologize. "
But when Wen Jing got the divorce agreement, she was completely stunned. It turned out that jade Qing went to the hospital the next day to abort the child, and this time she did it. Jade Qing didn't forgive her how to make up for her apology.
Looking at the whole case, I think Wen Jing's ignorance and filial piety are really undesirable. Facing his family, he should have his own ideas and attitudes, rather than blindly obeying. Secondly, it is wrong to slap your wife in the face. No matter how much you wish your mother were Japanese, you can't do such a thing. Such behavior really doesn't deserve his wife's forgiveness.
In fact, it is not difficult to draw a clear line between ignorance and filial piety. How to deal with family relations correctly is not a world problem. Many people are entangled in the fog, and finally their families and lives are ruined by their ignorance!