Studying abroad is something that China people yearn for. Students and parents have beautiful dreams before studying abroad. Everyone has different conditions and different choices, but no matter which choice, they will encounter some basic problems, which is a severe test of students' and parents' attitudes towards life and even a painful choice.

One is money.

This problem is easy to understand, but not easy to master. Because of the state's foreign exchange control, most students' tuition and living expenses are given to students at one time, and rich people will give them a lot. Students lack self-control and often show off. Getting rich leads to disaster, and some even lose their lives. The working class will use the least expenses to calculate their annual expenses, and even use the income of students' part-time jobs to calculate. It's called training children, but it's actually very difficult to master proper limit. Students who have just arrived abroad are faced with the change of environment and the pressure of life and study, and try their best to make money by working. Therefore, they get sick easily, and there are many examples of physical collapse. Some parents are smart, but they have no practical experience in living abroad. They can only estimate their annual expenses according to hearsay, and add a certain proportion to prevent extra-budgetary expenses or insurance in case of emergency. However, students have no experience in financial management, and even go hungry, so it is difficult to plan their spending for half a year or even a year, let alone people who spend money indiscriminately. There is a very good parent who basically and accurately estimated the annual expenses, plus a 40% insurance factor, and gave the money to the students. He should be careful and leave room. This good student is very obedient. After paying the tuition, he will take good care of the rest of the money and go out to work. When he is on vacation, he will buy presents for his parents and friends. After returning home, his parents asked him how much money he had left. The student replied, no, the parents wondered, one year was safe, there was no accident, and at least 20% of the money was left to buy insurance. Where did the money go? The student replied that the flowers were divided monthly, which made the parents laugh and cry. In the second year, the students clap their chests to ensure that as long as they pay the basic expenses, there is no need to add the insurance factor. Before the holiday, parents asked if they had bought a return ticket. The students faltered and burst into tears. The reason is that the future work income is listed in the air ticket expenditure in advance. During the exam, I was physically and mentally exhausted, so it was difficult to take care of both the exam and work. Naturally, there is no way to go home, and even eating has become a problem. How to make an appropriate plan for the cost of studying abroad in the next few years is also a test for parents. These expenses include normal expenses, or accidents, or the need to extend the study time. If parents leave enough room, they can rely on enough reserves to get out of trouble immediately. I have met several parents, and they have given little consideration to the time needed to study abroad or change their major or school, leaving no room. Time is money. Over time, the family's financial resources are difficult to cope with, and students can only drop out of school. Some went to school for several years and found that their families were short of financial resources or their majors were not right, so they took the initiative to return to China. Parents use RMB to calculate the money for studying abroad, while students use local currency to spend, which involves the exchange rate and how to take the money abroad. In addition to exchange losses, there are also security considerations, such as money orders, traveler's checks, foreign currency cash or wire transfers. Money is the lifeblood of studying abroad, and how to master it is more important.

The second is emotion.

It is no longer necessary for a kind-hearted mother to make clothes for her wayward son, but emotional communication is hard for parents and students to give up. In modern society, children travel far and there are many communication devices for emotional communication, which are many times stronger than before. However, when using MSN Messager, it is often disconnected, and international calls are too expensive. I hope the cost of G3 mobile phone can be reduced. When meeting in the airport lobby, students and parents often feel some unexpected changes, and the time makes people change. If you have to go back to China for rest every winter and summer vacation, it is not conducive to contact with the local society, nor can you work to make money, which is out of touch with the local education model. If you can't meet outside for a long time, the pain of lovesickness will torture people's hearts. Whenever there is a natural or man-made disaster abroad, we can tighten the nerves of the domestic people until we confirm that it has nothing to do with our own people. Students often learn to hide themselves, fail exams or have feelings that you may never know. There was a bad student who was expelled from school and asked his parents for tuition on time every year. Parents who want to know about students and local conditions can only listen to hearsay or search online. The local foreign characters block the sight of many parents. Studying abroad is often the family's most important investment, not only the economic investment, but also the family's hope for the future. For such an important investment, you can't keep abreast of its changes like investing in stocks. You know very little, mostly from students, and students often ask their parents in an evasive way. There is an inevitable contradiction between paying attention to major investments and mastering personal privacy or future destiny. Students are friendless abroad and have no one to talk to when they encounter difficulties. Distant relatives can't understand these difficulties, and it is even more difficult to help them. If they can't relieve themselves, they may have mental illness. Strong personality and loneliness tolerance are factors that must be considered besides financial resources. If you successfully get a diploma, work permit or even permanent resident status, the emotional problem will be more prominent. In life, there are several key stages to make decisions, such as marriage, work, housing and so on. These choices must be made in the appropriate space. Is the choice of this space domestic or foreign? It is also related to the purpose of going abroad. Is the purpose clear? If students want to emigrate, parents and children will be separated for a long time. Even if you get a visit visa, time is limited. In places where the language is unreasonable and the environment and diet are very different, parents' adaptability to foreign countries will be tested again. Faced with so many choices and tests, different understandings and abilities make different choices, and contradictions are inevitable. A big contradiction will hurt feelings, and handling it well is a test of ability and a challenge to life attitude. Parents often have to make greater sacrifices, and the poor can't stand the wind.

