In recent years, the word "Xiong Haizi" has frequently appeared in the media. The children in the news are noisy, unruly and ill-bred. It seems that he suddenly changed from a flower of the motherland to a bear Haizi that everyone hates. Some people press the emergency brake button of the elevator in the shopping mall, some people have a drinking party in the high-speed tunnel, some people play mobile games to brush away their parents' hard-earned money, some people run around in various public places, some people destroy exhibits in the exhibition hall, and some people are bullying on campus. Recently, on the high-speed train, a man couldn't accept it because several children were noisy in the carriage and reminded their parents to take care of it. The parents of the child not only ignored the child, but also thought that the reminder was too much and beat the eyes of the reminder with blood. The public opinion field immediately became lively, followed by fierce debates, such as excuses such as "Why are you angry with the child when he is still young", denunciations such as "It's a shame, the child really needs batting practice", and attribution such as "Xiong Haizi's parents are behind him".
A person's personality is closely related to his family atmosphere. From this perspective, it makes sense to attribute "Xiong Haizi" to "Bear's parents". Family style affects family education, which shapes personality. In A Dream of Red Mansions, Jia Mu said, "Children of people like you and me, because of their quirks, have to pay formal gifts when they meet strangers. If he doesn't reciprocate, he won't be allowed to play tricks. Even adults love him ... if he just doesn't care about anything and doesn't win glory for adults, he should be killed by how he was born. " On the other hand, the parents of "Xiong Haizi" are either unprincipled doting on their children, even if the children cry at the top of their lungs in public, they will boast that "you are great, you must be a singer in the future"; Either you are mentally immature, or you are a "baby", and you often "can't say anything about the pain" and "want to hug", so you can't discipline your child.
Some netizens said, "It's terrible to think that parents don't have to take the exam." Some media also suggested setting up a "parent class" so that parents who have passed the study and passed the examination can "work with certificates". Although the starting point of this suggestion is good, it may be difficult in practice: it is still difficult for experts to reach an agreement on the concept of parenting. Who is qualified to teach? Do parents have the time and willingness to participate, and will there be an embarrassing scene of talking to themselves in the end? What should I do for parents who have failed the exam repeatedly? These problems involve all aspects of society and need detailed and complicated argumentation.
Look at school education again. An old-fashioned problem, compared with intellectual education and physical education, moral education lacks corresponding quantitative indicators. It can neither be used as the assessment content of helping several grandmothers cross the street in a day, nor can it be more frequent than seeing who can find money. Under the baton of enrollment rate, the school seems to turn a blind eye to the lack of moral education, which is the most cost-effective choice. So in some schools, even if there is school bullying, it is only a simple criticism and education. Under the background of attaching importance only to grades but not to morality, moral education in some schools has really become the knowledge point of this unit of "Reciting and Memorizing" in ideological and moral courses.
In the cultivation of "Xiong Haizi", the school also played a role in fueling the flames.
If family education and school education are lacking in moral education, but the concept of "bear" is not instilled in children, then who instilled the concept of "bear"?
Let's start with entertainment. There are various ways and entertainment places for adults to relieve stress: about three or five friends play board games, go to KTV to sing, go to the gym to sweat, and even occasionally choose a hangover to vent. On the other hand, children seem to be the only way to get rid of troubles through play. Urban planners and builders seem to have forgotten the nature of children. How many cities have children's palaces either become useless furnishings or become the world of various extracurricular cram schools? In the city where land is precious, there are fewer and fewer places where children can play and play football freely, and cicadas, grasshoppers and mantises related to nature are gradually coming out of people's sight. Fortunately or unfortunately, there are still Internet and TV in this era. No matter whether it is a mobile game or an animation, there is no shortage of violent scenes and shots. At this moment, children's powerful imitation ability seems to have found a foothold, so when the news of children stealing money to play games or burning their companions appears, the accusation of public opinion seems to have new objects and new connotations.
In any case, we should admit the fact that "Xiong Haizi" was not born, but was taught. On the surface, parents, schools and society should be educators, but they are often absent; It is this strange situation that let other unprofessional "educators" such as the entertainment circle take over, which makes the appearance of "Xiong Haizi" unreasonable, but reasonable-the emotions and expectations of family, school and society will not naturally turn into the gentle and well-behaved reality of children, and only through teaching can we reap the fruits. Like the highest ladder, it is useless to build the wrong wall.
Finally, I returned to Xiong Haizi himself. "Bear" is one of children's natures, and it is children's exploration and cognition of the outside world. What naughty children enjoy can be regarded as an exploration of the outside world. "Bear" is not terrible. What is terrible is that without guidance and education, children are left with "bear". What is even more frightening is that because children are sensitive and lack discrimination, they are easily influenced by labels posted by adults. Once they identify themselves as "Xiong Haizi" in their minds, they may never accept other settings. The child brought up in this way, in the words of the monk, "Look at him after ten years"-I'm afraid it's hard to get back-from this perspective, "Xiong Haizi" itself is the victim of the public opinion label.
The call for "saving children" issued by Mr. Lu Xun a hundred years ago is still of practical significance. What we want to save is not only children, but also ourselves, which is the foreseeable future of this society.