Why is this? In our opinion, the advantages or disadvantages of college students' marriage need to be comprehensively measured from three aspects: individuals, schools and society.
(1) First of all, from a personal point of view.
1) The primary task of college students is to study hard scientific knowledge and master production skills. Getting involved in marriage prematurely will definitely have a serious impact on college students' study in time and energy, which is contrary to their fundamental duties.
2) Facing the employment problem, enterprises choose talents, and marriage has become a burden for college students. Which enterprise doesn't want the newly recruited college students to be hard-working talents, those good young people who care about their families can get good comments from the society, but they may not be accepted by enterprises.
3) It is not only a question of employment, but also an unknown whether the marriage of college students can stand the test of society after entering the society. If you get married and divorce after graduating from college, it will do immeasurable harm to college students' body and mind.
(2) Secondly, from the perspective of the school.
1) Universities have three functions: teaching, scientific research and social service, but the fundamental task of universities is to cultivate talents. Campus marriage will inevitably lead to changes in the functions of universities, which is contrary to the fundamental tasks of universities.
2) Universities advocate academic and cultural atmosphere. Too many marriages and families enter universities, which will definitely affect the learning atmosphere of universities and transform universities from academic educational institutions into residential areas.
3) At the same time, too many marriages and families in universities will also bring new problems to the management of universities. An institution that originally only focused on academics and education had to consider how to deal with family problems.
(3) Third, from the social perspective.
1) The marriage of college students is also a challenge to the current social concepts and ethics, which will be opposed by the mainstream people at first.
2) At the same time, the marriage of college students aged between 18-22 will definitely bring greater pressure to the already tense population and social resources in China, which is also contrary to the current policy of late marriage and late childbearing in China.
3) While most college students are in a state of economic dependence, the economic pressure of the new family will be transferred to the families of both parents, which is unfavorable to the growth of the new family and the development of the original family.
To sum up, allowing college students to get married is the embodiment of the legalization and humanization of university management, but for the vast majority of college students, marriage brings more adverse effects to themselves, schools and society.
So we firmly believe that the disadvantages of college students' marriage outweigh the advantages. First, from a personal point of view.
College students, even if they don't have a legal marriage life, will try to live a marriage life, and the time of stealing chickens and dogs can be completely saved; Moreover, even without married life, many college students are not trying to learn scientific knowledge, but trying to master the skills of "human production" in various ways. On the surface, college students under this system hold a negative attitude towards marriage life, but in fact, they think that once conflicts arise, they may form a behavior habit of "stealing is very exciting". After entering the society, once there are all kinds of temptations, it is not an insurmountable psychological obstacle to naturally gain benefits from the dark side again because of the sneaking inertia before.
In fact, it is easy for newly graduated college students to look down on their talents, be dissatisfied with the current work situation, and even more unwilling to gain career achievements through the accumulation of time. So job-hopping is quite common, and it takes a lot of investment to train a skilled worker in some industries. Once this happens, they will be punished at most, but they will lose their human resources for sustainable development. Being bound by family can change a little monkey's temper by leaps and bounds to some extent. For those scum who abandon their families, it is not within the scope of debate.
Marriage can't stand the test, on the one hand, it is a problem of social environment, on the other hand, it is a problem of the marriage subject itself. If they have their own problems, even if they are tied together with ropes, they cannot guarantee the safety of their marriage after graduation; The social environment is not a personal problem, but is subject to personal cultivation. In fact, the marriage relationship formed from college years can form positive habits conducive to marriage stability to a considerable extent. It's natural to get used to it.
The school's management of students' marriage problems is a manifestation of inaction; Not all adults who enter the society can get married soon, so why force every college student to have a marital status? Those who can get married, those who can't get married, those who can't get married, or wild mandarin ducks, aren't these the status quo of university campuses? What needs to be changed?
Some people may question how to solve the problem of collective accommodation in universities. This is much simpler. There were so many people in the school, but some people lived together and some wanted to disturb them. For students who are married, instead of providing standard accommodation, they can use expensive single-rent houses instead, which can also increase their income. Of course, the school will be willing to turn it into another real estate opening cause, which is of great benefit to the gross national product. Some students are dissatisfied with the high cost of renting a house alone, but you can't get married without money, and you can't get married without money when you enter the society. ...
What the society questions more is not the marriage life of college students, but the fact that college students live a worse life than pigs and dogs with state subsidies, without the demeanor of the future pillars of the country. People in society can't spend every day in bed when they get married, so how can we see that college students will be extravagant and wasteful every day after they get married? People who are arrogant and extravagant are never owned by any social group, but are the * * * nature of political groups.
The main source of population pressure in China is that most people's social activities are of low quality (that is, bluffing, making money, and being hypocritical). ), but the birth of a large number of newborns on the university campus will inevitably bring a qualitative leap to the overall quality of the next generation, which is better than not finding a job after graduating from college and the last child not going to kindergarten. From the most basic point of view, isn't the prenatal education that the baby receives countless times better than the fetus with great social pressure?
Family factors, don't worry. Most people who can afford to go to college to get married should belong to the middle class or above, and they may all be children of elite groups such as civil servants. They have no economic problems, and the offspring born in advance occupy more resources. Starving most untouchables early will also be of great benefit to the take-off of the whole country.
Damn, it's so reasonable ... It's a pity that I didn't have the money to get married when I was in college.