I have met some eloquent people before. At that time, I thought it was their talent and didn't seriously consider the relationship between eloquence and good and evil. Later, I met some practitioners who were patient and taciturn. I felt that their spiritual realm was very different. Until one day, I saw the last sentence of Laozi in the Tao Te Ching: "The way of a saint is to fight for it", and I suddenly felt suddenly enlightened. Yes, rhetoric is actually not the real thing, and it is the highest realm of life practice to endure humiliation and not argue. The phrase "A good man does not argue, but a bad debater" comes from Tao Te Ching? Chapter 81, the original text is: good words are not beautiful, and no one believes them. Good people don't argue, and debaters are not good. Those who know don't know, those who know don't know. It means that honest words are not necessarily beautiful, and beautiful words are not necessarily honest. Good people in the world are not glib, and those who have a glib tongue are not necessarily good people. Smart people are not necessarily knowledgeable, and knowledgeable people are not necessarily really smart. The practice of life lies in doing, not arguing. There is no need to argue every day, and you may not be able to argue every day. All the truth and the right path can only be truly understood if you really practice with your heart. Confucius in The Analects of Confucius? Liren said, "A gentleman speaks slowly and moves quickly." In The Analects of Confucius? "Xue Ji" also said: "A gentleman doesn't think about eating enough, and he doesn't think about peace. He is sensitive to things and speaks carefully. " . From this perspective, we should talk less and do more in life, which is exactly the same as Confucius and Laozi. Therefore, whether it is the practice of life or general social activities, everything should be down-to-earth, and we can't just say beautiful words without practical actions.

On second thought, a kind and capable person does not need to argue with others, nor will he just prove himself right in words. Even in the face of slander or personal attacks, he can prove his innocence with actions. People who submit to humiliation and don't argue often bury themselves in their work. He must have a heart of not competing with the world. On the contrary, those who argue with others every day are not really capable people. Although they show their abilities everywhere when arguing with others, truly kind people don't need to win the approval of others with rhetoric, and empty talk without practical actions will accomplish nothing.

When you are alive, stay away from talking and don't judge others; Treat people sincerely, be kind to others, and endure humiliation without arguing when encountering hardships. This is what a gentleman does.