First, the way to overcome the mentality of workplace comparison

Case:

Recently, for some unknown reason, white-collar Xiao Zhang suddenly suffered from "comparison disease": whenever and wherever, he always likes to compare with others consciously or unconsciously-he bought a new dress and tried his best to show it to his colleagues; The child won the first place in the exam, and she also let her colleagues know at the first time; She bought a private car at home, drove it to work and showed it off in front of her colleagues. And once others are better than her in some ways, her heart is like knocking over a five-flavor bottle, which is very unpleasant.

Psychologist analysis:

Psychologists infer that she suffers from "comparison syndrome" and belongs to the typical "peacock psychology" in the workplace. This is an unhealthy psychology. It is easy for patients to fall into an endless state of comparison, be competitive everywhere in the workplace, and always want to get ahead, for fear that they will fall behind others or be unskilled in some aspects. After a long time, it will lead to psychological imbalance, affect physical and mental health, and bring various diseases to yourself.

How can we get rid of this "peacock mentality" in the workplace? Psychologists prescribe four prescriptions:

1 is contentment.

Nine times out of ten, no one who is unhappy can live a happy and smooth life. The so-called "all the best" is just a good blessing.

In the workplace, each of us will encounter various setbacks and failures, as well as various temptations. If we can be content, we will give ourselves less troubles and troubles.

As the old saying goes, if you count your life, you can live 36 thousand days. There are thousands of houses at home, which are only three feet wide when sleeping. It makes sense to think about it.

Less desire and more satisfaction, our life will always be full of sunshine, and the breeze will always ripple in our hearts!

2, it is a mortal mentality.

There are thousands of reasons for happiness, but the reasons for unhappiness are concentrated on: expecting too much of yourself. In the workplace, there are always people who think that "being in Sri Lanka is a great responsibility", so they set their goals high and hold "great ambitions". In fact, there are many goals and lofty ideals that are divorced from personal reality and personal ability. This has always brought trouble to people.

Therefore, in the workplace, we'd better lower our mind, hold a "mortal heart", give ourselves an achievable goal, or set our ideals within our ability, so that we can see hope from our achievements and enjoy the happiness of success. After a long time, a happy mood naturally forms. "The Song of Ordinary People" sings well: "You and I are all mortals, living in the world." When people live in the world, they should treat "mortal life" with "mortal mentality".

3, there are few opponents.

In the workplace, many people like to consciously or unconsciously regard their colleagues as their "opponents" and keep themselves in a state of intense competition.

In fact, there are so many opponents in the workplace that there is no need to always put others on the opposite side. We should have a cool head, change the concept of "opponent" into the concept of "helper" and advocate "harmony is the most important thing", because with leverage, progress is always faster than fighting.

In addition, we should pay more attention to our own strengths, and there is no need to use ourselves to set other people's life patterns and life trajectories. Maintaining personal independence and integrity is the foundation of a successful life.

4. Be tolerant of others.

A psychologist once said: "People who like to keep up with the joneses, with limited ability, tend to pin their expectations on the people closest to them.". Some wives expect their husbands to be expensive, while others expect their children to be successful. "

Once this "expectation" is not realized, it will inevitably bring great disappointment and even despair to the parties. Everyone has his own life and life track. The so-called "everyone has his own interests." In that case, why do you have to impose your ideas on others? This is not only unwise, but also unrealistic.

Second, some experiences that must be known in the workplace.

The workplace is like a battlefield. Ignorance of the world and the rules of the game will really make people feel overwhelmed. In order to help readers realize their birthday wish of "free food and less detours", Han Qi made a psychological inventory of 20 workplace experiences, which are recognized by veterans as the most useful, and each one is the sweat and tears of predecessors who have experienced countless lessons!

1, try not to make mistakes, and recite it yourself.

Many people have the idea that "I joined the company just to learn more and accumulate more experience". Although our boss or colleagues often encourage us not to be afraid of making mistakes and to be brave in trying, the reality is cruel. The company is not a charity, so it doesn't cost you that much. The company is not a teaching institution and has no obligation to tolerate your mistakes. The company loves those who do it in one step. If not, please bear the consequences and grow up quickly.

2. Don't trust or rely on anyone.

There are no eternal friends in the workplace, and many people sell you clean in front of interests. I am still the most reliable, with my own waist, I can stand firm even if the wall falls down.

Don't be greedy for petty gain.

Use the company phone to handle personal affairs, print self-study materials on company paper, and take office stationery and snacks home. Don't let these small advantages betray your pride and character! You think the leader doesn't know? The most powerful surveillance of the company is not the camera, but the fragile-looking chick at the front desk!

4. Never get drunk.

It is often said that China people's business is negotiated at the dinner table, and wine is the catalyst for making bills. But after all, not everyone can stand the "alcohol test". Either you don't drink at all and establish an image that "drinking will kill people", or you can recite a few skills that can deal with the old trick of "the leader wants to make a toast" and "it's boring when the feelings are deep". Making a fool of yourself when you are drunk is a monkey show in the eyes of others.

Don't speak ill of others behind their backs.

Watch out for internal injuries! Science shows that the gas exhaled when angry can poison a little mouse. We can't speak ill of others. We can write about Weibo and send friends! Don't forget to set "Visible only to yourself". Floating in the workplace, no one owes you anything, relax.

6. There is at least one way to decompress yourself.

In the face of pressure, just like Dayu's water control, it can't be blocked, but it must be dredged. Exercise, crying, karaoke, being in a daze, sitting still ... There are many ways to relieve stress, but the effect varies from person to person. In short, exercise is not good. Only by solving the problem can we fundamentally relieve the pressure. Well, I have obsessive-compulsive disorder.

7. Colleagues are not necessarily friends.

Many novices in the workplace naively think that colleagues are friends, and the old slick reminds you that "colleagues are just people who have their own interests and just happen to meet together." Maybe you just feel lonely and need company or work to hang out with them. You can do anything for your friends, but for ordinary colleagues, do what you can. It's hard to get real friends in the workplace. If you meet them, they are definitely broken-winged angels!

8. cherish your stomach

Are you still forgetting to eat and sleep for overtime? Don't get drunk with the leader? Eating and drinking with clients? This is just a job. You don't need to build your own health. What? Do you want to devote yourself to your work? ! I can only salute you.

9. Learn to analyze problems with charts.

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10, your salary is always less than what you pay. Make sure that you can use your experience to make up for unnecessary imbalances. When you pay, you get not only salary, but also experience. The only way to get a raise is promotion. You know how far you are from your next position, and the leader knows better.

1 1, learn to sum up yourself.

Summary is one of the most necessary conditions for self-improvement. Learn to summarize, and your logic and organization will get better and better.

12, about overtime, either endure or get out.

Remember, the workplace depicted in the labor law is basically equivalent to the society in the news broadcast, which is both beautiful and false. Look at the overtime dogs around you, and you will be balanced. If you have been squeezed beyond change, either tell your boss "Hehe, I won't wait on you" or tell yourself "get used to it".

13, please remain confident at any time.

Self-confidence is a good thing, it is your most powerful pump. If you don't believe in yourself, how can others believe you? If you don't know how to cultivate self-confidence, you should see more real estate salesmen on the road! I squeezed a two-dollar bus, and he introduced me to buy a 20 million house! How confident he is about his sales eloquence! "Believe in yourself, there is no house that can't be sold." They say this sentence a hundred times every day, thus cultivating this indomitable self-confidence!

In short, in the workplace, we should learn to tolerate our colleagues or our relatives, let them give full play to their strengths and do less intervention and criticism.

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