The third is the future.

It is not enough to have a diploma. A better life is a sign of success. Where is the future? When you graduate immediately, you are faced with life choices such as work, housing and marriage, just like domestic college students are faced with the same problems when they graduate, but before making these choices, there is another question of space choice, that is, domestic or foreign? The difference of national and urban development level leads to the significant difference of public service level. Usually, people choose to move from areas with low public service levels to areas with high service levels, such as migrant workers moving to cities or developing countries moving to developed countries. The average annual income of workers in various countries is also an important reference index. China, China, high-income areas, about 20,000 RMB, can be converted into 3,000 US dollars, 40,000 US dollars in the United States and Britain, 30,000 US dollars in Australia and Japan, and 20,000 US dollars in Singapore and Hong Kong. The salary just graduated from college can basically get the average salary or slightly lower. China people are good at saving. After deducting the local living expenses, they can save the remaining half or one third. So can domestic graduates. Choosing a country to study abroad has obvious advantages. There is also the issue of marriage. As the old saying goes, having similar life backgrounds makes it easier to communicate, understand and integrate. If you find a foreign spouse, you will not say hello to your parents when you enter the door. Parents should be psychologically prepared. When you are employed abroad, the first problem you encounter is discrimination, racial discrimination or birthplace discrimination. When you meet an Asian, you should first ask whether you are Japanese or Hong Kong. If you come from Chinese mainland, you will have a contemptuous expression. In the long run, until you feel numb, the more direct consequence is that it is more difficult to find a job and the salary is lower than that of the locals. Even if you get permanent residence status, there are still many gaps between medical pension insurance, housing security and citizens, which is equivalent to putting you on the starting line of inequality from the legal system and increasing the difficulty of success. Once again, you face the deep-seated problem of space choice. The major choice in life is to retain China nationality and become an overseas Chinese or to join the nationality of the country of residence and become a foreign Chinese. Some time ago, there was a heated discussion about entertainment stars joining foreign countries, and some even cursed betrayal. According to the laws of People's Republic of China (PRC), joining a foreign nationality is a legal act based on the principle of individual voluntariness, and there is no betrayal, just as we can't accuse migrant workers of fighting for urban hukou. Most developed countries in the world recognize or acquiesce in dual citizenship, and even developing countries with large populations such as India and Indonesia have begun to recognize dual citizenship. Although tens of millions of overseas Chinese are eager to retain China nationality or have dual nationality, the China government believes that not recognizing dual nationality is more in line with China's national conditions. People's Republic of China (PRC) SAR grants visa-free treatment to about 170 countries and regions in the world, but passport holders of the People's Republic of China still need to obtain an entry visa to enter Hong Kong. There are few visa-free countries in China, which is a difficult problem to solve at present. If you become a foreign Chinese, you need to get a Chinese visa to go home, and the length of time to go home is determined by the national embassy or consulate abroad. The development of returning to China is also restricted to a certain extent. To some extent, you are caught between abroad and home. Of course, successful people are rarely bound and troubled by such problems. As an ordinary person, a person looking for his future, you must know something about his future and play a greater potential than domestic college students in order to succeed.