So I like Sanmao, and I like her willfulness, free and easy, stubbornness and warmth. Some people say that she really lived the life she wanted and became herself.
There was once a particularly popular post on the Internet, "Things you will regret before you die". The author is an American hospice nurse named Bronny Mayer. The post summarizes five things that people regret most when they come to the end of their lives. The first two of these five things:
When you are ill, it seems a little late to realize that you should and can put aside a lot of troubles and pursue the life you want. Maybe sometimes willfulness will improve your quality of life. After all, everyone should want to live his life in the way he likes, so that he won't regret it when he is old.
German writer hermann hesse once said: "willfulness is the most underestimated virtue."
Sanmao was originally named Chen Maoping. Because the middle word is difficult to write, she advocates calling it Chen Ping instead of that word.
Pen names are also obtained casually. The publishing house asked her to make a poetic film, but she made a simple and popular one.
Because it is common for the teacher to make a penalty at school, and the class is annoying and tired, I only went for half a day, and then I went to deliver food to my sister at noon.
Because of the humiliation of the math teacher, she really stopped going to school. Writing while learning to draw, the whole junior high school advanced placement.
The university took the initiative to pursue Shu Fan, a great talent that all girls said was good, and followed him for three or four months. He took the initiative to walk up to him, wrote his phone number in his palm, and courted. After two years, it really became a sweet first love.
Later, she wanted to get married and told Shu Fan that if she didn't get married, she would study abroad, but Shu Fan thought she was too young to get married so early. As a result, she was forced by emotion to study in Madrid.
Later, he met Jose and fell in love. Sanmao was so willful that he wanted to go to the desert when he saw the Sahara. After Jose agreed to follow, she went to the Sahara and married Jose.
199 1 year, after a minor operation, San Mao, 48, finally became willful and hanged himself in the hospital. But she said to her sister:
"I can't live ten times in my life."
A person who lives freely and never cares about her heart, her life length has long been filled with thickness. Unlike some people who are already "dead" in their twenties, the rest of their lives are just a simple repetition.
San Mao's father Chen Siqing said:
"My daughter always said that life is not the length, but whether you live happily.
How to understand Hesse's sentence "willfulness is the most underestimated virtue"?
San Mao gave the best answer:
Many people envy her and want to live more freely and happily, but ...
So a wild cat said:
Making yourself better is the key to solving all problems.
What is good?
I don't mean to say that in the face of the world of mortals, I must do the following three things:
This kind of life is a lighted life. This is what she summed up after reading many philosophy books.
I want to say that they are all right.
Life has its own way of living, whether it is willful or emotional, or living rationally for relatives and reality. The world is inherently diverse.
Sanmao actually achieved those three points under the framework of seemingly willful conditions. Writing is her unique skill and she leads a very interesting life. Her maverick temperament and works have influenced the spiritual life of a whole generation, and she can still feel the fun, beauty, care and warmth of her world until now. These are her values.
No matter what kind of life, a life that meets these three points is a meaningful and fulfilling life.